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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: LT5PLA on August 11, 2006, 12:29:57 am
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Recently i had unprotected vaginal sex with a girl ive known for a while, she isnt hiv but am still worried. I ejaculated inside of her as she is on the pill.
Am i at risk at all?
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If you are certain she has not got HIV then no you are at no risk. If you are not certain you did do something to put yourself at risk and you need to test at 13 weeks. In future don't have unprotected sex with anyone unless you are 100% certain of their status. Whether you ejaculated or not is of no consequence. It is unlikely they had HIV and you are unlikely to get it even if they were, however unprotected vaginal sex IS a method of HIV transmission. For other risky activities please read the lesson section.
R
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i would never have unprotected intercourse if i didnt know the grl was clean.. is vaginal sex less risk in getting hiv, also the odds are low for a man to recieve hiv from the girl?
Another quick question why is vaginal intercouse less of a risk?
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Because of the mechanics involved (infected fluid is not injected into the man as it is a woman or via anal sex).
Please don't use the word 'clean' when talking about HIV infection. It implies that having HIV makes you dirty - and as the people with HIV who this site is for will tell you - that ain't true.
I'm confused. If you know the girl didn't have HIV - then where exactly will you get it from?
R
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i would never have unprotected intercourse if i didnt know the grl was clean.. is vaginal sex less risk in getting hiv, also the odds are low for a man to recieve hiv from the girl?
Another quick question why is vaginal intercouse less of a risk?
LT,
Please don't use terms like "clean" when referring to HIV. It infers that people with HIV are in someway "dirty", which we are not. I'm sure you didn't mean to be rude, but it's extraordinarily insulting and offensive. Many of the experts here who help people in your situation are HIV positive.
You should also read our Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=220.0).
MtD
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no harm meant by the word clean, sorry
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i was just a little worried about the whole thing..
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no harm meant by the word clean, sorry
LT,
It's fine. You're not the first one to make that mistake. Thank you for your apology.
As for your questions, my advice is that all sexually active people should have a full STD screen at least twice a year. A full screen will include an HIV antibody test. You should make an appointment with your doctor or local clinic to have one done.
Whilst HIV is probably not an issue here other STD's such as chlamydia and gonorrhoea are much more prevalent and contagious than HIV. I would strongly urge you to be tested for these at the very least.
Please do take the time to read our Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=220.0).
Regards,
MtD
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Thanks for your pronpt response, next time ill be using a condom no matter what.. its a scary thought that has been bugging me since having unprotected sex with that girl..
At least now i can put my mind at ease abit knowing that she was not hiv, and that vaginal sex has less of a risk and that there is less of a chance that hiv can be passed on from a woman to a man...
Thnaks once again
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LT,
I hate to burst your bubble, but unless you accompanied this woman to a testing center, you don't know her hiv status. She might not know her hiv status either. The ONLY way to know a person's hiv status - and that includes your own - is through testing.
You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection.
Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.
You should test over this incident unless you know for a concrete fact that this woman is hiv negative. A test at six weeks would be an excellent indication of your hiv status, but you need to test at 12-13 weeks for a conclusive result.
Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.
If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.
Use condoms for intercourse and avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.
Ann
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I agree with Ann here. Also, although HIV doesn't transmit from women to men as frequently, do NOT use that as a safety net. It's less likely but VERY possible.
I can only imagine that you are not 100% sure of her HIV status because you wouldn't be here otherwise. I would NOT contact her or bug her about her HIV status because honestly, it is none of your business. You agreed to have consensual unprotected sex. Therefore you have to deal with the consequences of it alone. As you are sexually active, it is prudent to get a COMPLETE STD panel done because there are more things out there than just HIV.
Test at 13 weeks and do as Ann suggests - use condoms unless you are 100% sure, and not just 95%.
R
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LT,
Just to add on to R's comments, you need to be aware that not everyone knows their hiv status. A lot of people THINK they know. How do I know this? Because I've lived it. I ended up hiv positive because of that sort of thinking. Not only did I believe my partner when he claimed to be hiv negative, but I also would have claimed to be hiv negative for four years when I was actually positive but DID NOT KNOW I was hiv positive. For the record, my partner didn't know either. He was going by a test he'd had - but had also engaged in unprotected vaginal intercourse after that test. I'm sure he also assumed the partners he had after his test were negative. BIG MISTAKE - one we will both pay for the rest of our lives.
Always use condoms until you're in a relationship where you can go and test TOGETHER and receive your results TOGETHER. It's the only way to know for sure. Don't make the same mistakes I did, because you'll end up having to deal with hiv for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. Unprotected intercourse just isn't worth it. USE CONDOMS and test yearly as a matter of routine.
Ann
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ok just a small update, a week after that envcounter i got a sore throat which is not uncommon for me as i seem to always get sore throats.. since then it really hasnt gone away it has a little but still doesnt feel 100%, also i have some muscle pain... Other that that no other symptoms or anything... is it true that "symptoms come and go withing a week" with mine its been ongoing for while...
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LT,
Symptoms, or even the lack of symptoms, means nothing when it comes to hiv infection. ONLY the appropriate test at the appropriate time will reliably inform you of your hiv status.
You must be getting near the six week mark and that would be an ok time to test. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by that time. A negative result at six weeks MUST be confirmed at three months, even though a six week negative rarely changes.
The odds are in your favour of testing negative, but you do need to test. Hiv is nothing to guess or specualte about.
Ann