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Offline Chris98

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Please help me
« on: July 14, 2022, 11:37:27 pm »
Hello,

My name is Chris and I am in my 30’s and am very frightened and ashamed of what I did and what may happen due to a recent experience.

I known you do not want someone continually returning and creating new threads and posts, so I am placing all my info with regards to my experience on this one thread post.

Sexual History

I am not a promiscuous individual, as I have had Vaginal sex less times than the fingers on my hands. That said, each time was done with protection (condoms).

I have also had Oral sex a limited amount of time (as few as my vaginal sexual encounters), and if I was uncertain of the person’s sexual history, I was sure to wear a condom as well. 

Event

On July 2, I went to a massage parlor (nuru) to which I engaged in non-penetrative sexual acts. Again, these acts did not include Anal, Vaginal or even oral. What did occur was the following:

During the massage I touched her vagina, but did not penetrate her (stick my finger inside her). I did get vaginal fluid on my fingers, though my fingers did not have any cuts or open wounds, and I did not put the fluid any where near my eyes, mouth or genitals.

I had saw that she had used her saliva twice as lubricant during the hand job which had me a bit nervous as I was not sure if saliva contained HIV or other STIs.

During the massage, the woman got on top of me and sat on me (again no penetration or insertion), but she was near or on my privates. We both noted verbally that there would be no insertion and there was none.

After

About 3-4 days later after the exposure, I started to have the following symptoms: 
• Stomach issues – diarrhea (Read on the internet as that being one of the 1st symptoms), cramps, and gas
• Nausea
• Slight cough - occasionally and is recent

Symptoms I have not yet had are:
• Fever
• Night sweets
• Body aches
• Rashes
• Severe headaches – had a few, but haven’t been eating much this past while following the event
• Ulcers
• Swollen lymph nodes
• Join pain

I had blood and urine tests done for other STIs that can be determined and diagnosed in a short time frame (Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, etc.) which the results were all negative. No warts or other skin bacteria illnesses.

I have requested an HIV test which is due to take place early next month, but my anxiety has quite taken over and am fearful of both the wait and the results.

By the time I had my initial tests done to the moment of writing this, I have reached out to several HIV/AIDS councillors, hospital nurses and walk-in clinic doctors. The problem I am having which is causing a lot of anxiety is the lack of consist answers between hospital nurses, walk-in clinic doctors and the councillors at the sexual clinics.

Questions

Not knowing the current sexual health of the woman in question, but for the sake of argument she was positive, can you advise on my questions below?

1. Saliva (used twice) – I have been to walk clinics since my exposure, and one of the doctors at one clinic said it was possible to be infected with saliva on either your genitals or open wound. Is this true?

2. Vaginal fluid – With my finger toughing her vagina (no-insertion) and it being covered in vaginal fluid, what is my risk? No cuts or open wounds on my finger. A nurse said there is potential for the virus to enter via microscopic cuts (guess she means paper cuts idk), but my visible eye couldn’t see any wounds.

3. Vaginal fluid – Though I never saw her do this, but what if the woman touched her vagina and thus had vaginal fluid on her hand(s) and proceed with the hand job, is there a risk there? Again, I talked to another doctor at a clinic who said that vaginal fluid can infect someone during non-penetrative sex.

4. Does non-insertive rubbing carry an HIV risk? Again, my penis was at no time inside of her vagina or anus and the rubbing was more her sitting on my genitals. Is there a risk of her vaginal fluids dripping down onto my glans into my urethra? I read that the virus can be absorbed through the glans.

5. Are my symptoms indictive to HIV? Food still goes through me which is a recent occurrence in my life.

I apologize for the length but am quite concerned and panicked about this.
Any answers you can provide would be greatly appreciated. As I mentioned earlier, I am quite frightened and panicked about this and any support or answers you can offer I would again appreciate.

Thank You,

Chris

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Re: Please help me
« Reply #1 on: July 14, 2022, 11:46:57 pm »
Hiya,

Your symptoms are not HIV-specific. Some of them have nothing to do with HIV, regardless of your HIV status. Keep working with your healthcare provider to treat whatever is making you feel sick, and I hope you feel better soon.

Fingering, touching or being touched isn't an HIV risk. Saliva does not contain viable HIV; in fact, it's hostile towards HIV breaking down the receptors HIV needs to infect. Cuts, scrapes and day-to-day wounds are also not an HIV risk.

Question: 1,2,3,4, not an HIV risk. Lacks all the basic conditions needed to acquire HIV, hence it makes sense that nobody has ever acquired HIV the way you fear.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Offline Chris98

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Re: Please help me
« Reply #2 on: July 15, 2022, 09:34:05 pm »
Thank you for replying so quickly Jim.

You truly are a great humanitarian for helping and informing individuals such as myself.

To confirm, you do not think my event warrants a 6 week test?

Thank you once again,

Chris

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Re: Please help me
« Reply #3 on: July 15, 2022, 11:14:17 pm »
No specific HIV screening is needed outside of the standard yearly routine.
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Offline Chris98

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Re: Please help me
« Reply #4 on: July 18, 2022, 09:12:41 pm »
Thanks again Jim.

Sorry to keep bothering you, but can you confirm that I couldn't get HIV through her Vaginal fluid or Saliva entering so called 'microscopic cuts' as some say which are apparently naked to the visible eye or even through my urethra?

Apologies as I am quite ignorant on how HIV truly infects. I am trying my best to research, but it becomes nerve wracking when the a lot of internet sites state that so many things can transmit HIV.

I do appreciate your time and patience.

Thank You,

Chris

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Re: Please help me
« Reply #5 on: July 18, 2022, 10:35:42 pm »
Your urethra would only be a concern during condomless intercourse. The rest I have already answered.

Move on with your life, stop looking up nonsense and use condoms for any intercourse; remember to test out of standard routine for STIs & HIV yearly.
HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
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