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Do I Have HIV? / Re: Broken Condom, Pep taken, Risk Evaluation?
« Last post by WorriedFool on Today at 07:10:26 pm »
Hi Jim,

I tried before and ended up blocked and I am unable to contact her, it would only be possible if I used another mode of communication. She was more worried about getting a Plan B pill than anything.

I also forgot to mention that I was tested on the 31/10/2021 and it was negative (Hiv 1/2 and P24 Antigen - 4th Generation test)

My worry is that she is positive and may not be willing to disclose her status to me.

The doctor’s assumption is that she was positive and he started me on Pep within 3 hours of the broken condom.

I am sorry for any offence caused by me and my post, it is not my intention to offend anybody.
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Do I Have HIV? / Re: Broken Condom, Pep taken, Risk Evaluation?
« Last post by Jim Allen on Today at 07:05:39 pm »
BTW.

I'll give you a clue, my partner read your post as well and she had a word to describe you, however, I have a good sense of decency not to repeat that word as I know it would be offensive to you.
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Do I Have HIV? / Re: Broken Condom, Pep taken, Risk Evaluation?
« Last post by Jim Allen on Today at 07:01:38 pm »
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I had since contacted the escort and she assured me that she was “clean” (her words, not mine), when I asked about her HIV status, I was promptly blocked.

 ::)

Care to try again?
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Do I Have HIV? / Broken Condom, Pep taken, Risk Evaluation?
« Last post by WorriedFool on Today at 06:51:39 pm »
Good day,

I find myself in a spot of bother and I need your help in quantifying my risk?

On the 31/10/2021, I visited an Escort whilst on business in South Africa, her and I had sex twice, the first time was protected, on the second, after changing positions and climaxing I found that the condom was torn wide open and my penis was exposed.

She had used coconut oil as a lubricant which I later found out makes latex fail.

Within 2 hours, I was in the emergency room, and I explained all of this to the doctor.
The doctor then put me on PEP (Truvada 200/300 Once a day, and Olegra 50mg Once a day) he also gave me antibiotics (Azithromyc, Adco-Metronidaz, Doxycycline))

I had since contacted the escort and she assured me that she was “clean” (her words, not mine), when I asked about her HIV status, I was promptly blocked.

I have now completed my course of PEP medication, and I need to know how much I should worry?

I worry because I have night sweats and a swollen lymph node behind my left ear.

Please could you give me a risk assessment and estimate how at risk I am from the broken condom exposure of contracting HIV given that I was in a high risk HIV country.

Your help will be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for the work that you do.
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Living With HIV / Re: Phobias? Worrying too much?
« Last post by Jim Allen on Today at 03:54:46 pm »
 :)
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Living With HIV / Re: Phobias? Worrying too much?
« Last post by Jim Allen on Today at 04:17:10 am »
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Am I crazy? Overreacting? Overthinking? What do you think?

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I also have sort of a ...thing with sex. Sort of a phobia of catching new things. In my mind, I feel I caught the worst of them all but I don't know if I can handle more stuff I have to explain to future partners.

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Sh*t's got me dwelling in suicidal ideations everyday truth be told.

Hiya,

Sorry to hear that you are struggling and in so much pain. You are not crazy and you are not alone.

With the COVID many people have lost any face to face support, but do you have access to peer support or a therapist to help you with these feelings?

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Now my issue is that I want to try and see if I can get into a relationship. I feel it's time but I find it hard to disclose my status among other things, but the status thing is the deal-breaker. Mainly because when I shared it I've been immediately rejected.  Also, I've been met with a lot of scrutiny over how I look. Apparently, I'm cute but not muscular enough for gay men (which I find insane because my straight friends are not that shallow and are mostly all in relationships but... whatever)

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Could be because over here the only way to meet guys is through apps (damn those for the life of me)

Regarding dating, I don't have the experience needed to comment on apps. I met everyone face to face, but prehaps it's an idea to take a temporary break from trying and focusing on other things in life first?

