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Title: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: Teresa on September 15, 2006, 12:12:08 pm
Well hubby is pissed at me....why??
Because I called the Dr this morning and he has to get across town as fast as he can when he gets off work to see the Dr.
Why did I call the Dr? He has started getting a rash on his back. He came to me Wednesday night to have me look at his back because he had a place that was itching. It was a spot about the size of a quarter, red, raised, and had a few little bumps. It looked like he scratched a few of the bumps but one he hadn't gotten to looked like a little blister about the size of a pinhead.
Last night after his shower i asked to see his back and he had another place on his back but it was more toward the left side. The other place was more in the center of his back.
Hes had a rash twice before and it didn't looked like this one. He started taking Atripla about 3 weeks ago. He thinks I'm overacting and even raised his voice.
So I'm hoping when he goes to the Dr they give him a shot! Preferably with a dull needle....teach him to yell at me when im just trying to keep him well and healthy.
Teresa
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: LatinAlexander on September 15, 2006, 12:15:20 pm
oops Teresa...
I hope that nothin important is going on with your hubby...Keep us informed,ok?
Alex
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: Matty the Damned on September 15, 2006, 12:17:52 pm
T,
You're right to do this. I can appreciate Hubby's annoyance but any significant rash must be seen to. I know about this stuff. ;)
MtD (Who wishes he had a T.)
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: Christine on September 15, 2006, 12:18:32 pm
Teresa, He needs to go to the Dr.
A rash is a symptom that needs to be addressed. It is probably just an annoying side effect that needs to be worked through, but it is better to be safe than sorry.
Big hugs to you! Christine
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: Alain on September 15, 2006, 12:33:58 pm
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Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: MSPspud on September 15, 2006, 12:39:30 pm
Teresa -
It sounds to me like he has a shingles outbreak a brewing. If so, he needs to get on anti-virals for that right away (the earlier the better). The anti-virals have little to no side effects for most people.
Jason
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: wellington on September 15, 2006, 02:01:49 pm
Having suffered a recent skin rash, I applaud your efforts to have the Doctor shoot your husband. Which brings me to a question. Do you and your husband always shower together? Inquiring minds, and all that. :D
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: alive2 on September 15, 2006, 02:05:26 pm
i had shingles and thats the way it started out on me,but i think its best the doc does see him,its the only way to know whats going on for sure,keep on him,i know how it is to be stubborn to go to the docs but its something thats got to be done,and i also think ia dull straw would hurt more,good luck,take care
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: Teresa on September 15, 2006, 02:45:53 pm
Wellington,
No we don't shower together all the time....just occasionally. ;D
Hugs Teresa
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: Matty the Damned on September 15, 2006, 02:48:47 pm
................oy!
MtD (Who loves communal showers)
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: Jerry71 on September 15, 2006, 03:26:49 pm
Teresa you did the right thing! :-*
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: david25luvit on September 15, 2006, 03:31:10 pm
Hang in there Teresa.... :-*
You did the right thing. Your hubby will /does appreciate it but like another said, FEAR makes us do strange things. Sorry he yelled and I hope he apologized later but hang in there sweetie. I'm in a new relationship and the man is a saint (like yourself)...Monday when I was out of pain med's and was not MYSELF he ignored my bitchness and drove me to the clinic to get more med's. People like your hubby and me are lucky...very lucky to have people like you and Chuck. {{{{ Big Hug }}}} :-* :-* :-*
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: Nadine on September 15, 2006, 03:47:00 pm
Teresa,
I agree with the others, you absolutly did the right thing in making that call. Your hubby will get over it! My husband is not like most men, he will get himself to the docs when he needs to and for that, I'm grateful.
Please let us know how he makes out.
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me
Post by: Teresa on September 15, 2006, 05:41:10 pm
Well hubby just called. He said the Dr said it was shingles and gave him a prescription for Valtrex. The Dr told him it was good that he got in today instead of waiting until Monday.
Thanks everyone!
Hugs Teresa
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: Lis on September 15, 2006, 05:52:25 pm
you go girl!!!!!!
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: water duck on September 15, 2006, 05:56:34 pm
Teresa sweeetheart,
You remember the avatar that you used to have - the pic of Miss U with the big spectacles and sexy red lip stick ?? Well have a blown-up pic of that , underneath you mark SHINGLES with the same red lipstick. Next time, hubby is mad, you show him that :P
Siang ;) :D
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: Life on September 15, 2006, 06:37:27 pm
Remember Teresa, we are men and we SUCK! Thanks for looking out for us!
