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Title: Advice on Disclosure...
Post by: newbie92 on December 14, 2017, 03:51:46 pm
Hey there everyone,
In March of 2018 it will be 4 years since I have been diagnosed with HIV.
Honestly, Iím okay. I feel the same way, physically, before I was diagnosed. My mother just recently went to do a life insurance policy on me but of course she checked the ďnoĒ box for having HIV. Of course, when I sign those papers so they are able to retrieve my medical information it will be denied.

Unfortunately, I still have yet to disclose my status to my mother.
I am her youngest and Iím a heterosexual female and Iím not sure what she will think of me... I donít usually tell her whatís going on in my life because I really think should would not give supportive words of wisdom.

I need some help here. I want to tell her after the holidays. How long did you guys wait to disclose your status to your parents and how did you tell them?
Title: Re: Advice on Disclosure...
Post by: Surrendertothis on December 22, 2017, 11:59:44 pm
Luckily I was able to tell my mom right away. Her and I are very close and I was living with her at the time so there was no way I could hide it. I do not think I will ever tell my father though. We are not as close and I just donít feel comforted telling him. I also have a teenage son and I donít know if and when I will tell him. I hope you were able to lean on someone for support.
Title: Re: Advice on Disclosure...
Post by: dallas nk on December 05, 2018, 06:14:52 pm
I told my mother soon after I found out. She and I was close as well but my reason for telling her was fear. Fear that I would I would need her to raise my kids if the virus took me out. I regret telling her so soon after diagnosis only because she annoying sends video links to me about naturally ďhealingĒ hiv😂 but I donít regret telling her. She has been a major support.