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Main Forums => Living With HIV => Topic started by: Mrmojorisin on January 06, 2013, 04:10:01 am
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Without going into all the details, my wife and I have been living apart for a few years due to an immigration issue. She is living with her mother in Mexico and the kids and I stayed in the states while we get this sorted out. Our youngest daughter went with her mother and is attending school in Mexico. Anywho, during this time I had an affair and tested positive. My wife is negative. I have visited my wife and daughter several times since she left.
I was diagnosed in May, disclosed to my wife in June. To say the least it has been a roller coaster experience. Going from her wanted a divorce to wanting to work it out and everything in between.
This year we decided that my youngest would come to the US for Christmas break. Not having the money to fly her here, I met them in Nuevo Laredo. When I picked her up in Dec, it was the first time I had physically seen my wife since my diagnosis. We talk via skype everyday, usually a couple of hours. So the entire time we are gearing up for this she is telling me that she is not ready for sex yet and needs to visit with her therapist.
We met at the border and stayed the night at the hotel before I drove back and she went back home. Me, being the optimist, came prepared. As it turns out we still cannot keep our hands off of each other, HIV or no HIV.
It was awkward having to use condoms with my wife. But if I had used them when I cheated, then we would not be here. The first one did split, but I noticed it immediately and replaced it. It was always in the back of my mind, checking once in a while for breakage. I took my daughter back to her mother this last Thursday. We repeated the scenario, we met spent the night in the hotel and left the next day. This last meeting was a lot better, very intimate and a lot of fun ;D. And just to brag we went through 5 condoms that night. ;D ;D
Basically I said all that just to say I GOT LAID!!
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Oh yeah, I am 44 years old and still have zero need for viagra! 8)
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WOO HOO! I like the sound of that. I'm happy for you. 44 is young btw, so i wouldnt expect you would need that little blue pill anyways.
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Congrats Mojo!
This is great for you on a number of levels. In one way it is a sign of acceptance and intimacy in the relationship (and all that stuff...) and another way the sheer physical release has its own way of calming the mind and body down.
...five times?....that is some pent up energy!
Happy for ya,
JM
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This is one of the better holiday stories I've read.
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This is one of the better holiday stories I've read.
Yes, Virginia, there is an orgasm :)
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Yes, Virginia, there is an orgasm :)
;D
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Well, it sounds like you had some fun. I haven't needed five condoms in one night for years.
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Oh yeah, I am 44 years old and still have zero need for viagra! 8)
Good God, I hope not. I'm 47 and I could use the exact opposite of Viagra. ;D
Congrats on the improvements on the home and bed front.
Wolfie
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Good God, I hope not. I'm 47 and I could use the exact opposite of Viagra. ;D
Congrats on the improvements on the home and bed front.
Wolfie
There one friend, he is 5 or 6 years younger than I and uses Viagra. He is always offering to get some for me..I do not need it..I guess I have been lucky as that has never been a problem for me..
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I'd written To Thine Own Avatar Be True but it applies to your screen name not your avatar -- but then again JM certainly exuded mojo.
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Congrats!!! Woohoo!
I had a friend who managed to get Viagra in his 30's (he didnt need it), but used it for partying. I tried it a few times while partying and who would have thought that having an erection for 5 hours DOES hurt.
anyways, congrats on the orgasms!
-WIll
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I tried Viagra. It did cause me to be very sensitive. My penis just touching my underwear felt great. Made me even larger than my normal 12 inches ::)
But, it dried up my sinuses so bad, and gave me a bad headache. Glad I don't need it yet.