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: J.R.E. on September 15, 2006, 06:46:43 pm
Teresa,
You did the right thing. And if by chance it is shingles, it's best to get him started on treatment to possibly help prevent a full and painful outbreak.
Keep in touch------Ray
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: anniebc on September 15, 2006, 06:48:30 pm
You did the right thing Teresa..pay no attention to hubby..it's a "macho" thing... :D
Hugs Jan :-*
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: IzPoz on September 15, 2006, 07:24:30 pm
LOL, Teresa. You did the right thing. I laugh because my late husband used to get pissed at me when I called the doctor without telling him. Follow your instincts, and don't always listen to your hubby when it comes to stuff like that.
Give him a big hug... :)
I hope it doesn't get too serious. I hear it's a very painful thing :(
Be well, and keep strong! Sounds like you have your hands full!
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: Lou-ah-vull on September 15, 2006, 08:45:40 pm
Having just recovered from shingles a second time in three years, let me reassure you: YOU DID THE RIGHT THING!!!!!! The sooner diagnosed, the sooner on Valtrex, the less difficult the attack of shingles will be. You have most likely saved your husband big time problems and suffering! He is very fortunate to have someone so level headed and caring to watch out for him.
Make sure he stays on the Valtrex for the entirety of the prescription!
Gary ;D
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: Eldon on September 15, 2006, 11:05:29 pm
Hello Teresa, it is Eldon.
I am so glad that you DID make that call to the Doctor. Your hubby was more than likely irritated when you called but, deep down inside he appreciates your love and continued support that you are giving him.
Continue to love and support him through all of your trials. You are a strong woman.
Have the BEST Day!
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: LatinAlexander on September 16, 2006, 12:36:56 am
We stubborn men..We never learn...That's why God created you...Just to make sure we did not mess everything up.... :D
Alex
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: Iggy on September 16, 2006, 09:15:23 am
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Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: wellington on September 16, 2006, 01:27:36 pm
Amen, Iggy.
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: Teresa on September 16, 2006, 01:38:31 pm
Today when I was putting anti itch cream on his spots he gave me a big hug and kiss and thanked me for taking such good of him.
So all is well again.
Hugs Teresa
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: J.R.E. on September 16, 2006, 01:39:31 pm
Hello Teresa,
I didn't even see your update, informing us that it was shingles, before I had posted.. I guess I have to scroll a little slower :P
OUCH !! Calomine lotion works very well, if he get blisters. Just dab them very gently with the Calomine and cotton balls.. I have had shingles on three occassions throughout these past 21 years. Hopefully he won't have a painful outbreak as I did.
Take care of yourself-------Ray
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: swede_dish on September 16, 2006, 03:28:11 pm
ouch honey! You seem to keep a good eye on your hubby..that's a special thing to do...everyone needs a gardian angel.
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: carousel on September 16, 2006, 07:03:37 pm
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Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: aasnyder on September 16, 2006, 07:17:58 pm
way to gooo...at least he paid u back with a hug n told u thanks...bet that meant alot.. ;)
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: AlanBama on September 17, 2006, 07:24:53 pm
Hi Teresa
I'd say he is one lucky guy to have you! You can tell him I said so......
Hugs,
Alan :-*
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: Jeffreyj on September 17, 2006, 10:35:49 pm
I hope your hubby realizes what a true saint you really are. He is lucky as hell to have such a caring, wonderful person by his side. You are simply AWESOME. Love, Jeff
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: LatinAlexander on September 17, 2006, 11:10:48 pm
I hate your husband...for having someone like you next to him...And yes, for me, that's enough!!!!!
YOU ARE AN ANGEL TERESA!!!
Alex
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: CowboyPOZ on September 18, 2006, 02:33:11 am
teresa,
God bless you and the people like you. My partner works my last nerve, but in the end I know its because he cares. I am sure your hubby knows the same. Toast to an angel! Okie Cowboy Guy
Title: Re: Hubby is mad at me - Update
Post by: BB on September 18, 2006, 08:10:36 pm
I started Atripla about the middle of August and developed a rash two weeks later. I began taking an antihistamine called Benadryl and the rash was gone three to four days later.