Author Topic: I am having issues (Read 4573 times)

Queen Tokelove · « **on:** November 20, 2006, 03:36:43 pm »

Hey Everyone,

I just need to vent for a few. If you have read previous posts from me including my Intro, you will see that I have always had issues with my older sisters. I don't know why the attacks even bother me anymore but they still do. It was so bad at one point that I could hardly go anywhere because someone would be telling me the shit they would be saying.

Fast forward to last night, Sunday. My youngest son came to visit me, he was concerned because my sister had told him I was dying. He already knew I was poz thanks to her but she told him after he moved out of my apartment that I had gotten ill and I'm dying. She also had to add in there that she would take care of me. WTF? Where does she get off telling my son some shit like that, I am infuriated. I convinved him I was ok and told him I have been poz for 9 yrs now. I even told him that I would probably outlive her. It just really burns me up cause all my life I've had to put up with her shit. And where does she get her information from, she just pulls the shit out of her ass. She has no clue how I am doing, I don't speak to either one of my sisters.

It just confirms that they are just waiting for me to die. Nice isn't it? To have sisters like mine, I definitely don't need any enemies. Thanks for listening to me rant....

ACinKC · « **Reply #1 on:** November 20, 2006, 03:40:17 pm »

Good luck honey! Id love to give some wise advice here, but family can be a bitch and it sounds like you got LOTS of family!

MSPspud · « **Reply #2 on:** November 20, 2006, 03:45:49 pm »

Well, the best revenge is success, so just outlive then and have the last laugh

ACinKC · « **Reply #3 on:** November 20, 2006, 03:46:36 pm »

Yeah but that sucks cause then the mother fuckers cant hear you laughin at em.

Queen Tokelove · « **Reply #4 on:** November 20, 2006, 03:49:24 pm »

Quote from: MSPspud on November 20, 2006, 03:45:49 pm

Well, the best revenge is success, so just outlive then and have the last laugh

Funny, I use that saying all the time. That's what I plan on doing. I know it prolly seems wrong but I have even prayed they would become infected, just so they could walk a mile in my shoes....I hate them!

thunter34 · « **Reply #5 on:** November 20, 2006, 03:57:35 pm »

Yikes. That sh!t was WAY out of line. What a crappy thing to do to your son as well. It would be one thing to just have an agenda against you, but she doesn't sound like she minds sacrificing your son's emotional & psychological well-being in the process. Now, that's cold.

Queen Tokelove · « **Reply #6 on:** November 20, 2006, 04:02:23 pm »

Thunter,

She has no fucking morals, man. She never cares how it affects anyone. My son's friend had said in front of her that he thought I was attractive, the bitch just couldn't resist saying, "You don't want her." My son got pissed and told her to shut up. It's like no one can pay me a compliment around her.

I think she wishes I was at the point that I was wasting away. I have had no problems of wasting. She needs to worry about her weight.

woodshere · « **Reply #7 on:** November 20, 2006, 04:23:19 pm »

Some people are just assholes. Unfortunately we can't pick our family, but we sure pick to ignore them or tell them to fuck off! And I think in your case you have every right!

aupointillimite · « **Reply #8 on:** November 20, 2006, 07:14:11 pm »

Spite them all. Outlive them.

If you don't mind my asking, if she's so spiteful towards you, why does your son see her? She sounds like she's trying to poison their minds and turn them against you... which is completely horrible.

Times like these always serve to remind me why that long-distance plan was called <i>Friends</i> and Family. They knew who you'd rather call first.

AlanBama · « **Reply #9 on:** November 20, 2006, 07:31:14 pm »

I feel for you honey. We can choose our friends, but not our family......but we can choose to IGNORE them.

No words of wisdom from me on this one, I am lucky and consider myself blessed to have wonderful siblings, and we love each other.

Good luck,

hugs - Alan

Longislander · « **Reply #10 on:** November 20, 2006, 07:49:46 pm »

Your sister sounds like she's one of those people taht is so miserable in her own world, and she wants everyone else to eb miserable too. She's just mean.

Take it from where it comes. Then throw it away!

Paul

thunter34 · « **Reply #11 on:** November 20, 2006, 07:58:12 pm »

What's that old John Mellencamp line? Oh, yeah....

"Well, some people ain't no damn good..."

