Vlon82:
Hi all. I recently had sex with a MTF transgender (HIV status unknown). We engaged in the following activities 1- deep french kissing 2- frottage (unprotected) 3- oral, with me as the insertive partner 4- protected anal, with me as the insertive partner. At some point we noticed that there were A LOT feces on the condom, and she changed it. It then happened again and I noticed that the second time she changed the condom she didn't secure the base and so my penis kinda slipped off as I withdrew
My questions are: Reading through your forum and website I believe the risk for 1 , 2 and 3 above is nil, especially given I don't have any bleeding or ulcers in my mouth. Is that correct and would that change if she had blood in her mouth (or would it have to be a copious volume anyway, of the kind I would notice).
Re 4 I have two questions. I understand feces don't transmit HIV so any feces on her hand touching my penis is not a risk, is that correct? Concerning the slippage am I correct in thinking that the risk is nil given it happened on withdrawal and my penis left the condom without ever touching her anus?
Many thanks in advance
Vlon82:
Sorry forgot to add that I have a small bleeding pilonidal cyst on my butt. Does that change my risk factor, in particular through exposure to any rectal fluid / feces that may have touched it. Also thinking of it it was dark so can't be sure there wasn't blood in her feces...
leatherman:
Nothing in your situation was a risk for HIV
kissing - never a risk frottage - never a risk oral - never a risk protected anal - never a risk
--- Quote ---she changed the condom she didn't secure the base and so my penis kinda slipped off as I withdrew --- End quote --- You should be the one holding the base of the condom when you pull out. Leaving the condom behind like that is not a risk of HIV
Have a great day, Michael
Reducing Your HIV risks: With no exceptions, use condoms correctly and consistently for anal or vaginal intercourse Talk to a healthcare provider about PrEP as another layer of protection
Get tested yearly for HIV and other STIs. If you don’t use condoms and/or PrEP, test more frequently
Some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other more easily acquired STIs. It is possible to show no signs or symptoms from an STI so testing is the only way to know.
Get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.
What’s the ONLY way to know if you’ve been infected by HIV or an STI? Get tested.
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Vlon82:
Hi. I have a couple questions following a situation where I was the receiving partner (MSM). Can HIV be spread by a penis head being rubbed against the anus (no penetration). My partner rubbed her penis against my anus and put her tip against the opening as if she was about to penetrate, before I insisted on a condom. I understand there's some theoretical STD risk but not sure about HIV. Second, can precum material on her hand find its way on the condom and infect me (HIV or other STD) THANK YOU!
Jim Allen:
--- Quote from: Vlon82 on November 15, 2024, 12:03:20 pm ---Hi. I have a couple questions following a situation where I was the receiving partner (MSM). Can HIV be spread by a penis head being rubbed against the anus (no penetration). My partner rubbed her penis against my anus and put her tip against the opening as if she was about to penetrate, before I insisted on a condom. I understand there's some theoretical STD risk but not sure about HIV. Second, can precum material on her hand find its way on the condom and infect me (HIV or other STD) THANK YOU!
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No HIV risk, of course, it's a risk for other STIs. However, there is no need to panic or run out and test for STIs over this specific encounter, move on with your life and get a routine STI screening yearly.