I've have had rejections due to my HIV status though, but personally, I've also been turned down more often because of being a single father, mental health status or a list of far more shallow or shit reasons. That's dating but I'm glad though to get my status out of the way early on so I don't waste my time with someone who gets hung up on these things. 

Anyhow take it easy and if you ever want someone to talk with or someone to just listen, PM me and I can set up a zoom meeting.

Best, Jim
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Living With HIV / Re: World AIDS Day 2021 - Anyone doing anything?
« Last post by Bucklandbury on Yesterday at 06:57:32 pm »
I am going to watch this little film:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phoi8uKs14w

and eat one of these "pan bang" cookies my partner made:

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Living With HIV / Phobias? Worrying too much?
« Last post by remo85 on Yesterday at 05:21:57 pm »
Hi guys. I'll bother you with another one of my threads. It's been a while but mind you this is the only place I have to really vent things related to my HIV story.

I've been officially positive for 6 years now last month and everything seems to be going ok except for probably a slight change in my cholesterol levels which seem to be going crazy over the slightest thing. I refuse to take meds for it and am trying real hard to lower it down by myself but that's another story.

I wanted to see if anyone else here shares the same ''worries'' as me and if you do, what have you done about it-

One of them is that sex has become... a struggle for me. I was never a very sexual person and the reason I got the virus was because for a period of time I fell into addiction mixing benzos with alcohol (lots of both) and turns out those two are great for disinhibition. I didn't have sex until I was 26 actually. So as you can imagine I went nuts with what I guess were my repressed sexual impulses. After dozens of random guys for and with whom I felt nothing, I got the thing. Most of them I can't even remember.
Now my issue is that I want to try and see if I can get into a relationship. I feel it's time but I find it hard to disclose my status among other things, but the status thing is the deal-breaker. Mainly because when I shared it I've been immediately rejected.  Also, I've been met with a lot of scrutiny over how I look. Apparently, I'm cute but not muscular enough for gay men (which I find insane because my straight friends are not that shallow and are mostly all in relationships but... whatever). I also have sort of a ...thing with sex. Sort of a phobia of catching new things. In my mind, I feel I caught the worst of them all but I don't know if I can handle more stuff I have to explain to future partners. So the few times my mind has allowed me to be sexual with someone I have gone easily into a spiral of feeling dirty or sick for days, even weeks. Could be because over here the only way to meet guys is through apps (damn those for the life of me). It's exhausting and until now it's only been my imagination.
Is this common?


And the other thing is I really want to move abroad but I'm preoccupied because despite being told that I can travel and get into the healthcare system once I settle, I've read tons of stuff about the high price of meds or how hard it is to get into the healthcare system, etc.
My urge to leave my country is due to the fact that I live in a place where I'm discarded for having HIV. Plain and simple. In fact 6 years into the diagnosis, nobody knows except those few strangers I disclosed my status to. And It's not a huge country where I can cross to say another state and start over.
Is there by any chance a country that makes it easy for you to just get there and start over? At this point...I'm not really sure I care about the destination as long as it's not much of a downgrade.
Sh*t's got me dwelling in suicidal ideations everyday truth be told.

So...those 2 things. Am I crazy? Overreacting? Overthinking? What do you think?

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Do I Have HIV? / Re: slipped condom
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 05:03:08 pm »
Hiya,

A high-risk behaviour would be injecting your eyeballs with heroin using needles shared with someone living with HIV who does not have access to treatment.  ;)

Everything sexually as HIV is difficult to transmit is either just a risk or not a risk and as your concern met all the conditions needed to acquire HIV it's a risk, so the only way to know your HIV status is to test.

Best, Jim.
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Do I Have HIV? / Re: slipped condom
« Last post by Regretful190 on Yesterday at 04:56:59 pm »
Hi Jim thanks for u reply

So If it was like the second scenario then it was high risky, is it correct?
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