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Do I Have HIV? / Re: Risk oral
« Last post by kitkat320 on Yesterday at 03:29:34 pm »
I'm sorry if I offended something, but I come from Eastern Europe - here the knowledge about HIV in doctors stopped during my studies - almost all doctors in our country consider passive oral sex as very risky. I understand that after that oral sex I do not run any risk, even if it had a high viral load in the blood?
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Do I Have HIV? / Re: Risk oral
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 03:17:32 pm »
I've already answered this.

Getting your penis sucked simply lacks all the biological conditions needed for HIV to be transmitted and as for your BF being tested before the relationship, it means nothing.

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Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV

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it cannot be tested because most people who have oral sex also have vaginal or anal sex. Therefore, according to him, it is impossible to find out at which sex the infection occurred.

I think this would be the most stupid thing I have heard all year. Although the healthcare provider who through sharing the same glass as someone to drink from could lead to HIV might be slightly worse but only slightly.

Oral sex covers so many sins, some acts are risks, but we're specifically talking about receiving and the conditions needed for acquiring HIV are scientifically well known and understood post-HAART (1994-5+) era.

Anyhow, test regularly for STI's and HIV.

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Do I Have HIV? / Re: Risk oral
« Last post by kitkat320 on Yesterday at 03:08:41 pm »
When it comes to relationship sex, my boyfriend tested himself before our relationship is negative. My last research was done before this oral sex, and since then I haven't had anyone else but my boyfriend. I once spoke to a doctor about the risk of HIV transmission through oral sex, and he said that it cannot be tested because most people who have oral sex also have vaginal or anal sex. Therefore, according to him, it is impossible to find out at which sex the infection occurred.
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Do I Have HIV? / Re: Risk oral
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 02:58:01 pm »
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The date guy sucked it, it didn't take long. After dressing, he found that his gums hurt and that he could smell blood. I didn't see any oral blood on my penis or my underwear when I got home. It was dark when he sucked me, so maybe I missed something. Plus, he was touching his penis and then mine - so he could transfer the preecum to my urethra.

Receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV, the condition of his mouth makes no difference, the same can be said for touching your penis. Thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

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I asked if he was HIV positive - he said no.

Whatever someone claims is totally irrelevant. Anyhow, it was not an HIV risk.

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I've been in a happy relationship with this guy for 8 months, we've been having unprotected anal sex for some time.

Well, that's an obvious HIV risk.

I'll mention the same thing I do whenever anyone mentions being in a relationship.
Engaging in condomless intercourse with your partner means you are obviously at risk of acquiring HIV. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV, and any condomless intercourse is simply accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

Test more frequently for HIV & STI's and consider PrEP as an additional layer of HIV prevention.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Do I Have HIV? / Risk oral
« Last post by kitkat320 on Yesterday at 02:34:41 pm »
hi, about a year ago I had risky sexual contact - it was passive oral. The date guy sucked it, it didn't take long. After dressing, he found that his gums hurt and that he could smell blood. I didn't see any oral blood on my penis or my underwear when I got home. It was dark when he sucked me, so maybe I missed something. Plus, he was touching his penis and then mine - so he could transfer the preecum to my urethra. I asked if he was HIV positive - he said no. unfortunately, after about 4 weeks my lymph nodes (submandibular) swelled - I felt very swollen, as if I had mumps. I was in pain and I had a low-grade fever for one day. After a week it passed me. But I also got night sweats that lasted two months. At the same time, this guy got glossitis, he was in danger of having his tongue amputated. He claimed that it was due to a lack of vitamin B, he is said to have been suffering from vitamin B deficiency since he was a child. Reading on the internet - I found out that one of the signs of HIV infection is glossitis. In addition, for some time I have noticed that I get sick more often and often get mouth ulcers, which last up to a week. Coming to the question. I've been in a happy relationship with this guy for 8 months, we've been having unprotected anal sex for some time. After 4 weeks of our unprotected sex, my boyfriend caught a cold - fever, sore throat and general fatigue. Is it possible that then I was infected with HIV through passive oral sex or mutual masturabtion - assuming that he might have had some wounds or swelling in his mouth, if his mouth ached after sex?
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Do I Have HIV? / Re: So confused after reading too much after an exposure
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 12:36:57 pm »
No HIV risk whatsoever, zero!

