Why was it negative?

[whatnow]

Thank you for this site.

I don't know where to begin, i was travelling i got drunk i had sex with a women  i couldn't see that this person was high risk then i realized i would need to be tested also in the morning i noticed blood in the bed she was menstruating we used a condom first and then later we didn't, i did not know about pep or how to deal with this and was not in my own country i got to the doctor and they put me on some pills i didn't know what they were but the problem was it was ten days after the exposure. Now i know they were pep, then i got thrush or a yeast infection on the inside of my thighs and a flu followed by a rash.
i showed the doctors at the hospital and they took me off the meds i was on them for 13 days the rash was not to do with the meds i think it was to do with the virus. The flu was weird and my muscles are twitching still now months later, that is really scaring me.

I didn't know that the pep effects the test i got tested at 40 post exposure and then again at 14 weeks post, when i went in for to get those results i believed with all my heart that i was poz something is making my muscle twitch i put it off for a long time to go and get the results it scared me. But the results for a antibody test and a viral test i dint know the name of the viral test she said it looked for the virus however one where both negative i couldn't believe it or understand with i was negative.
But since i have read that u need to wait till 3 months post pep, the nurse said she didn't think my muscles were related to hiv but i know it is. i am confused why both test were neg when one looks for the virus? I asked to be tested again but now i cant bring myself to call and get the results i am not in my home country and i am worried that they will not help me here i will have to go home after been away for a long time and tell my family what i have done to myself i dont think i can do that i dont know what to do.....
It would have been 75 days since the end of the pep about 11 weeks, can i take any reassurance from these results I'm scared
I'm sorry i hope this is clear, test at 14 post exposure but only, 75 days post pep negative but i know i am not OK, i am worried they will not help me here, is it normal for both test to be negative if i am infected?
Thank you in advance for reply

[Ann]

What,

Your tests were negative because you do NOT have hiv. It's pretty simple, really. The PEP you took makes NO difference. You started taking PEP ten days after exposure, which is MUCH too late. PEP needs to be started no later than 72 hours after exposure. If you had become infected with hiv, it would have already been too late and you would have tested positive when you tested.

You didn't test positive. You do NOT have hiv!

If you feel unwell, see a doctor. It's nothing to do with hiv.

Ann

[whatnow]

Thanks ann for the quick reply.
I guess i need to call and get these results for peace of mind, so then at least i could go and see a doctor about my muscles.
Once the sex was unprotected.
I thought the pep slowed the the body down in making antibodys and also reduced the amount of virus in the blood and that is why it is negative.
Thank you for your replys.

[Ann]

What,

You tested nearly eleven weeks after your PEP - PEP that was started way too late and you didn't even take the whole 28 day course. As I said before, you would have tested positive by then if you were indeed positive. You aren't. You don't have hiv.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus and more so from a woman to a man. You were never likely to end up hiv positive following this one-time encounter anyway.

You need to stop having unprotected intercourse with people of unknown hiv status. You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will continue avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann