Too much worried ... living like hell

[Jatin]

Hello friends,
6 weeks ago i got a bj from csw in canada. That time i was not worried about that but after searching google i found that on many sites it is written that it has some risk .m too much worried now.. i didnt got any symptoms just got 1 mouth ulcer yesterday.. but that is also making me scared. Please help me my friends . Should i be worried i am in mu early 20s

[Jim Allen]

Receiving a BJ is not how HIV is transmitted.

Stop googling rubbish and move with your life.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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[Jatin]

Thanks dublin i appreciate your response..   is any one infected by insertive oral sex before?.. 

[Jim Allen]

Its simple there hasn’t been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked") and you will not be the world first.

Stop stressing.

[Jatin]

So i went to the clinic. They said that i had a very low risk but still  i should go for a test.. hopefully they are saying to overcome fears

[Jim Allen]

I'm not sure who you spoke to.

Perhaps the clinic double ups as the local Guinness book of records intake and thought you could give it a go to be the worlds first.

Its simple HIV is not transmitted in this way. There hasn’t been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked") and you will not be the world first, you are not going to make world headlines.

Reason for no cases makes sense as there is no way for you to be infected in this manner.

In other-words, let it go and move on with your life.

Jim

[Jatin]

Hlo friends.. on 5th of september i had protected sex with a csw in canada... i used condom... i was in bit doubt because in middle  of intercourse i saw condom.. and there were wrinkles on condom tip of penis covering... i thougt that its normal... after ejaculation i didnt checked the condom.... on 6th october i had sore throat, and then coughing too. This symptoms remained for 5-6 days... i lost my voice..  i was very much worried.. on 17th of october i had  rapid insti hiv1/2 antibody test  .it came negative.... but l m still worried... i am in doubt of condom break...it wat bit dark in the room... i was not worried about this incident..until 6th october..but after dat day m living like hell..please help... m gonna die.. i live in canada... m alone here

[Jim Allen]

When condoms break they shred leaving no doubt. Nothing you posted here was a HIV transmission risk.

You seem to be torturing yourself for no reason each time you have a sexual encounter. Its irrational and in my opinion unhealthy to your emotional & mental well-being. If you continue to have this problem you should speak to a therapist face to face so they can help you move past this way of feeling/thinking.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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[Jatin]

I know that u dont discuss symptoms.. but on every site ..infact on many official sites they talk about symptoms...  i just got sore throat and coughing.... i have a question like that if i got symptoms on 6th of october..and i got tested on 17th of october rapid antibody test almost after 6 weeks..  that came negative.. can it be reassuring... like if i would have been infected antibodies would have been detected by that time.... i know i have low risk situation... but i want to clear this doubt

[Jim Allen]

 

To start with HIV does not cause a sore throat and coughing and most people experience no symptoms or too mild to even notice initially and even the very few that do have symptoms, well they are not unique or specific and resemble 1000's of other possible conditions. 

So we don't discuss symptoms as its absolutely pointless instead we discuss transmission facts and testing facts.  You had no low risk, you simply had no transmission risk - move on.

Stop reading rubbish or things out of context online and move on with your life. The am I infected section is filled with paranoid people having symptoms who than test negative.

You are one of them. Your fears are irrational and I can't help you with that.
I am unwilling to entertain that what you posted here was a HIV transmission risk, so it s time to move on.
 
I know this sounds dry and somewhat harsh but it is to be very clear with you and to avoid feeding into your fears on this one.

Jim

[Jatin]

Ohk.. sorry to ask this question... how reliable is antibody test at six weeks.. like do results change after 6 weeks??

[Jim Allen]

If you ever have a risk such as unprotected intercourse than 13 weeks is conclusive, 6 weeks result however will rarely change.

Now we are done on this topic, I mean it, my patience is now at an end with your rubbish and life is too short to go around in circles with you. Nothing you posted here is a biological risk for HIV transmission, so unless you are not telling us the full story its time to move on.

Posting about this no risk situation again will lead to a ban and I say this from a point of kindness as you simple just need to move on now and stop focusing/stressing about HIV.

Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Jim

[Jatin]

Hello friends...sorry m back again.. I have a question like i had sex with csw in canada.. I have a pretty doubt about condom failure.. this incident occured on 5th sep 2017 .. on 6th october i had sore throat and mild fever too... Fever went away in 2-3 days but sore throat cotinued till 13 october.. on 17th october i had hiv antibody rapid test means after 42 days after exposure.and 12 days after onset of symptoms. It came negative. Then on 26th october i again had a.test that was 4th generation antigen /ab test . It was 51 days from exposure and 20 days from.onset of symptoms. It also came negative..Now i know u will say that this was a non risky situation.. but suppose if condom would have broken. I was insertive partner in vaginal intercourse then wat is the risk. And 1 main question like if those symptoms are really related to hiv then would antibodies or antigen have been detected in tests done after onset of symptoms?  4th generation was done on 20 days following inset of symptoms . Please answer this questiom and clarify me..thanks

[Jatin]

One thing more i checked cdc website where it was written that a combo ab/ag body test done by drawing blood from vein should be repeated after 45 days of exposure to.make sure that a person dont have hiv..how reliable is that?

[Wade]

If you did have risk, and i say if for information sake.
We tell people to test at 6 weeks past exposure because most will have developed
antibodies and test positive if infected. Then again at 13 weeks for confirmation.

Jim made it clear you had no risk from any of your encounters so it is no surprise you tested negative, and will continue to do so.

A negative result is rare to change after 6 weeks, you tested negative.
You are also being given a 28 day time out as promised, see a doctor and find out what is making you sick.

Best,

Wade

[Jatin]

Hello friends,
I think i had put myself in a danger. I had sex with a lady who has lot of partners.10 days ago i had sex with that lady. Protected oral sex. I ejaculated with condom on. She continued sex for 30  seconds after ejaculation.she was on top of me when she took penis out. There was lot of sticky white cottage cheese like secretions on her genitals. That sticky fluid was on my testes and near genitals. I am quite sure that condom didnt broke beacause i have read that it is quite obvious when it breaks. But i was shocked to see that same kind of fluid on my penis tip and under foreskin. Is it possible for liquid to enter base of condom and get seeped to the penis head andfore head. Then she removed condom after intercourse and took a tissue paper and wipes all my genitals where her secretions were and wiped that tissue to the top of penis and that secretions again came in contact with penis head . I took another tissue and cleaned it. Now m very very much worried. I dont know how i came with her secretion contact instead of condom use.. either the condom broke or m too unlucky

[Ptrk3]

Receiving protected oral sex is not a risk for HIV infection.

If you had protected vaginal sex afterward, that is not a risk for HIV infection.

As for the fluids, the HIV is fragile and does not survive outside the body.

In summary, you did not have a risk of HIV infection as a result of the activities you describe in your post.

[Jatin]

Is it possible for those fluids to enter  fromthe base of the condom and touch the penis head. I lost my erection after i ejaculated  and condom became  bit loose . She was on top of me and was jumping after ejaculation. Its true that flyids do not infect out side body? I asked 1 helpline  they said that if there was any contact of penis top with fluid then testing is necessary.

[Ptrk3]

Again, HIV does not survive outside the body, so there is nothing in your post, as I understand the language, that indicates you are at risk for HIV infection as a result of the incident you describe.

However, if you feel that for peace of mind you wish to test for HIV antibodies, many experts recommend that you test at six weeks past the perceived risk activity, then at 13 weeks past the activity for confirmation of the six weeks results.

I fully expect that your tests results will indicate "negative" for HIV antibodies.

[Jatin]

U r saying m at risk my friend?

[Ptrk3]

No, I am not.  I wrote that you are not at risk.

Whether you choose to get tested or speak to others who tell you that you may be at risk is within your prerogative, of course.  I am suggesting that you are not at risk, but you are free to proceed as you see fit.

[Jim Allen]

Banned for good as you are wasting our time and your own after being warned.

Nothing you posted was a HIV concern, its not transmitted the way you fear. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face mental health support that help we cannot provide on this forum.

Jim