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Offline easynowlondon

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Recent risk and seroconversion symptoms
« on: November 12, 2021, 06:31:04 am »
Hello everyone.

I'm sure you field these sorts of questions all the time, but I'm a little concerned (and, may I add, prone to excessive worrying).

At a bachelor party at the end of September, I hooked up with a friend of a friend (we're both gay). I was very drunk at this point, and we made out and his penis applied pressure to my anus for a few seconds. There may have been anal tears present as I wiped a bit too vigorously around seven hours prior to our encounter. I don't remember being penetrated (I feel I would know if this had happened?), but I do remember saying "no, no, no" and he moved away; I very rarely partake in penetrative sex (it's been years).

I contemplated PEP the next day, and asked the said guy if we had penetrative sex. He firmly and clearly said no. They only administer PEP in the UK if you've had unprotected penetrative sex. Around three weeks later, I developed a bit of a sore throat; gland was swollen on one side, and it hurt when I swallowed. Other than that, I was still going to work, working out and just taking painkillers. The sore throat subsided around 4-5 days later.

I followed up with the same guy after this sore throat, and again, he texted to say "rest assured, we didn't have any penetrative sex. Just fun foreplay". As a friend of a friend, and someone who is pretty trustworthy, I trust what he says, and I trust my patchy memory, but I'm still so worried I could've been exposed.

Thanks in advance for all your work here - you're doing a really good thing.

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Re: Recent risk and seroconversion symptoms
« Reply #1 on: November 12, 2021, 06:58:28 am »
Hiya,

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we made out and his penis applied pressure to my anus for a few seconds. There may have been anal tears present as I wiped a bit too vigorously around seven hours prior to our encounter.

These activities are not HIV risks.

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I was very drunk at this point

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I don't remember being penetrated (I feel I would know if this had happened?), but I do remember saying "no, no, no" and he moved away;
 
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asked the said guy if we had penetrative sex. He firmly and clearly said no.

However, if you can't remember what happened, test to confirm your HIV status and put this behind you.

You can test at six weeks with a blood-drawn (Lab) HIV antibodies test, and a non-reactive result at that time would rarely ever change. Although generally not needed, you can retest at three months for peace of mind if you must.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get tested regularly and at least yearly for STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and, the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Offline easynowlondon

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Re: Recent risk and seroconversion symptoms
« Reply #2 on: November 12, 2021, 07:06:58 am »
Hi Jim,

Thanks for the swift response. My memory is indeed patchy, but I know I should trust my gut on this one; anxiety has a bad habit of making me question myself and my memory. When I say "I don't remember being penetrated", I mean that I remember the parts of the sexual encounter when things got steamy and penetration didn't happen. It was a while ago now, and anxiety is giving me bad brain fog.

But you're right. I'll get tested. I need to put this behind me and move on. Thank you so much for your work here.


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Re: Recent risk and seroconversion symptoms
« Reply #3 on: November 12, 2021, 09:01:56 am »
You're welcome.
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