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Do I Have HIV? / Re: Worried and anxiety plus testing advice.
« Last post by Jim Allen on Today at 09:36:05 am »
You're welcome.

And based on what you have said I will report her.

Good, bigots in the medical community that are allowed to express this and let their world views influence their medical advice over medical science are no good to patient care. The "any contact with a male is a risk that needs checking" is absolutely shocking.
Do I Have HIV? / Re: Worried and anxiety plus testing advice.
« Last post by Dadz1990 on Today at 09:30:46 am »
Iím only posting again to say thank you! I really appreciate the response timely and informative and glad I was at no risk. I will move on without worry about this. The nurse was a bigot and no it was not my paranoid mind I can quote some things she said but like you said letís not go there as itís not fair on the community. But she was very judgmental and loved using covid as an excuse to do sweet fa. And based on what you have said I will report her.

Thanks again.

Do I Have HIV? / Re: Worried and anxiety plus testing advice.
« Last post by Jim Allen on Today at 09:26:56 am »

The best thing I can do for you is to say, please don't post about this again. It's not an HIV issue and I can't assist you further, allowing this thread to continue would not help you.

Best, Jim.
Thank you so much all the supportÖ

Is there any kind soul help me to get some information regarding any place, phamacy who can deliver my ARV to my hotel address when i arrive to Bangkok. My situation hard to explain here but in short , i cant go out of my hotel room but reception staff ready to receive it for me. Trying in my best to collect medicine before another corona lock down 🤦🏻‍♂️
Do I Have HIV? / Re: Worried and anxiety plus testing advice.
« Last post by Jim Allen on Today at 09:23:04 am »

The issues 4 days after the encounter have nothing to do with HIV from this encounter. See your healthcare provider to treat whatever is the cause. (Although, consider a different healthcare provider than you consulted in your story)

The nurse sounds like a right bigot and there is no way to medically justify her comment, it's just plain ignorant. I would struggle to believe this was said but sadly I have come into contact with doctors and nurses that still think shaking hands is an HIV concern and I've been refused treatment so nothing would surprise me. Anyhow if she was practising in my jurisdiction and said this I would be reporting her and that's the politest response I can be bothered to give on this.

Anyhow regarding the blowjob, I am not going to pretend you had any HIV risk from this that warrants testing as it would be a disservice to you, the community and simply incorrect. So put it behind you, move on with your life.

If in the future you do have an exposure that requires testing outside of routine it's simple, test at 6 weeks post-exposure with a blood-drawn (lab) antibodies test and a non-reactive result at that time will rarely ever change if you are testing with a POC (rapid) test wait and test at 3 months post-exposure.

I am married

Sure the entire post sounds like misplaced guilt and I could go on with it sounds like an (unconscious) biased attitude is translating that guilt into an HIV concern, but that is for a therapist to deal with if you want to help with that.

I will mention the same thing I do whenever anyone mentions being in a relationship. If you engage in condomless intercourse with your partner you are obviously at risk of acquiring HIV. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV, and any condomless intercourse is accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

Test more frequently for HIV & STI's if you do engage in any condomless intercourse.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about taking PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get tested regularly and at least yearly for STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and, the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards


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Do I Have HIV? / Worried and anxiety plus testing advice.
« Last post by Dadz1990 on Today at 08:56:03 am »
Firstly hi, long time reader first time poster. What a fantastic none judgmental community you have.

Wondered if someone in the know can help, I would appreciate it.

I made a silly decision after a few drinks little over a week ago. The exposure was male to male and I sucked his dick (sorry for the crudeness but figured been straight to point was better than using medical words and is all getting mixed up) that was all, no other sexual activity.

I know that from reading on this that this is a near no risk event but not entirely no risk at all.

I think the fact he didnít cum in my mouth and as far as Iím aware I had no cuts or ulsers in my mouth (and at the very least nothing open and bleeding at the time) stands in my favour even more.

I still donít think that anyone medically or otherwise can hand on heart say no risk whatsoever so even low low risk to me Ö with my anxietyís is a risk none the less.

I am married so Iím finding this all a bit hard to come to terms with.

I have been googling a lot recently, due to spots and swelling in my arm pits. They flared up 4-5 days after the encounter and google seems to suggest that while this is none specific it can be a sign of very recently attained HIV so of course my mind then focused on the 0.01% chance (or whatever the chance is) rather than the advice of this forum.

Testing is difficult for me both in distance to nearest clinic and a hiv test turning up at home raising alarm bells.

I have however been able to order an at home INSTI HIV kit. Says in the package itís the quickest at home kit to detect recent acquired hiv and can work from 4 week (conclusive results at 12). Whatís the real world view on this if I test at 4 week and Iím negative (as I assume you expect it to be) is that a very good sign or no real help at all. Am I better holding off for 12 weeks?

I have been able to go for testing for Clym and Gon as I was in a different city I was hoping to rule out Syph and HIV but they did tell me that they couldnít on this visit as too early.  They kindly gave me a jab for Syph that would about it even if I had it.

So leaves me on tender hooks in regards to HIV so the sooner I can rule it out the better.

I think worryingly the nurse did not offer any reassurances to me about oral and HIV saying any contact with a male is a risk that needs checking. She also stated that it would be a good idea to get him to test now as that would give you reassurance so I tried to make contact with the male and heís ghosted me (as you can imagine this fueling  my anxiety even more)
Thanks in advance.

Do I Have HIV? / Re: Worried about exposure
« Last post by Jim Allen on Today at 05:33:24 am »
if this was your only sexual contact then relax and move on with your life.

Continue to use condoms for any intercourse, no exceptions and test out of standard routine at least yearly for HIV & STI's.
I paid around 3600 Thai Baht per bottle for Biktarvy from a private hospital which is part of the Bangkok Group. Thai Red Cross would be understandably cheaper.

That's still a very good price Dave, glad to hear the Biktarvy is working well for you!  ;)
Living With HIV / Dermatologist with HIV knowledge in Thailand
« Last post by Mindless on Today at 04:43:23 am »

I have suffered from a rash/inflammation on the foreskin of my penis for the past 2 years or more.

I visited a couple of dermatologists, but despite various attempts with different medications, in the end the only thing they could do was suggest a steroid cream, which basically relieves the rash but tends to make the skin thinner, and for this I can not continue to use it for long periods.

As soon as I stop the cream, the inflammation/rash returns within a few days. Also, the skin fails to fully recover its normal condition (thickness/elasticity? I'm not sure) and sex has become both uncomfortable and painful. Not sure what to do at this point.

Does anyone here by any chance know of any good dermatologists with HIV knowledge in or near Bangkok?

I paid around 3600 Thai Baht per bottle for Biktarvy from a private hospital which is part of the Bangkok Group. Thai Red Cross would be understandably cheaper.
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