Married man diagnosed with HIV

[Gman49]

Well, where do I start... I was diagnosed since Dec 2010 and I am still taken how my like have changed. First, I am grateful to have a loving and understanding wife that loves me unconditionally in spite of me disrupting our 29+ years of marriage.

She has been the epitome of a carrying and supporting soul mate that I can ever have. I am forever grateful to have her by my side.

Now me, I played around and made sure i played safe, however i allow myself to become self righteous that I thought I was untouchable and now I today I am HIV+ at the age of 49 and will be 50 in about a couple of weeks.

I have been visiting the forum since I was diagnosed and received so much great insights from various participates that have provided their beginning stages of their HIV diagnosed and their  day to day progress, however I was so ashamed of what I have done that it took me a long time post onto the forum.

Since my diagnosed, my CD4 count has always been between  427 to 532 and my VL counts has always been <50 to <20  (undetectable). Presently, I am apart of NIH research program which go every three months for blood work and now the researchers are testing my white blood cells. The researchers are amazed of the  results that it is breath taken. I am grateful to God that I have never had any symptom of any flu type illness that results with HIV+ individuals.

Since I have been HIV+, I have visited my primary doctor and visited an infectious specialist. Even though my CD and VL was okay, my infectious Dr put me on Atripla. I have been on Meds since 18 March 11. Between visiting NIH Researcher and the Infectious Dr, my counts merely are the same.

Which brings me to the questions about being undetectable. I am very passionated about pleasing my wife sexually, however I have to use condoms which is not my favorite. What does undetectable really means. Please help me to understand....

[Basquo]

Welcome, Gman. Sorry you're in the situation you're in but I'm glad you found your way here. Maybe you didn't do what you needed to protect yourself before, but now it's time to do what you need to do to protect your wife, and that means safer sex, including condoms when the situation calls for it. I myself am a viremic controller, with low-to-undetectable viral loads, but even so I have to take care of my HIV-negative partner. I don't much like condoms, but I use them when I need to and find alternatives if they aren't agreeing with me.

Undetectable means the current tests are not measuring any virus in your blood. It does not mean that the fluids coming out of your johnson are the same. Unprotected intercourse is always a risk for the receptive partner. If you want to keep her negative (and I assume she's been tested) then keep it wrapped up when you take the plunge, or plunge face-first instead. It always works for me!

Best,
Creighton

[Gman49]

Basquo,

Thank you for responding to my inquiring.  My wife tested negative each time where I am forever grateful that she is.  We practice safe sex always and I definitely want to keep it that way. I have ask the researchers to test my reproduction fluid but i have not receive any response on that matter yet. 

Do you know when I can go or inquire about getting my reproduction fluid checked for the virus?  One more thing, I will continue to wrap it before I plunge it.  I don't been to be stupid, but what is "plunge face-first".  Please educate me.  I am still new and green at this.

Gman

[Gman49]

Basquo,

Please excused my grammar, I was typing too fast and forgot to make my corrections before posting.


Correction----below
Thank you for responding to my inquiring question. Also, do you know and anyone on the forum know where I can go to inquire about getting my production fluid checked?

Gman

[spacebarsux]

Hi Gman,

Sorry to hear about your diagnosis but welcome to the forums  .

It's great that you have a loving and caring wife. That's going to make living with HIV so much easier.

Once your viral load is and remains undetectable on your blood tests, the risk of passing the virus to your HIV negative partner is greatly reduced but the risk is not eliminated. If it were me, I'd wrap up before having sexual intercourse.

I think what Creigton meant by 'plunge face first' is maybe try giving oral sex to your partner but continue to use condoms for penetrative sex.

Best

[Basquo]

I think what Creigton meant by 'plunge face first' is maybe try giving oral sex to your partner but continue to use condoms for penetrative sex.

That's exactly what I meant 

[Gman49]

HIV+ Family

I have not posted in awhile, but still gleaming and receiving so much information and insist from the forum. I personally want to thanks everyone that contributed information to the HIV+ family and especially myself.

Well since I was diagnosed HIV+ (Dec 2010) but not confirmed until 22 Feb 2011,  I have never been sick or have any flu type symptoms. Note:  i am a physical fit guy.  Also, I have been on meds:  Atripla directed by my ID since 18 March 11.  My CD4 count ranged from 446 to 515 (presently) and my VL has been undetectable from the beginning of this ordeal. Most of all I am grateful to God for having mercy on me.

Since my diagnosed, my wife is still negative and I wrap up when we are intimacy with each other.  My question is, should I get tested again under an aisle name to validated my condition?   

[zach]

  nope, you're poz

keep taking your meds, keep using condoms

[Gman49]

Definitely, I hear you loud and clear!  I'm real anal about my Meds and keeping my wife negative.

[marc123]

hey GMan I'm in a similar situation actually very similar I would very much like to write with you let me know if you interrested Marc123

[Gman49]

Please feel free to contact me. I sent you a personal msg with my personal email address