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Author Topic: Was I at risk?  (Read 284 times)

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Offline Shirtguy08

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Was I at risk?
« on: November 18, 2021, 01:33:19 pm »

I happen to find this forum site and hope to find some clarity/knowledge about my risk that I had 3 months ago. Im a male and never had sex before nor do anything involves with sex.

My buddies decided to take me to a massage place to get me a “massage” as my bachelor party. The lady strictly said no sex to my friend while I was in the room. At this point I was nervous as never did such act. The lady ask me to take off mh clothes and lay on my back. As I laid on my back I felt maybe her fingernail or small pricks of some sort, very fast. She turned me over and said my friends paid for handjob only and no sex. I pretty much gave and received a handjob only with lub.

What got me worried is after my wedding about 6 weeks later I came down with a cold, not sure but a few of my friends did get sick after as well. Maybe from a child friend who wasnt feeling well the day of.

Of course a bunch of what ifs came up and load behold I google stuff. My questions I hope to gain some knowledge if I was at risk or not:

1) I don't know why but i keep thinking maybe the massage lady prick me with a needle on the back. I don't know much about needle pricks but from another forum said it needs to be in vein to be risk or jammed into me hard?

2) Is receiving a handjob with no jobs with lub safe at all? I did of course ending it with her barehands.

3)This incident took place this year Aug 16 and I took a in-home test Oraquick Oral test Nov 15 so 90-91 days after and it was negative at C line only. I don't know what made look more into this test but some say its not a reliable test or is it? Im confused with the window period thing. Am i ok to take it 90/91 days or have to keep waiting for this test to be conclusive?

I’m sorry if I asked a lot of questions, I hope to gain some knowledge of my risk exposures.

Thank you

Offline Jim Allen

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Re: Was I at risk?
« Reply #1 on: November 18, 2021, 01:40:14 pm »

You had no HIV risk. This has been explained to you in full, move on with your life.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Continue using PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards


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