I'm freaking out..

[Worriedwort]

Hey everyone, obviously it's my first time but I just wanted to introduce myself.

Anyway, this past tuesday I went on a date with a guy that I met online. We were hitting it off really well. One thing led to another and we were in the back seat of his car. He started kissing me pretty hard and his teeth hit mine and I could taste blood. I swallowed my spit to get rid of it. I wasn't sure if it was his or mine, but I'm assuming it was mine because my gums bleed easily. I proceeded to give him unprotected oral(stupid of me, I know). He had a lot of precum and I didn't give him head for longer than 30 seconds(He was a bit large and it hit the back of my throat which made me gag). He gave me head as well and I reached climax and he did not. I've read that this is none-low risk, but I woke up yesterday from a nap with a sore throat and now I have a fever and headache. I know this is too soon to be ARS but I'm just so scared. I asked him if he was STD free and he told me he gets tested all the time and that he is indeed clean, but you can never really take someones word. This was my first ever sexual contact with another person and I feel that its just my luck that I would do something so stupid and irresponsible.

Help me please.. I'm planning to get tested 3 months from now. I don't know how I'm going to last through these 3 months without driving myself mad..

[jkinatl2]

Hello!

From what I read, you performed and received oral sex and engaged in kissing. These are not considered risky for HIV. The only confirmed HIV risks are unprotected anal and vaginal sex. As long as you wear a condom for those activities you can avoid HIV infection.

Saliva is not only NOT contagious, but it actually contains over a dozen identified elements which inhibit HIV and render it impossible to infect. That, and the lack of vulnerable areas in the mouth and oral cavity make getting HIV through performing fellatio nearly impossible. If your oral hygiene were so compromised that you developed large open sores AND stopped producing saliva (Google "meth mouth") then there might be a theoretical possibility.

Absent the notoriously unreliable patient report after the fact, oral transmission has yet to be quantified. There have been no fewer then three different serodiscordant studies lasting three, five and ten years involving thousands of couples who used condoms for penetrative anal and vaginal sex, but barriers at all for any form of oral sex.

Zero infections were linked to oral sex in any of those studies, which perfectly corroborated the existing scientific data.

Use a condom for anal and vaginal sex and you will avoid HIV.

Two quick notes:

As a sexually active person who is not in an exclusively monogamous relationship, you ought to be getting fell STD panels at least twice a year. Some say once a year. I am conservative on that matter, as other STDs are FAR more easily passed than HIV and some are becoming problematic to treat with conventional antibiotics.

Also, please don't use the word "clean" to refer to having no STDs. I have gad HIV/AIDS for over twenty years, but I shower every day. Twice on the days I go to the gym. I keep myself pretty clean, and the implication that I am dirty is not polite.

I hope that this has allayed your fears.

You had no quantifiable risk.

[Jeff G]

Hi Worried . You can stop freaking out now , you didn't have a risk  .Moderator JK told you all you need to know already but since I had this all ready to go I posted anyway .

There are many property's in your saliva that wreaks havoc on HIV by damaging it and rendering it unable to infect .

As for blood, this is only theoretically possible if you repeatedly punched him in the mouth, breaking teeth and causing hemorrhages. And even then, in the thirty year history of the pandemic, not a single infection has been traced to insertive fellatio. Not one. It's just not going to happen.

There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections and you wont be the first .

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME for this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
 

I will say it again , use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!