POZ Community Forums
HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: strengthneeded on October 15, 2006, 10:12:09 pm
-
I recently had sex with a girl who is a friend of mine. We had unprotected oral sex and then , because I am a complete and utter imbecile, I put myself inside her . I was in less than one minute, but it was unprotected. I pulled out and put a condom on and then we continued with sex. I am now very afraid because of my stupidity and because of what she revealed to me AFTER we finishedd having sex: She tells me she was treated for oral thrush, showed me a list in her small pad of guys she regularly sleeps with, must be about 30 names. She claims she uses condoms always but I figure if she allowed me in unprotected who is to say she did not with others. anyway, I do not mean to ramble..I hear I have to wait 13 weeks to be tested and that in that time I amy 'sero-convert' if I have caught Hiv. not sure if I am really asking anything, guess I just need to spount off my stupidity.
-
Any words of advice, information, comfort, ostracizing , etc.??
-
ok, so any words at all to help ??
-
Impatient little pisha, aren't you? We answer your questions when we get around to it. Not when you demand it. We're not paid to do this you know.
I recently had sex with a girl who is a friend of mine. We had unprotected oral sex and then , because I am a complete and utter imbecile, I put myself inside her . I was in less than one minute, but it was unprotected. I pulled out and put a condom on and then we continued with sex. I am now very afraid because of my stupidity and because of what she revealed to me AFTER we finishedd having sex: She tells me she was treated for oral thrush, showed me a list in her small pad of guys she regularly sleeps with, must be about 30 names. She claims she uses condoms always but I figure if she allowed me in unprotected who is to say she did not with others. anyway, I do not mean to ramble..I hear I have to wait 13 weeks to be tested and that in that time I amy 'sero-convert' if I have caught Hiv. not sure if I am really asking anything, guess I just need to spount off my stupidity.
I really don't think you have to be overly worried about this situation. HIV is not an easy virus to transmit, particularly from female to male. Nevertheless, HIV is also not something to guess about so you do need to test 13 weeks from the date of this encounter.
You need to understand that there are other STD's such as chlamydia and gonorrhoea, which are far more infectious and prevalent than HIV. All sexually active people should have a full STD screen at least twice a year. If it's been a while since your last STD screen or if you've not had one before you should probably make an appointment with your doctor or local clinic. A full STD screen includes an HIV antibody test.
One other thing, the responsibility for protecting yourself from STD's and HIV rests with you. Please take the time to read our Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=220.0) to learn more about how HIV is and is not transmitted.
MtD
-
strengthneeded,
Can I ask why you are using different usernames while posting to our forums? Thus far, you have also used whatdidIdo (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=1941.0)
Please realize that this kind of activity is disrespectful of other forum members, as well as our moderators. People spend a considerable amount of time helping others in these forums. Using multiple accounts is at the very least annoying, if not deceiving and disrespectful of others. It is also against our Terms of Membership (http://forums.poz.com/Terms.htm) which you agreed to when you became a member. This information is also contained within the Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=220.0), which you should have read by now. So really, you have no excuse.
You must realize that the answers won't change, no matter how many names you post under.
I would appreciate a reply to this message, and I hope you will commit to using just one account - preferably your original one. If not, you will be banned from further access to the forums.
Ann
-
ANN,
Reason I used this name is because I had forgotten the last name I used sorry..and well, this is a totally different scenario , with her having had oral thrush........oral thrush is assoc with hiv so this is why I posted again and need advoce, commentary....
-
strength,
Write your login details down this time and keep them safe for future use. If you create a third account here, you WILL be banned, no questions asked. OK?
You have had a risk, albeit a small one, and you should test. It's unlikely that you would have been infected through this brief episode, but the only way to know for sure is through testing.
You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection.
Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.
Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.
If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.
Ann
-
I hope this is not too stupid of a question but here goes.........
If I am correct that hiv 'symptoms' do not show up until at least 2-4 weeks, if they show at all, what other diseases can one get and have a sore throat within a few days of the encounter?
-
strength,
If you went down on her, there is the possibility of getting gonorrhea or chlamydia in your throat, although this is fairly rare from cunnilingus. If you're worried about that, get your throat swabbed.
Has it occured to you that you may just have a common variety of sore throat that people get at this time of year?
And yes, seroconversion symptoms, if they happen at all, take at LEAST two weeks to show up.
Ann
-
Ann,
ty for replying. I rarely get sore throats so I doubt it is a 'general' one. Also, she told me the guy she was with a few days before me told her he had gotten a sore throat after being with her as well...all he did was have mutual oral sex with her (she says).
-
Your risk was minimal in the incident you are concerned about. I have no real doubt that you will test negative.
Unfortunately right now you are practicing medicine on yourself without a license, which is very, very unhealthy to do. So you have a sore throat. And that's uncommon for you. Please believe me, that absolutely does not in any way equal HIV infection. No kidding.
