Risky event and unsure

[Whymewhyme1]

Quick little description... back in March on the 4th to be exact i traveld back to my home town for Mardi Gras with friends.. due to my friends first time we was drunk everyday ect... I took them to a massage parlor I use to attend when I lived there... we was so drunk my friend paid two girls to give us a threesome.. with no knowledge of HIV I stupidly engage <unprotected> 10 -15 mins max I only engaged with one of them doesn’t matter while they took turns on both..... I know it’s a high risk now from reading the last three months... due to that I’m married! Smh I never had sex with anyone besides my wife ever... I got back to Texas where I reside and like two days later I had the runs night sweats for just two days and now a white/yellow tounge...I didn’t think about it and and sex with my girl she gets sick smh.. she breaks out all in her face after all the sickness goes away about 7 weeks later she gets a rash in her arm.. that’s when I lost it... stress and anxiety at it’s all time high...I then notice my hands and feet going numb... my lymph nodes swole for a short period of time but never noticeable... now this where it gets tricky for me.. due to my HIV phobia I done took 7 oraquick home test... recent one 95 days.. all negative not one false positive.. I even got my girl to take one negative... the fact that I. Know something is wrong is bothering me... but I rather it be anything else but HIV..

Are these oraquick cool to trust..? No way I spend over 200 dollars with these things and they lying huh? Follows instructions to the tee.. all had very clear c lines.. I know I have to visit the doc soon.. but I just like to prepare myself for outcomes.. I’m not one who want to receive unexpected news... just a brief answer will be cool thanks for the response in advance

[Jim Allen]

Hiya,

If I understand you correctly you had two potential exposures.

1) Unprotected intercourse during Mardi Grass
2) Unprotected intercourse with your partner, when you came home

1)
Look you have tested conclusively HIV negative following the Mardi Grass incident, so this did not lead to you acquiring HIV.  Do test for far easier to acquire STI's the next time you are due routine STI screening.

2)
If you have been or are engaging in unprotected intercourse with your partner this would as example meet all the biological conditions needed for acquiring HIV. Its the main transmission route globally.

Now I don't judge couples that decide to engage in unprotected intercourse, it's often based on trust within a relationship, however, just note this trust or faith does not prevent HIV and any unprotected intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk to you of acquiring HIV.  So test regularly, if that is the case, understand the risks.

with no knowledge of HIV

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions.

Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward.
PrEP is Pre-exposure prophylaxis, (Prevention) it a way for people who do not have HIV but who are sexually active to add an additional layer of prevention against acquiring HIV. It means taking a pill every day that contains two medicines (tenofovir and emtricitabine)

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as safe in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for acquiring far easier to transmit STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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[Whymewhyme1]

Yes I understand.. the only exposure I had and I believe to give me these sythoms are from the Mardi Gras incident till this day... me and my wife been together 7 years and never had this problem... I’m sure I gave her the sythoms she having from the March 4th incident... I was just trying to confirm the conclusive of the Oraqick accuracy...  I know it’s something causes the thrush ect.. i Also a lot of Tabacco and drink energy drinks... I’m sure it’s a Sti floating around in us I will definitely find the courage to get a sti check

[Jim Allen]

Hiya,

Guilt & Fear, I get it.   

Try to relax. Firstly no disrespect but the fact you have been with the wife for 7 years without symptoms is not relevant. (It does not exclude this route) STI's, particularly in men, can show no signs or symptoms for many months or years even, you should BTW out of care for yourself be testing at least yearly.

Regarding HIV just to confirm for you, the results you have, post the Mardi Grass incident are conclusive. The HIV risk with your partner is one you seem to accept. That's fine.

Thrush is nothing more than an overgrowth of fungal, it's so common nearly all adults will experience it at some stage in their lives. So relax, stop reading up on things and, scaring yourself. Instead, see the GP treat whatever is making you sick and, test for STI's to give you peace of mind.

Going forward test at least yearly and, more frequently if you continue to engage in unprotected intercourse.

Best, Jim
 

[Whymewhyme1]

Thanks boss I appreciate you! I will start testing yearly one love