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Author Topic: Possible insertive anal exposure, what are my next steps?  (Read 606 times)

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Possible insertive anal exposure, what are my next steps?
« on: April 25, 2022, 02:44:08 am »
Hi everyone,

first of all than you for having such a wonderful support group. I've read a lot yesterday and I've learned a lot.

Still I feel very anxious at this moment. Yesterday I was at a sex club for men, and at some point i put my penis through a glory hole, expecting the guy on the other side to do oral sex.

I don't engage in anal sex, ever, cause even with a condom I'm always afraid of HIV risks (condom can break), so I just don't do it. Because of it, i don't know how it feels to have insertive anal sex.

So while I was at he glory hole, what he was doing did not feel like a blow job to me.  So I withdrew my penis. I couldn't help but look what was happening on the other side, so i glanced through the hole and saw the guy facing his butt to the glory hole, not his face.  This is when doubt kicked in and grew larger and larger as the day went on.

Since I don't feel how insertive anal sex should feel like, I have no idea whether I have really penetrated him or not. He seemed very comfortable having unsafe anal sex, so i guess (maybe i am wrong) this guys does this more often. And if he does  this more often, chances are he has HIV...it's a black and white assumption but I have to have a baseline to figure out my next step.

If there was insertive anal expose it did not last long, and I probably didn't go in deep. Nevertheless, a risk is a risk. I know chances from a one time encounter are 11 in 10000 for insertive anal sex, but that just seems like a HUGE risk to me, and I am very afraid that this one time exposure will end with an infection.

I'm going to call my doctor today and see whether I can start a PEP treatment (which is a whole other anxiety for me, reading how bad people can feel during the course), since it's not been 24 hours since the incident. The downside is, that it also prolongs the testing period, so I will have to wait longer for a conclusive test.

I know it's hard to assess a risk, but I need something to calm my mind. Is this way of having insertive anal sex a real and huge risk for getting HIV? It did not last long and i was not actively "fucking" (sorry couldn't find a better word) him. Should I go for the prep treatment?

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Re: Possible insertive anal exposure, what are my next steps?
« Reply #1 on: April 25, 2022, 05:14:51 am »
Hiya,

Looking through a Gloryhole after pulling your penis back and seeing someone's backside doesn't mean a thing or that anything unexpected happened. Neither do the stats you quoted mean anything nor that the guy was willing to have condomless intercourse.

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I know it's hard to assess a risk

What you posted isn't an HIV risk, I see you posted before years ago, a ban is on its way for that BTW and you know the difference between getting a blowjob and penetration.

If you did have condomless intercourse, it's an HIV risk, and the stats you mentioned are meaningless, forget about them. If there was condomless intercourse and you take PEP, which is up to you, note that when started within 72 hours PEP is highly effective, although some clinics will no longer prescribe it once 48 hours mark has passed. Side effects for most people are none or extremely mild, and it's only a short course.

If you start PEP, then test at six weeks post finishing PEP with a blood-drawn (Lab) HIV antibodies test, a non-reactive result at that time would rarely ever change and retesting at three months post finishing PEP is generally not needed.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Possible insertive anal exposure, what are my next steps?
« Reply #2 on: April 25, 2022, 05:24:02 am »
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I'm always afraid of HIV risks (condom can break)

Use them correctly & plenty of condom safe lube to reduce the odds of breakage to near zero. PrEP could also be considered as an additional layer of HIV prevention next to the peace of mind that it may offer you.

If you are letting your fears get in the way of your sex life, I would also recommend you consider talking to a therapist to help you.
HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
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