a risk or safe sex?

[titi]

Hi there , i had to two occasion sex happening in a sauna with some guys there . We had oral sex both giving and receiving after that we have anal intercourse with a condom on . I was a top . At the end we just masterbate to finish off the whole course .
I am sure the condom never break and so i take out the condom and go into the shower room to fill it with water just to make sure it never leak or got holes or something . The condom is fine cause the water inside it never leak out .
What worry me is that i don't know what type of quality condom is that cause it was provided by the sauna house. When i feel the condom it is just like a rubber latex type if im not wrong .
What if the condom is not a good brand or a quality type and it will allow the Hiv virus to get into it to infect me .
I was also worry that when i blow him quite rough that time my mouth is full with saliva so i have to swallow it a bit . What if my saliva is contaminated with his u know " precum type" and i swallow it . Anyway he never cum inside my mouth . I believe there must be some precum around . I  also believe my mouth is fine with no ulcer or anything like cut if im not wrong .

He also blow me hard and we had a very rough and deep kissing too . After that when i went home just a few hour later i had sour throat and is getting worse . The next day i had slightly fever and cough .
Im a bit scare and worry now.
Can anyone please tell me am i at risk ? Or i will be fine . Thanks

[Andy Velez]

Hi there , i had to two occasion sex happening in a sauna with some guys there . We had oral sex both giving and receiving after that we have anal intercourse with a condom on . I was a top . At the end we just masterbate to finish off the whole course .
I am sure the condom never break and so i take out the condom and go into the shower room to fill it with water just to make sure it never leak or got holes or something . The condom is fine cause the water inside it never leak out .
What worry me is that i don't know what type of quality condom is that cause it was provided by the sauna house. When i feel the condom it is just like a rubber latex type if im not wrong .
What if the condom is not a good brand or a quality type and it will allow the Hiv virus to get into it to infect me .
I was also worry that when i blow him quite rough that time my mouth is full with saliva so i have to swallow it a bit . What if my saliva is contaminated with his u know " precum type" and i swallow it . Anyway he never cum inside my mouth . I believe there must be some precum around . I  also believe my mouth is fine with no ulcer or anything like cut if im not wrong .

He also blow me hard and we had a very rough and deep kissing too . After that when i went home just a few hour later i had sour throat and is getting worse . The next day i had slightly fever and cough .
Im a bit scare and worry now.
Can anyone please tell me am i at risk ? Or i will be fine . Thanks

You are worrying needlessly. The important thing is that used a condom for anal intercourse. Do that everytime and you will be well protected against HIV transmission. The condom provided for you was doubtlessly latex since they are the cheapest. And that is the kind you should be using.

Everything else that you are reporting -- kissing, sucking, getting sucked, are not risks for HIV. Your own saliva contains over a dozen elements and proteins which very effectively prevent HIV transmission. No guy has ever been confirmed to have been infected by getting a blowjob no matter what the details of the experience. You are not going to make history by becoming the first. Kissing is definitely not a risk either.

We do advise anyone who is sexually active to get a full STD panel done at least once a year because other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV.

There's no need for further concern about HIV nor for HIV testing over this latest incident.

[titi]

Thank you Andy .
I feel  relieve now .
But one thing is that my symptoms is haunting me like sore throat , cough , breathless and fever .
It just keep on bothering me and keeping me thinking this and that .
Is it something to do with the Hiv virus and is that true i really don't need to get test ( just to double confirm ).
Sorry i just want to be sure only and i have understand what you have trying to tell me from your reply.

[Ann]

titi,

You should do a whole panel of STI testing, including but not limited to hiv, not because you've been at risk for hiv - you have not been at risk for hiv - but because regular testing is what all responsible, sexually active adults do at least once a year.

Your sore throat etc could not possibly have anything to do with hiv. It came on way too quickly. The symptoms that SOMETIMES, not always, accompany hiv seroconversion take around two weeks to develop. Not hours, not days, WEEKS.

You've been doing what you need to in order to avoid hiv infection - you've been using condoms for anal intercourse. If you do test, I fully expect you to receive a negative result.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER ANY SPECIFIC THING YOU BRING TO US, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

[titi]

Thanks Ann
The latest second sex activity is just two days ago may be is too early for the symptoms to appear , but what about the first one i guess is about around 28 days ago will that one match up with the symptoms i have right now .

[Andy Velez]

Are you listening to anything we are saying to you? You didn't have a risk. Period.

As for symptoms, neither the presence nor the absence of symptoms should ever be the basis for knowing about HIV status. When there has been a real risk like unprotected intercourse, the only way to reliably know your status conclusive is with an HIV  test at 13 weeks past the incident.

Meantime you are worrying unnecesarily because you didn't have any risk. Period.