You're (mis)interpreting everything that happens or doesn't happen now through HIV jitters mindset.
HIV is not an easy virus to transmit. It's very significantly harder to accomplish from female to male. Given a very brief and single incident such as you had, your testing negative is all but certain.
What you do have to learn from this experience is that you can have all the interourse you want to with as many partners as you like, and their HIV status is totally irrelevant. AS LONG AS YOU ALWAYS WEAR A LATEX CONDOM. Everytime. No exceptions and no excuses.
I expect you to come out of this ok. No kidding.
-
Andy,
ty for your words of comfort.
I have to say though that this is my 3 weeks past the sexual act and for the past 4 days I have had a low grade fever and headache.
-
And I have to remind that you that neither the presence nor the absence of symptoms will ever tell you anything accurately about your HIV status.
There is absolutely nothing about what you are reporting which is in any way HIV specific. Really.
Tell your mind to give it a rest. I still expect when the time comes to test that you will very likely test negative. I can't say more than that because only a test result can give you the real answer.
Stay busy during the waiting time and it will pass more quickly than you can imagine at this moment.
Cheers,
-
Helppppppp,
Oral thursh can be caused by many things... It is not just a symtom of HIV, but of Diabetes, use of anti-biotics, corticosteroids, not brushing, the list could truly go on and on!
-
Just found out she has swollen partoid gland....also she recently told me she is a coke user....any of this increase my risk////also forgot to mention I rimmed her...that increase the risk too?
-
All that you have added does not increase your risk. Unless she shot up coke and shared works.
-
thanks,.,and not from what she told me,,.,says she only sniffs it.
here is a stupid question...if she was on coke that day when we had sex would the coke have gone into my system?
-
Wait a minute are you still talking about the risk you had that you tested negative on? If so it not going to matter. You're negative.
-
rod,
I have not been tested yet.....
I wont be until next year,,jan or so
-
whatdidIdo
Offline
Posts: 5
Re: Very Frightened...Results not back yet??????
« Reply #7 on: July 24, 2006, 03:52:51 PM »
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
I would like to thank everyone for helping me. I received my results today and I tested Negative. I am so relieved, although I need to ask: I tested at approximately 16. DO I need to retest at 6 months just to be safe?
-
A negative result at 13 weeks or more is sufficient. You are HIV negative. Period. End of story.
Get on with your life and forget about any more testing.
Cheers,
-
That was a different encounter in which I was tested for...I was under that name 'whatdidIdo" but forgoet the password which is why I use this one now..I already cleared that up with Ann.
I have to be tested for this stupid encounter...
-
is it possible to get hiv from having a cut on the infger and having that finger inserted in the mouth of an infected person?
also, sorry for this question but is it not uncommon for chemicals in some condoms to irritate some guys?
-
No, you will not get infected by putting your finger in someones mouth that is infected. Yes some people to get irritations from anti sperm treated condoms.
-
I really think I have been infected now....I now have a slight rash, very dry peeling skin on my face.
-
You can think all you want that doesn't make it fact. What is fact is that you are HIV negative. See your doctor or a dermatologist for your other symptoms because they have nothing to do with HIV.
-
Rod,
I thank you very much for taking the time to reply to me but I do not know why you keep saying I am hiv negative. I mentioned that the post of mine you reposted was from a different encounter that I was tested for.
This is a new encounter.
-
Question:
If you take that PEP treatment within 72 hrs., for a month ,does that get rid of hiv?
Also,
I have a severe burning sensation in one nostril now. Is this common?
-
As others have been told. Read the lessons. You can find them in the Welcome thread. The very first post.
-
Strength,
It is highly unlikely that you would have become infected from this: I put myself inside her . I was in less than one minute
Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus and more so from a woman to a man. No doctor would agree to put you on PEP following this incident.
You're just going to have to sit tight, test at the three month point and collect your inevitable negative result.
Burning nostril? Nothing to do with hiv.
Ann
-
How accurate is ora-quick?
-
99.8%
Also..
There have not been any reports about this test giving false negatives. The problem is with false positives ONLY.
-
WOuld having sexual contact during the female's period period a bigger risk to catching hiv? 2 weeks past having sex with person on this (she tells me after we do it) and I have had diarrhea since sunday, low grade fever and general feeling of tiredness.
I never get diarrhea usually for more than a day....this is worrying me a lot...
Alos, does anoyne know if it is true that Pennsylvania food service workers must get tested every 6 months?
-
I dont know anything about pennsylvania food service people but I would think its unconstitutional for the state to MANDATE HIV testing for a particular group. The only one I know of regarding HIV is the PORN industry and THAT makes sense.
Now they MAY have to test for tuberculosis or something, but I dont see HIV testing as a mandantory thing.
Now, in regards to her period. She would have had to have been bleeding ALL OVER YOU like BUCKETS of it for there to be even a SLIGHT risk. SO NO, you are not in any more danger.
Good luck.
-
strength,
Did you use a condom, or were you having unprotected intercourse again?
