hiv risk

[johnstargate]

So i had sex with this girl. I fingered her at the beggining and then had vaginal intercourse. I didnt have any serious cuts on my finger probably some dry lil cuts at the tip.. I did use condoms but my penis was not fully erected(around 20% erected). I didnt see any of them break. I tried about 3 condoms because i couldnt get my dick up and then i gave up. I dont think the girl was poz and not telling me. She had been with previous partners before though(around 6-10).

Is there any chance i am at risk? I havent had any symptoms yet and its been a week(the only symptom is that i feel weaker).

[RapidRod]

No you were never at any risk. Continue to use condoms and plenty of water base lube.

[Andy Velez]

Whether you were hard or not is not relevant. THe important thing is that you were using a condom during intercourse. That's exactly what you should keep on doing everytime you have intercourse. Condoms provide very effective protection.

Fingering, whether with nicks or cuts on your hand, is not a  risk for HIV transmission.

And as long as you are wearing a condom it doesn't matter if your partner is HIV+. You'll be protected. Period.

Cheers,

[johnstargate]

Thank you Andy and Rapid.

Even though i wasnt hard and the condom was not properly woren there is no chance i would have gotten hiv. They didnt break because her vagina was loose as well. How hard is HIV transmission???
The internet says u are at low risk if you french kiss, finger or dont use condom properly. So there's no point for me to be paranoid and think of testing?? Should i just go on with my life...

[Andy Velez]

As long as you use just one condom at a time it will do the job. People sometimes mistakenly try doubling them thinking that will provide even more protection but it doesn't. It actually makes them more vulnerable to breaking.

Kissing is not a risk for HIV transmission and I don't care who has said otherwise to you. Not unless there is a ton of fresh HIV+ blood pouring into a wound in your mouth. Does that sound like what you were doing? ...I didn't think so.

And yes, get on with your life. And keep those condoms handy so you can use one everytime no matter whom you are with.

Cheers,

[Ann]

John,

I totally agree with the others - you were NOT a risk for hiv in this incident.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you do not need to test over this specific incident, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms and avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Ann

[johnstargate]

I always use condoms thanks for answering.

Not long ago there was an incident. The partner i was having sex with bled a little on my penis shaft(NOT on the penis head). The shaft of my penis does not have any cuts or anything like that.

Because my condom was half-way woren am i at risk? If u get cum or blood on the skin of the penis shaft? Is that a risk for hiv transmission?

[RapidRod]

You were never at risk.

[Ann]

John,

Ths skin is an excellent barrier to hiv and the skin on your shaft is no different. As long as the head of your penis was covered while inside another person's anus or vagina, you're ok.

Keep using those condoms and you'll be fine. Read the condom and lube links in my signature line for a refresher course so you can use them with confidence.

Ann

[johnstargate]

Thanks Ann. I clicked your condom links in your sig and that was very informative. I also had a shower after and washed the blood in that case.
Hope im not at risk.

[Andy Velez]

I read a doubt in your last remarks. The only risk you had was for worrying and not for HIV transmission.

Give it up and get on with your life. You don't have any problem with HIV in relation to this incident. Just keep those condoms handy and use one every time you have interecourse.

Cheers,