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Title: Please help me out of this question
Post by: sanitex on March 09, 2014, 08:05:17 am
Here is how it goes,the mother of my 13yrs son is now
Open up to tell me the truth of how she was informed by the
Dr that did her operation during her pregnant .
She told me today that she want to tell me longtime but she was afraid
That I'll leave her with baby and she decide with Dr that they won't
let me be away then , here is how she noticed , during that of her pregnancy
She don't want me to go with her for her doctors visit , she only goes once.
When I forced her to go it'll be like we are fighting, then the day of her delivering
The found out she was positive and told she was positive that they've to do operation
for the safety of the child .then the day she delivered I went there but no one told me anything and we celebrate .she told me today that time the Dr told her that baby was  negative and he have her some tablet to give the baby for two months and she most come back in three months to recheck they baby again but she said she didn't want to go again that she don't want me to know.
My son was born in January 22 -2001.
Then in August 2007 began to sick and diagnosed on 27 December then as I was sick my mind didn't went for HIV issue I was texted and confirmed with latent TB
she was the one asking Dr to check HIV for me that she's suspecting that and they do that and found out ,due I'm ignorant for HIV then I didn't ask her to check also.
Then after my sick was worst I ask her to go and check I was at the our shop she said she's positive too.
Though I trusted her I don't even knew she was sleeping around with people then,that she is sorry for me for what happen and she started telling me about our son,my dear people I was shock .
My question now is can this boy be positive or should I go and text him ?but he never sick one day ,though we have our ID Dr , please I need your urgent help
Title: Re: Please help me out of this question
Post by: sanitex on March 09, 2014, 08:58:10 am
Please remember that she is away she was positive
Since the day she born the baby and kept it secret and didn't ask for
medication and she said according to the Dr the meds is not like it's now in Thailand .
Title: Re: Please help me out of this question
Post by: leatherman on March 09, 2014, 10:50:19 am
4w she told me today that time the Dr told her that baby was  negative and he have her some tablet to give the baby for two months and she most come back in three months to recheck they baby again but she said she didn't want to go again that she don't want me to know.
It's quite possible the early treatment did keep your son from becoming positive  ;)

what sort of custody rights do you have? Are you not allowed to be involved in the care of your child?
Title: Re: Please help me out of this question
Post by: sanitex on March 09, 2014, 11:15:18 am
Leatherman thanks for the question ,I've the right .but I don't know anything
About HIV until I was diagnosed 2007, and as she was saying today due to we had some problem about her cheating over me I newly found out what she was been doing for the past 8yrs due to my busy business traveling to Africa for my stone business . So one of my staff that hate her character just decide she's tired of the way my wife is doing to me and she told me everything . Though she except that she has been doing it since we leave together  due to she don't know how she was infected with the virus and decided to kept it secret until the I was sick that she was away when she was about to deliver my son , I was shock and she said that she don't want to let me know maybe I'll leave her with the baby .so she knew since January 2001.what can I do now is't necessary to take him for text?
Title: Re: Please help me out of this question
Post by: eric48 on March 09, 2014, 12:56:53 pm
Test first
Think later...

Is this possible ?

Mobile.eric
Title: Re: Please help me out of this question
Post by: sanitex on March 09, 2014, 04:51:43 pm
Eric48 forget the English 100% true story (believe it or not)
Title: Re: Please help me out of this question
Post by: Turtle-12 on March 09, 2014, 06:50:12 pm
hello sanitex, if your wife was positive when she was pregnant with your child and she did not take any ARV during pregnancy and give them to the boy the first couple of months after he was born, most likely he will be positive. The only way to know is to have him test immediately and find out, let's cross our fingers she took the pills and your child is not infected, otherwise you will have to start him on medication right away. There are lots of resources on prenatal care and HIV (ONUSIDA.ORG)...today with our new advancements in medication is possible to have a child free of HIV even if the mother is positive during pregnancy, but she needs to do as the doctors recommend, otherwise, the child will be born positive... of course your son is now 13 so it might be too late for this info, but good to be informed anyway, but the only way to know is to have him test it so that you can now make the right chooses for him before is too late... sorry about wot you have to go through, may god bless you and your love ones
Title: Re: Please help me out of this question
Post by: sanitex on March 09, 2014, 08:56:19 pm
Turtle-12 ,  is't possible for my boy be positive now while I don't see
Him be sick like that kind baby that's positive ?, he's healthy enough
And he never sick one day I always with him but this story just shot my whole body down .
I think by now he most have been sick or develop some sickness even as I'm
Typing this my partner is with me, she just saying during those years if want to do insurance for him ,she try to convince them that she's busy but last we went for resident permit we check DNA he belong to me.
 While I'm confuse was he not sick or he's going to be later during this time of 13yrs because now I can see him growing taller .but doctor tested him immediately after operation and say he's negative then gave my medication to give him for two months and according to her she said gave him but she want go back again she try to hide it for till now
Title: Re: Please help me out of this question
Post by: sanitex on March 16, 2014, 08:23:48 am


Hello ,please I just wanna thank all of you during the time I'm having
some worries regarding my son .today I finally went to see my ID doctor
and he examine my son and gave more encouragement before the text took place.
So my dear ones finally the text came out negative , I was so happy with the result .
Title: Re: Please help me out of this question
Post by: eric48 on March 16, 2014, 08:29:34 am

Hello ,please I just wanna thank all of you during the time I'm having
some worries regarding my son .today I finally went to see my ID doctor
and he examine my son and gave more encouragement before the text took place.
So my dear ones finally the text came out negative , I was so happy with the result .

Happy for you and son !

Testing is a good idea.

No test = no knowledge

no knowledge = plenty of worries

Good! Good!
Mobile.eric
Title: Re: Please help me out of this question
Post by: leatherman on March 16, 2014, 10:26:08 am
good news. i'm glad you have an answer about your son - and it's a good answer!