have i done something wrong?
@mtd
who's posts i always find interesting :).
when you make a point, you make a point.
thank you for being so concise. i see i have a lot to think about and will err on the side of caution. maybe i'll drop a "you don't have to worry about being homeless but we can't be roommates" line on dude.
he is supporting his wife and 3 kids through a divorce. i just can't imagine what that is like ...
best,
d
This will end badly.
MtD
i know you're just being mean cause i said something nice about matty.
i think one of my x roomies was poz...just didnt know about it. saw his profile on a4a a while back and noticed that he didn't have his status checked. of course, this was before i was poz and very naive. i hooked up with some guys that were poz but didnt realize it until after diagnosis...
::) YOU know y, lol ...
...However, this is the funny part and I swear to God this is true... about 4 months later he knocked on my door very late and drunk. He was wanting to mess around. It explained so much about his insecurities and why he moved out. I know this story doesn't help you...I was just reminiscing.
He sounds hot and unavailable----perfect
I keep wondering when I should get the popcorn. ;D
hello,
one of my coworkers needs a place to live and im thinking of letting him live with me. only problem, big lifestyle differences.
cons:
i smoke pot, he doesn't know and won't approve
i'm poz, i'd like to keep that from him
i have a lot of porn.
(is there christian porn?)
I ran an ad several years ago for a roommate in the newspaper--this was in '95 before internet. 98% of respondants were looking for sex. I finally found one guy who was serious. I didn't tell him I was gay. He moved all his stuff in, found out I was gay, and was moving out within 6 hours of moving in. Maybe I should have told him I was gay. However, this is the funny part and I swear to God this is true... about 4 months later he knocked on my door very late and drunk. He was wanting to mess around.
Why don't you just run an ad for a roommate that is poz?
Housing discrimination laws can make that difficult.
Housing discrimination laws can make that difficult.craigslist > housing > rooms & shares
i smoke pot, he doesn't know and won't approve
i probably wouldn't be able to smoke pot at home
So, did ya? ;)
On a serious note, I think Mecch (and others) have some good advice. Skip this guy and get a roommate that's more compatible.
craigslist > housing > rooms & shares
list/look 4 "gay or gay-friendly roommate"
if you're just an individual looking for a roommate, you pretty much can specify what type of person you want to live with. ;) An apartment complex, however, would be subject to housing discrimination laws
Not so in California, where next2u lives. The exceptions to fair housing laws for roommates are narrow.That link mentions 'landlord'.
http://www.rentlaw.com/discrimination/california.htm
I think "medical condition" covers able bodied people as well as disabled. If you can't discriminate against poz people, why would you be allowed to discriminate against neg ? It's 2 sides of the same coin, if you ask me. But I'm not a lawyer.
I did. Even though I was upset he couldn't accept me, I couldn't turn it down. He obviously wasn't totally straight and obviously had issues. I hope he has worked that out and isn't living a secret double-life.Good to hear. He was probably afraid that he'd be found to be gay if he lived with you... guilty by association and all.
That link mentions 'landlord'.
In NC, if the owner lives in the same residence, he can discriminate. Honestly, I don't have a problem with that. Besides being in a relationship with another person, what more intimate living situation can two individuals have except to be co-dwellers? I'd be surprised if there wasn't something similar in CA, but one never can tell about that state! ;)
Let me tell you how it affects me. I own a home. That makes me a "landlord". My partner lives with me, but is not on the title of the house. That makes him a "boarder". And thus the roommate exception doesn't apply. I have a spare bedroom to rent. I tried to rent it out on craigslist a few months ago while I wasn't working. My ad mentioned we were a gay couple. I didn't even ask for a gay roommate or any preference.Huh?
The only answers I got were from trolls, who threatened to sue for discrimination when I didn't send them an application in the mail, but requested they meet in person with me first. One actually asked who owned the house, and how many ppl lived there. I took my room off the rental market because it just wasn't worth the risk of getting sued. I lived off my savings until I found another job. I have pretty much given up on advertising for that room, I keep hoping I will find someone through word of mouth, but it just isn't happening.
Let me tell you how it affects me. I own a home. That makes me a "landlord". My partner lives with me, but is not on the title of the house. That makes him a "boarder". And thus the roommate exception doesn't apply. I have a spare bedroom to rent. I tried to rent it out on craigslist a few months ago while I wasn't working. My ad mentioned we were a gay couple. I didn't even ask for a gay roommate or any preference.The only answers I got were from trolls, who threatened to sue for discrimination when I didn't send them an application in the mail, but requested they meet in person with me first. One actually asked who owned the house, and how many ppl lived there. I took my room off the rental market because it just wasn't worth the risk of getting sued.
The guy discriminates against pot. I wouldn't want to work with him let alone have him sleeping next to my ironing board. I would take my vacation time now and midway through call and give them my two weeks notice. ;)
Have you thought about when he has his Daddy Days? Huh, have you? Unless you are ready for countless hours of Dora the Explorer and her damn backpack I would definitely let this guy find his new life without his wife or I in the picture.
Forgot to mention, plus the fucker has a problem with you smoking weed in your pad.
You live in California, right?? No offense meant, but many people there aren't exactly sane or ethical....
Ladies and Gentlemen, allow me to introduce the new Editor-in-Chief of Generalisation Quarterly . . .
::)
MtD
well,Some of us did care enough to take time do a bit of research and post what we'd found.
i can see some of you still continue to cast stones. i have not offered him a place to stay at this time nor have i responded to any of the responses from my ads on gay roommates or craigslist.
seriously.....some of you people really read a little too much between the lines....
outside of mtd, queen, ann, philly and a handful of others im not really sure that you care...
bleh,
d
well,
i can see some of you still continue to cast stones. i have not offered him a place to stay at this time nor have i responded to any of the responses from my ads on gay roommates or craigslist.
seriously.....some of you people really read a little too much between the lines....
outside of mtd, queen, ann, philly and a handful of others im not really sure that you care...
bleh,
d
Wow this disappoints me. Well, I guess you could just quit smoking herb then... and learn the theme song to Go Diego, Go!!, which is a little easier to swallow than Dora.
Thomass
PS I think you should buy a big dog.
outside of mtd, queen, ann, philly and a handful of others im not really sure that you care...
bleh,
d
outside of mtd, queen, ann, philly and a handful of others im not really sure that you care...
bleh,
d
KEEP WORK AND YOUR PRIVATE LIFE SEPERATE.
(is there christian porn?)
thanks ...There's some truth to that. I apologise for my dismissive, sarcastic response.
it's just been kinda rough and it felt like a lot of people were jumping on my ass.
anyhow, i have to go to bed. thanks again. skeebo & betty, no offense...i didnt name everyone and definitely said + a handful of others ...you both were included.
Oh dear. Looks like someone is fishing for compliments and hugs rather than advice.
lol, thanks cliff.
if i go to another country hopefully they'll have better health care and i can abandon my debt!!!!
but in alll seriousness i'll take your advice.
best,
d
D at least you thought about the health & welfare of that Cat, and gave it up to a shelter for adoption
i had a cat. i wasnt home enough so i had to put him up for adoption. i was raised as an only child...i spent enough of my time alone and have spent a significant amount of time alone. if i am codependent i am also independent by turn.
That's possible, if it wasn't adopted :(
Don't want to be a stick in the mud or anything, but there is a good chance that kitty was put to sleep.