ScaredAf

[ScaredAf]

Hi,

I am a male who had sex with a female 3 months ago. We had sex with condom. So, no risk there. However, both were drunk, and before sex, we did some frotage with our genitals. The problem is that there was a moment that she was over me, and she had her vagina over my penis, touching it. I'm not sure if there was dipping or not (I was drunk and can't remember).
know it's not possible to tell if I have HIV ARS by symptoms or not. But at the moment, I'm too scared to have a blood test. I would like to receive an opinion about the symptoms I had:
- they started 1 week after the sexual encounter
- they started as a headache, without fever, but sometimes I'm at 98.6 F.
- Fatigue, weakness, occasional dizziness, dry mouth

3 months later:
- Exactly the same symptoms, continually: chronic headache, fatigue, weakness, occasional dizziness, dry mouth.

If it were ARS, having these symptoms for 3 months seems plausible? I'm too scared to test, but might do it in the future.

Thanks!

[Jim Allen]

Hiya,

Most of what you posted would have nothing to do with initial HIV infection, and the rest isn't HIV specific, so see your healthcare provider and treat whatever is causing you to feel unwell.

The main issue is the vast majority of people will have no or at least not noticeable symptoms and therefore testing is the only way to know your HIV status.

I'm not sure if there was dipping or not (I was drunk and can't remember).

Frottage isn't an HIV risk; dipping is just what people say to excuse condomless intercourse morally. So let's not play games and call it condomless intercourse.

I'm too scared to test

I'm sorry to hear that you are scared, however, testing isn't going to hurt you or change your HIV status.

Get tested as it will give you peace of mind, or if the result is reactive, no panic as it will let you treat HIV early, letting you live a long and healthy life; if you don't test and you are living with HIV it will do measured and unmeasured damage to you, leading to disabilities or death after a really nasty fucked up time.

So, in short, no point in living in limbo about your HIV status; if you are adult enough to have sex, then you should be mature enough to get an STI and HIV screening.

Since it's been three months, go see a clinic or healthcare provider and test to confirm your HIV status. If it's non-reactive, then start using condoms correctly and consistently if you want to reduce your future HIV risks.

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards

Jim

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[Jim Allen]

Seriously get tested. Living with HIV is a piece of piss (easy to do). Plenty of things are more complicated or difficult in life, but not testing now and dying down the road with AIDS is seriously fucked up, and you can prevent it by getting tested now.

[ScaredAf]

Thank you very much Jim, I will definitely get tested next week. Just to clarify, what I meant for dipping is: i'm 100% sure it wasn't deep penetration. The only doubt I got is this: my penis was half-erected (I was drunk), and she was on me. I don't know or couldn't feel if my penis entered the vagina. In case it entered, it would be "the entrance of the vagina" (not deep). I don't know if that would change my chances. Also, the symptoms lasting 3 months would be also not very common, right?
Thanks again!

[Jim Allen]

Asked and answered already

Most of what you posted would have nothing to do with initial HIV infection, and the rest isn't HIV specific, so see your healthcare provider and treat whatever is causing you to feel unwell.

[Jim Allen]

Thank you very much Jim,

You're welcome.

I'm not sure if there was dipping or not (I was drunk and can't remember).

Just to clarify, what I meant for dipping is: i'm 100% sure it wasn't deep penetration.

I've answered already about the HIV risk from condomless penetration.

You said you were so drunk you can't remember, I believe you and in any case condomless intercourse (penetration) is an HIV risk that warrents testing to confirm you HIV status.

[ScaredAf]

Thank you again, Jim. I know I had a risk and I will 100% get tested. I know it doesn't change anything, but I would like your opinion about my possibilities for being positive or negative, just to know if I should expect a negative result or not. I know I was drunk, but what I don't remember is if it was dipping or not. What I'm 100% sure is that there was not deep penetration. And if it was deeping, it was for just 5 seconds. I know I still can be positive for that, but I would really like your personal opinion about this risk + symptoms lasting 3 months. Thank you again!

[Jim Allen]

I know it doesn't change anything, but I would like your opinion about my possibilities for being positive or negative

Thankfully, HIV is pretty difficult to pass on even when all the conditions are perfect for it to be passed on, and as the insertive partner, there is less exposure than being the receptive partner for several biological reasons. So that is in your favour.

However, from a risk assessment point of view, we presume the other person is living with HIV untreated and you had condomless penetration; This meets all the biological and environmental conditions needed for you to acquire HIV; it's a known HIV transmission route and, actually, the primary route people acquire HIV and there are tons of factors we don't know such as; What stage the person is at, their viral load, presence of other STIs etc. etc. so I can't calculate your personal odds or say what the result will be.

Also, I don't know what else you have done before the encounter posted about here.

In short, I believe you had condomless penetration, how far your penis went into her vagina is totally irrelevant and considering you were pissed out of your head on the night in question, I am not going to believe much of what you tell me.

You had condomless intercourse; it's an HIV risk. Go get tested.

[ScaredAf]

Hola! Soy un hombre, y la semana pasada tuve un encuentro con una mujer, de la que desconozco su estado. Hicimos sexo oral. Entiendo que el sexo oral que le practiqué a ella tiene poco riesgo, ademas fue en la zona externa de la vulva (clítoris, etc.). El problema vino con la felación que me practicó. Enseguida noté que me hizo mucho daño cada vez que la introducía en su boca (no se si eran sus dientes o algun tipo de succión que hacía ella). Después hicimos sexo, pero con protección. Al acabar, me miré la punta del pene, y vi que tiene heridas por la felación que me hizo. Que yo sepa no salió sangre, y parecen heridas más bien internas, pero hay una herida al lado de la uretra. Las heridas parecen como "petequias", es decir, parecen como sangre o heridas internas en la cabeza del pene, y al lado de la uretra, o quizás una parte dentro de la uretra.
Qué riesgo corro? Creo que ella no tiene heridas en la boca...
Gracias!

[Jim Allen]

I merged your threads, but next time, it will be a timeout (ban) from the forums. Post in your own thread, regardless of the language

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Anyhow, receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV; thus, it makes sense that after 40+ years of this pandemic in terms of BJs, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first. That it was an enthusiastic (aggressive) blowjob makes no difference, and the cunnilingus isn't an HIV concern.

Move on with your life!


Cualquier los detalles recibiendo el sexo oral no es un riesgo por el VIH y después de casi cuatro décadas no hay casos confirmados y el cunnilingus no es un riesgo de VIH.

Adelante con su vida y como eres sexualmente activo, hágase la prueba para detectar el VIH y las ITS por lo menos una vez al año.