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Off Topic Forums => Off Topic Forum => Topic started by: idee on June 29, 2013, 04:24:09 pm
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I am trying to get a hold of my mom to talk. And my best friend is at work. So I came here. Not like it is the last place, but people here are positive like me. So I guess that makes some of you able to understand my loneliness at times.
except this time I am sitting in a house where the home invasion happened. I am crying and feeling really sad. Sad that I am fat and need to exercise to learn how to defend myself.
If I am ever in another situation I want to know how to defend myself and kick the crap out of whomever it may be.
I am waiting for the trainer to call me back about information to the classes. I am trying to figure out if I should take a women's self defense course or Judo. I keep thinking a women's self defense course would teach me what I need to know and Judo would teach me how to kick butt standing or on the ground and using the size against the person.
After all the intruders had my husband down on the ground and beating him.
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Idee , don't beat yourself up ... scouts honer I wasn't punning .
I want to share something with you . When I was a boy I got bullied , so I took martial arts and learned how to whip some butt . The thing is though I still couldn't put the hurt on someone even though I could and ended up walking away from those who tried to bully me . I realized that there are bad people who get there kicks making others feel bad and that was something I wasn't ever going to fight my way out of because I don't have that killer instinct .
I'm not telling you you that you shouldn't or cant learn how to feel safe again but the . If someone wishes to do us harm knowing how to kick and punch isn't really going to help very much when your guard is down . Sometimes the best protection is prevention by keeping doors and windows locked and do not answer the door for strangers .
Lets face it , the two of us are not going to be whip ass avengers in capes but we can damn sure be vigilant about our surroundings . I get frustrated when a stranger knocks at my door and I to yell and tell them to go away , it makes me sad and a little mad that this is the world we now live in .
A good security system and stickers on the door work too and makes me feel a heck of a lot safer than martial arts or weapons .
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Sorry you're going through this right now, and I can certainly understand how fearful you must be. Would getting a dog be a possibility? Not saying this would have kept someone from targeting your house, but sometimes it can sway some from trying.
Have you thought about why they targeted your family? Masked gunmen usually don't do home invasions randomly... it's risky business. Don't get me wrong, it's entirely possible they just picked your house, but if it were me, I would be taking a good look at what happened and whether or not the robbers seemed led on by some information or even what I displayed outwardly during my daily activities.
I know how violated you feel right now. Being robbed, especially in your own home, takes away every sense of security you have.
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Idee , don't beat yourself up ... scouts honer I wasn't punning .
I want to share something with you . When I was a boy I got bullied , so I took martial arts and learned how to whip some butt . The thing is though I still couldn't put the hurt on someone even though I could and ended up walking away from those who tried to bully me . I realized that there are bad people who get there kicks making others feel bad and that was something I wasn't ever going to fight my way out of because I don't have that killer instinct .
I'm not telling you you that you shouldn't or cant learn how to feel safe again but the . If someone wishes to do us harm knowing how to kick and punch isn't really going to help very much when your guard is down . Sometimes the best protection is prevention by keeping doors and windows locked and do not answer the door for strangers .
Lets face it , the two of us are not going to be whip ass avengers in capes but we can damn sure be vigilant about our surroundings . I get frustrated when a stranger knocks at my door and I to yell and tell them to go away , it makes me sad and a little mad that this is the world we now live in .
A good security system and stickers on the door work too and makes me feel a heck of a lot safer than martial arts or weapons .
Loads of wisdom here^ idee. I feel awful for you and your husband. What a horrible experience!
The anger you feel is understandable and the terror involved is, well terror.
I do however agree with Jeff that it is difficult to "prepare" in a practical way with self defense.
Please consider spending the $ on better security in your new home.
Glad you reached out to us. :)
m.
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We have two security cameras and we had a home invasion last year on July 31st also. Which is why we bought the cameras. We had no idea why they targeted us. I was leaving to mail some bills at the post office and other errands. I ran into a man with a gun. He shoved me into my house and asked who else was there. I told him and he totally caught my husband by surprise.
This time my husband fought back and saved us by doing so.
I guess we were unaware both times that it could happen and then happen again. We are going to move, for now we keep the gate locked and the front door locked. We do not answer unless someone calls first. If anyone were to knock on the door we would call the police now after letting them know we have a gun.
I was bullied growing up too. Except I was an exceptional fighter by the time I got into the 10th grade. I was circled by some people who said they were my friends and made to fight a girl. I was afraid, but I whooped her hinny. How I don't know and no one bothered me again.
Until last year and this year people have bothered me. It bothers me they had guns because it shows me they're cowards.
I am still going to a gun range and taking private lessons on shooting. I am still going to keep doors locked and not answer to strangers any more. I am also going to get a concealed weapon license.
I do understand that I can't be like a super hero, but I just want to be prepared.
The thing is I do want to hurt these guys. I want to hurt them by seeing them in court.
The home invaders asked if we had a phone book and addresses to people. The wanted to know if we knew anyone with money. My husband told them no my wife takes care of that stuff.
I was hiding in a closet to protect my daughter while on the phone to 911.
They tried to strangle my husband with something. He still has the marks on his neck.
The only thing I can think of is I am taking my daughter with me to therapy to talk about it all.