It sounds like your sister is the one who is wasting- from the inside out. Love how she added that she would take care of you, considering how much TLC she's throwing your way right now. Oh- and I also caught that part about how she disclosed your status in the first place. I'm also wondering why your son maintains contact with her. And has it always been like this between you, or did it turn this way over time?

Whew! Like AlanBama, it makes me appreciate my sisters all anew. They're gold.

cjc · « **Reply #12 on:** November 20, 2006, 08:20:47 pm »

hey, sorry your sister is giving you grief. It's hard enough to deal with this without people telling your business and bringing you down. Try to ignore her and surround yourself with as much love as you can. Hope it gets better. Cristy

Queen Tokelove · « **Reply #13 on:** November 20, 2006, 08:44:38 pm »

Because of my darling sisters, I have issues with disclosure, trust, and a million other things. My sister ended up with my son thru a court battle. I tried to tell them how she was but they just thought I was mud slinging when I was simply stating fact. In the beginning she had tried to brain wash him against me but now that he has gotten older he is starting to see her for what she is......a bitch...but in his words a loser.

My family has always been dysfunctional since as far back as I can remember. I envy those of you who have family that loves you and genuinely cares about you. I have my best friend who is like a sister to me, I haven't even told her my status but she knows of the mean things they have said in the past. It's sad because I would like to be in the open about it with others but past mistakes in trusting people have made me clam up tighter than a virgin's ass.

It's kind of sad because I met someone online thru the personals who is neg and seems to genuinely like me but it's hard for me to trust anyone anymore. He also lives in Ontario, Canada but trying to get close to me despite it all. I'm so confused, I don't know what to do...Any advice?

Eldon · « **Reply #14 on:** November 20, 2006, 09:53:43 pm »

Hey Queen,

It is very disturbing to hear that your sister even had the notion to tell your son about your HIV status. It is unfortunate that they are acting as though they are your adversaries rather than your supporting biological relatives.

Have you ever approached her and asked her why she was so "spiteful to you"? Is there some jealousy involved here? What gives her the right to interact in your life in this manner? A good wholesome heart-to-heart talk with her will do wonders for this situation.

State your case to her and make it crystal clear to her where you are coming from so that there are no further misunderstandings.

I am sending you my BEST wishes that this situation resolves itself and come to some sort of closure.

Make the BEST of each Day!

Queen Tokelove · « **Reply #15 on:** November 20, 2006, 10:07:54 pm »

Eldon,

My sister has been spiteful towards me since I was a teenager. I was not raised with other siblings, I was adopted when I was 12 and got back with biological family a few years later. According to her, her beef is that my mother treated her lighter skinned kids better than her darker ones. I don't know about that because I do not remember much about my childhood. I think I blocked it out because the only thing I seem to remember from my childhood is being taken from my mother and placed in foster homes.

I have tried to turn the other cheek with her a dozen times but it always ends up the same. My sister will talk about the devil if it makes her look good. I have washed my hands of her and my other sister, the best thing they can do is wash their hands of me instead of always talking about me. It is a lost cause.....I need a new family, wanna adopt me? I'm housebroken.....

Eldon · « **Reply #16 on:** November 20, 2006, 10:20:52 pm »

Hey Queen,

I wasn't too far off about your sister. Yes, in some cases there comes a time where you have to wash your hands due to the fact that she has chosen to be the way she is. Some folk are set in their ways of thinking and it is a compulsive bad habit.

Part of your family is right here and we do care and we are here to encourage you as you go through this transitional phase in our life.

Focus on your Meditation for "clarity" and "direction".

Make the BEST of each Day!

allopathicholistic · « **Reply #17 on:** November 20, 2006, 11:11:37 pm »

Quote from: Eldon on November 20, 2006, 10:20:52 pm

Part of your family is right here and we do care and we are here to encourage you

Hear hear. Sweet Queen, WE HAVE ADOPTED YOU

aztecan · « **Reply #18 on:** November 20, 2006, 11:38:55 pm »

Akasha honey, you've already been adopted - by me and the others here.

So, you know what I would do, were I you?

Outlive them, then go to their funerals in a red dress. Bright red!

HUGS,

Uncle Mark

Longislander · « **Reply #19 on:** November 20, 2006, 11:53:46 pm »

Let me be the first to claim our baby's tax deductibility for 2006!!!

Seriously Queen, we're all here for you, night and day.

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