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« on: May 10, 2022, 08:46:35 am »
Hello

I had unprotected oral sex and deep kissing with a guy a week ago. He performed oral sex on me. I had asked him his hiv status before we met and he told me he was negative. 3 days after we met he chatted me and said he was sorry but he had lied and that he was hiv positive. He told me that he didnít tell me bc he knows people wonít meet him if they know. He then preceded to block me and I have no way to contact him.  Iím scared to death now.  I found some info on line and see that oral is low risk but there is a risk. I also paid to ask hiv related questions from a hiv expert doctor and he said the risk is low but the cdc says itís about 1 in 20,000 exposures will result in infection. I was past the time from for pep so couldnít take it to help my chances.  The doctor told me to wait 6 weeks to get tested and Iím not sure how I can wait that long. Iím so afraid. Thank you



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« Reply #1 on: May 10, 2022, 09:02:41 am »
You had no HIV risk from what you posted. no need for pep or HIV testing over this specific encounter and I am not going to pretend you do for peace of mind either.

Receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV, thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

Kissing also isn't an HIV risk.

Here's what you need to know:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV might still pose a risk for other STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Very Scared
« Reply #2 on: May 11, 2022, 08:46:26 am »
Thank you. So is the CDC wrong to say itís a risk? Iím just curious bc they are suppose to be the expert agency on these things. Iím just really worried man.

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« Reply #3 on: May 11, 2022, 09:15:59 am »
Hiya,

I can't tell you why the CDC hold onto what I would consider outdated information about HIV. They still think kissing is an issue last time I checked::)

It's not a new issue even here we have threads going back 14+ years of admin & forum discussions on why the CDC insist on holding onto outdated modes of transmission like kissing, receiving oral etc or totally theoretical risks without context that have never been documented.

I would suspect it's just CYA (Cover your ass) and the theoretical issues without any real context, but feel free to ask them.  We're not in a position to police them.

Best, Jim.

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Re: Very Scared
« Reply #4 on: June 20, 2022, 11:47:17 am »
Hi Jim

I went and had a RNA HIV test at day 12 post encounter. It was negative. Should that give me peace of mind or should I test again at 6 or 8 weeks? Thanks

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« Reply #5 on: June 20, 2022, 11:49:34 am »
You had no HIV risk from what you posted. no need for pep or HIV testing over this specific encounter and I am not going to pretend you do for peace of mind either.

Move on with your life.

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