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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: frbrdchick on February 11, 2007, 12:38:53 pm
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I have read a lot of different opinions on acutual risk and I am wondering if someone could tell me their take on the risk. The two instances that I am concerned about occured more the 5 years ago. My husband and I have been married for three years and dated for two prior to that, he is negative per an insurance blood test in Nov. The first instance was after procted vaginal sex. He removed the condom and then used his hand to masterbate me. I do not remember any penetration, but his hand was in the area none the less. My concern is that the hand may have been exposed to the cum from when he removed the condom. The second instance was with a man who I was giving oral sex to, I stopped before there was any cum and then he masterbated himself until he came and I licked some cum off of him. I was drunk at the time and don't remember how much I may have swallowed. Are either of these risky enough to warrent testing? I have had three colds in the four months and whenever I get sick I get myself so worked up over possibly getting infected from these two instances. I understand the risk is low in oral cases, but I am wondering primarily if the risk is even lower because the semen was exposed to air, even for a short time?
Thanks
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fr,
Being fingered is not a risk for hiv infection, no matter what sort of spin you can think of to put on it.
Giving oral is more a theoretical risk than anything. There have been long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one. This shows us two things. One, condoms are very effective for the prevention of hiv transmission. Two, oral sex is much lower risk than previously believed. We now have the evidence that oral sex is a very low risk activity where hiv transmission is concerned.
If this continues to be a concern for you, I suggest you go test, collect your negative result and put this behind you. The ONLY way to be 100% certain about your hiv status is through testing.
Ann