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Offline dallas nk

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Just told my mother I have HIV!
« on: January 14, 2017, 11:27:15 am »
When I first was diagnosed, I was traumatized and could not see a future. I went into despair. Since then (over two months ago), I've been slowly coming to grips with the disease and have been trying to live my life and not let it limit me. I'm at a somewhat good place now on most days. But, I've been feeling like a monkey has been on my back. My mother and I've always had a great relationship. She's my best friend. I've always been able to talk to her about anything but I was afraid that her knowing my diagnosis, it would kill her!! Considering she's been through a lot these last few years, I didn't want to be the cause of her going into the hospital for stress over me or the cause of her having a heart attack or something major because of word of my diagnosis. After careful thought, looking at the pro's and con's, I decided to tell her.

To my surprise, she was calm, cool and collective :D. She was also very supportive. She said "I love you no matter what", "now, its like any other disease, the treatment that's out can help you live a very long life--look at Majic Johnson".

I would have to say that me telling her and getting this BIG secret off of my chest has brought us closer and has given me the motivation to fight this disease even harder. I refuse to allow HIV/AIDS to hinder me and prevent me from enjoying my life.

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09/20/2016-diagnosed cd4 41 cd%5.8 VL 34990
11/2016-post-poned treatment while awaiting to qualify for ARV study- cd4 29 cd%? VL?
12/2016-started treatment (Triumeq) this late because found out didn't qualify for research study
1/24/2017- cd4 233 cd%15 VL<40
4/27/2017 cd4 206 cd%18 VL <40
07/24/2017 cd4 227 cd%20.6 VL <40
10/31/2017 cd4 191 cd%23.9 VL 70
12/7/2017 cd4 248 cd%22.5 VL <40
1/30/2018 cd4 220 cd%27.5 VL <40
4/17/2018 cd4 295 cd%29.5 VL <40
8/9/2018 cd4 310 cd%31 VL <40
11/15/2018 cd4 293 cd%32.6 VL <40
02/12/2019 cd4 347 cd%31.5 VL <40
10/09/2019 cd4 380 cd%31.7 VL<40
01/30/2020 cd4 337 cd%37.4 VL 70(started Biktarvy)
06/05/2020 cd4 306 cd%38.3 VL 20
07/31/2020 cd4 235 cd%39.2 VL 20
08/28/2020 cd4 248 cd%31 VL <40
12/02/2020 cd4 329 cd%36.5 VL 160

Offline Almost2late

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Re: Just told my mother I have HIV!
« Reply #1 on: January 14, 2017, 03:39:53 pm »
I'd say that was a good call on your part and an awesome response from your mom..
Happy for you :)
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Offline Tonny2

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Re: Just told my mother I have HIV!
« Reply #2 on: January 14, 2017, 03:46:44 pm »

        ojo       CONGRATULATIONS, MOM IS THE BEST OF A MOTHER IS THE GREATEST SUPPORT YOU COULD HAVE...MY MOM HAS BEEN THERE FOR ME SINCE DAY ONE, AND AFTER 22 YEARS OF FIGHTING, SHE IS STILL THERE...AND I KNOW THAT YOU WILL FIGHT HARDER BECAUSE YOU WOULDN'T WANT TO DISAPPOINT HER, SO, NOW YOU ARE IN TROUBLE...KEEP STRONG.

QUESTION, IF I MAY, ARE YOU ON ANY ANTIBIOTICS?, IF I SEE CORRECTLY, YOUR CD4 IS SO LOW, ISN'T IT?...WISHING YOU THE BEST OF LUCK, GIVE YOUR MOM A BIG HUG AND NOW, YOU TWO WILL FIGHT TOGETHER THIW BQTTLE...PLEASE KEEP US POSTED...HUGS                                                                                      ojo
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Offline dallas nk

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Re: Just told my mother I have HIV!
« Reply #3 on: January 14, 2017, 10:45:39 pm »
Quote from: Tonny2 on January 14, 2017, 03:46:44 pm
        ojo       CONGRATULATIONS, MOM IS THE BEST OF A MOTHER IS THE GREATEST SUPPORT YOU COULD HAVE...MY MOM HAS BEEN THERE FOR ME SINCE DAY ONE, AND AFTER 22 YEARS OF FIGHTING, SHE IS STILL THERE...AND I KNOW THAT YOU WILL FIGHT HARDER BECAUSE YOU WOULDN'T WANT TO DISAPPOINT HER, SO, NOW YOU ARE IN TROUBLE...KEEP STRONG.