If you used a condom, it doesn't matter if she was on her period or not. A condom will protect even in the presence of menstrual blood.
Ann
-
Ty AcinKC, and ANn,
Ann, yes a condom was used, but we were in the shower, it did slip off and I also had shaved myself down there prior to showering......
-
strength,
Shaving makes no difference. You used a condom, you had no risk.
Ann
-
Ann,
ty again, but as I said, it did slip off, not sure for how long I was still inside her while it was off. :(
-
strenght,
If you were inside her without a condom, then you need to test. You know the drill - three months for a conclusive result.
You might benefit from reading how to use condoms correctly by clicking on the links in my signature line.
Ann
-
Ann,
ty once again. I know , I need to test again...I know almost ceetainly I have got it this time...swolled nodes on my left side of my neck, low grade fever, and diarrhea and bit tired for the past 4 days.
Funny thing (sad really) is that i did not even want to have sex, and never did want it again...now I guess I have no choice anyway...
ty for all your replies....
-
Question:
These signs, aka the diarrhea and slight fever, etc that i am having seroconverting are they indicative of what and the severtiy of things I will go through in the future with this disease?
Also, after seroconverting will I be able to take the test soonner than the 13 weeks?
-
Wait on your test results. HIV has NO specific symptoms.
-
but will the test show that I have it right after I am seroconverting ?
-
How many times do you have to be told? The average time for seroconversion is 22 days, If you need to test at 6 weeks test and retest at 13 weeks to be conclusive.
-
22 days? The lessons sections says from 2 weeks on.......
-
2-4 weeks is the window period. During the window period you will receive a negative result. Please read the lessons found in the "Welcome" thread.
-
Rapidrod,
ty for replying...
This is from the lessons section>>>>>>>>>
In the period immediately after infection has taken place there aren't any specific symptoms. Within two to four weeks after exposure to HIV, a person might have flu-like symptoms such as fever, swollen glands, muscle aches, diarrhea, fatigue or rash. In rare instances they may occur within a few days after the exposure has taken place.
It has been 2 weeks and I have had some of those symptoms for the past 5 days....this is i why I say I am seroconverting.
Can I test next week or do I have to wait after 4-6 weeks to test?
-
Again HIV does NOT have any SPECIFIC symptoms. A test at 6 weeks might give you an idea what your 13 week will be, but you must test at 13 weeks to get your conclusive results.
-
Diarrhea one day then not able to go to the bathroom for 3-4 days then diarrhea again. :(
-
Your bowel movements have nothing to do with HIV. I'm positive and I didnt experience any of your symptoms.
-
I was supposed to get tested in April, which would have been my 13th week. I have been too afraid to do so. I will do it this month. My question is, can a rash develop about 18 weeks past risky behaviour? I have a rash on my upper right back that looks like a rash/bruise.
-
You should keep all your additional thoughts, comments and questions in your original thread. (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=4829.msg103676#msg103676) This helps us follow your story and give you accurate advice.
If you can't find your original thread, click on the "show own posts" link in the left hand column of any forums page.
Not only that but you should not be posting in poz only forums as you did here. (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=12177)
MtD
-
sorry, I made a new topic of THIS QUESTIONbut will post it here :::
: I was supposed to test last month at 13 weeks but have been too afraid, will test within a week, but I have a large rash on my back near my shoulder on one side, looks like rash/bruise. Is it possible to get a rash so far after possible exposure??
-
You can get a rash, cold, flu at anytime. That's why symptoms don't mean squat when in comes to HIV. HIV has no specific symptoms.
-
Keep all of your postings in this thread. I have merged your latest with previous.
And your anxiety does not excuse your posting in HIV positive Forums so control yourself or you will risk getting timed out or even banned.
How long are you going to torture yourself and hold off getting tested? Go in there with your knees knocking and quacking. You don't have to feel brave at the moment. The likelihood is you will test negative. Everything other than testing is just guessing and HIV is never something to guess about.
Keep us posted on your results.
Cheers,
-
I just want to add that some of what was saidon here about oral sex is incorrect. The CDC has reprted cases of HIV transmission from oral sex. I believe they said it is 8 cases.
-
Strength, you've been told before this to keep all of your entries in the same thread. That's our rule. You're on the verge of being banned.
None of the reported infections orally have been satisfactorily documented. You're one of the last people who should be giving out advice to anyone in this section. Don't do it again.
You've never reported whether you finally got yourself tested after the lengthy dramatics you staged here. Did you? And what was the result?
-
andy,
Sorry but I thought if it was a different subject a different thread would be needed. The cdc itself has said those cases are documented.
I did not give out advice to anyone. I only posted what the CDC said about oral transmission because I was reading a few people who were claiming that you can not get it that waya nd that it has never been documented.
-
You've never reported whether you finally got yourself tested after the lengthy dramatics you staged here. Did you? And what was the result?
Well, strength? Did you? And?