Nobody has ever acquired HIV from being fingered. Makes sense as it lacks all the basic conditions needed for you to acquire HIV and nothing she touched before fingering you could lead to you acquiring HIV as HIV would no longer be viable.

I'm not sure why you are focused on looking at healthcare exposure guidelines when your question is about sexual exposure.  ::)

Anyhow, please don't post about this again, move on with your life.

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Finally, use condoms for any intercourse and test out of standard routine at least yearly for STI's & HIV.


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Do I Have HIV? / Re: So confused after reading too much after an exposure
« Last post by Ahmed7677 on Yesterday at 11:53:11 am »
Hello Jim,

Thank you for your reply. It is much appreciated. I've taken a few days to let your reply sink in as I have been quite worried for weeks and it seems to be hard to shake the worry off even after your reassurance.

If you don't mind I'll just ask you a few follow up questions:

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1) No HIV risk

Even if she had a cut? It seems to me that there would be some risk if she's handling the gloves / putting them on with a cut?

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3) Outdated and irrelevant as you had no HIV risk from this encounter.

Glad to know this is outdated info. So I believe I read this as part of a CDC recommendation for healthcare workers exposed to both HIV and HCV simultaneously. If this is outdated, can I/one assume the standard test windows i.e. 3 months are conclusive (in my case 4 months)? I understand that some conditions may delay seroconversion, in these cases will combo tests pick up the antigen if antibodies are delayed?

I know I'm probably over thinking this, but just trying to put this behind me.

Thanks once again.
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Living With HIV / Re: "HOPE DIES LAST"
« Last post by crisbarcelona on Yesterday at 11:04:53 am »
Hello, Tonny2

I want to tell you only this: congratulations and wonderfull.
thanks for everything
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Living With HIV / Re: "HOPE DIES LAST"
« Last post by Tonny2 on Yesterday at 01:53:07 am »



          ojo.         Hi !…happy  HIVersary to me!!!…today, November 29, 27 years ago, I was dying, PCP, AIDS only 20 cd4. I was told that I would live two more years. 27 years later, I’m still here sharing with you that there is hope…yes, there’s life after an hiv diagnosis…I couldn’t be here, alive, if wouldn’t be for my mother whom has been fighting with me since the beginning of this awful journey, especially the first five years after my dx…as I mentioned before in here, one of many times I was admitted to the hospital, one of the nurses of the hospital, whom I knew her for so many times she took care of me, she asked me, “tonny2, wouldn’t be easier to just let go”?, I responded, yes, it might be easier just to quit fighting but, I told her, “do you see that lady sitting on the chair in the corner of my hospital room”?, she said, “yes”, I responded, “well, she is my mother, when she stop fighting I will stop fighting”, she, my mother, was 60 years old then, now, she is 87 years old and still, strong and determined, she still goes with me to all my doctor’s appointments. She is my inspiration and my strength to carry on…again, happy 27 HIVersary to me…hugs
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Do I Have HIV? / Re: Vaginal fluid risk
« Last post by Jim Allen on November 28, 2021, 10:25:45 pm »
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she was fingering herself, and with the same hand in split seconds, she rub my bare penis. I didn’t think anything that time, and allowed her.

This was no HIV risk to you whatsoever.

Move on with your life, continue to use condoms for any intercourse and test out of standard routine yearly for HIV & STI's.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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As a member of the "Do I have HIV?" Forum you are required to only post in this one thread no matter how long between visits or the subject matter. You can find this thread by going to your profile and selecting show own post and it will take you here. It helps us to help you when you keep all your thoughts or questions in one thread and it helps other readers to follow the discussion. Any additional threads will be deleted
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