QUESTION, IF I MAY, ARE YOU ON ANY ANTIBIOTICS?, IF I SEE CORRECTLY, YOUR CD4 IS SO LOW, ISN'T IT?...WISHING YOU THE BEST OF LUCK, GIVE YOUR MOM A BIG HUG AND NOW, YOU TWO WILL FIGHT TOGETHER THIW BQTTLE...PLEASE KEEP US POSTED...HUGS                                                                                      ojo


Thanks so much!! Yes, I've been on azithromycin and bactrim since first diagnosed. After diagnosis, my doctor ran more blood work and saw my CD count was so surprisingly low. He said I'll have to take them for a while until my CD levels rise. I had thrush a month and a half ago.
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09/20/2016-diagnosed cd4 41 cd%5.8 VL 34990
11/2016-post-poned treatment while awaiting to qualify for ARV study- cd4 29 cd%? VL?
12/2016-started treatment (Triumeq) this late because found out didn't qualify for research study
1/24/2017- cd4 233 cd%15 VL<40
4/27/2017 cd4 206 cd%18 VL <40
07/24/2017 cd4 227 cd%20.6 VL <40
10/31/2017 cd4 191 cd%23.9 VL 70
12/7/2017 cd4 248 cd%22.5 VL <40
1/30/2018 cd4 220 cd%27.5 VL <40
4/17/2018 cd4 295 cd%29.5 VL <40
8/9/2018 cd4 310 cd%31 VL <40
11/15/2018 cd4 293 cd%32.6 VL <40
02/12/2019 cd4 347 cd%31.5 VL <40
10/09/2019 cd4 380 cd%31.7 VL<40
01/30/2020 cd4 337 cd%37.4 VL 70(started Biktarvy)
06/05/2020 cd4 306 cd%38.3 VL 20
07/31/2020 cd4 235 cd%39.2 VL 20
08/28/2020 cd4 248 cd%31 VL <40
12/02/2020 cd4 329 cd%36.5 VL 160

Offline Tonny2

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Re: Just told my mother I have HIV!
« Reply #4 on: January 15, 2017, 02:43:24 pm »


            OJO      HI AGAIN...GOOD FOR YOU...PLEASE, KEEP US POSTED AND TAKE CARE OF YOU...HUGS                                                                                     OJO
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Offline harleymc

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Re: Just told my mother I have HIV!
« Reply #5 on: January 16, 2017, 07:41:10 am »
It is a very nice thing to be able to tell a loved one, look I have this thing, but really it's ok cause I'm taking care of it...
Then that classic response, 'you have my full support and love'.

Life suddenly looks a whole lot better. Well done.
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Offline Emmig

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Re: Just told my mother I have HIV!
« Reply #6 on: January 16, 2017, 05:09:16 pm »
So and very happy to know all went well with your mum.

Ive been thinking about telling mine, but just lost s brother a few months ago from a heart attack, she's been really down and don't want to give her more worries. I will have to wait until I have the guts to tell her but your post gave me some hope.

Thanks for sharing
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Offline TheNormalLife

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Re: Just told my mother I have HIV!
« Reply #7 on: January 16, 2017, 07:16:42 pm »
The network of support is one of the columns that help us keep standing. Take those little pills and you'll be great. Congratulations and more blessings (you already have one, a loving and caring mom).

Ray
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12/14 CD4-6; VL-4245 (wrong CD4 test)
01/15 CD4-530 (pheeew)
01/15 CD4-755
03/15 CD4-545; VL-14401
04/15 CD4-623; VL-4531
04/15 Truvada/Efavirenz
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03/17 CD4-669; VL-UD
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