He is getting on my nerves...

[idee]

My husband is going through something where he is trying to feel better, after the home invasion, but his stomach is in knots and he is being a complete butt. I mean his need to try and start an argument with me is ridiculous. He tried this morning and I did not give in. Yet he still snapped at me and walked away. He is trying to take the easy route by trying to get me to respond and he can point a finger. 
I know this because he tries to tell me to ask the psychiatrist if this means something. And usually I spend my 15 minutes asking about my husband's problems.
I refuse to be take on his problems. So I am going to call my psychiatrist and make him work it out without leaving me messed up in the head. I need to be sane for my 15 year old first. Not crazy for him.
I was recently taken off of my Zoloft and I feel good. I am not going backwards.
Plus I know the psychiatrist will tell my husband to see a therapist. And if he sees my therapist he will most likely be in better shape.

[Joe K]

The last time I checked, this was a forum, not a Twitter service.  I'd like the forum to return to actual discussions, rather than random posts by you, about whatever crosses your mind that day.  I believe you are violating the "spirit" of this forum, by incessantly posting such nonsense.  The least you could do is to keep your random thoughts in one thread.

Joe

[Ann]

The last time I checked, this was a forum, not a Twitter service.  I'd like the forum to return to actual discussions, rather than random posts by you, about whatever crosses your mind that day.  I believe you are violating the "spirit" of this forum, by incessantly posting such nonsense.  The least you could do is to keep your random thoughts in one thread.

Joe

Joe, while I get where you're coming from, did you have to be so harsh? If you don't want to read Idee's threads, don't click on them. Your post was a bigger violation of the spirit of these forums than Idee's was, that's for certain.



Idee, I'm moving this thread from the OT forum into the Mental Health forum, as it concerns how you're spending your time with your therapist.

Your husband needs to have his own therapy sessions instead of trying to get counselling via proxy through you. Your therapy sessions should be for discussing your issues, not your husband's.

[tednlou2]

I agree that it seems like a conflict to have the same therapist.  Well, you obviously need the same therapist in marriage counseling. 

[idee]

The last time I checked, this was a forum, not a Twitter service.  I'd like the forum to return to actual discussions, rather than random posts by you, about whatever crosses your mind that day.  I believe you are violating the "spirit" of this forum, by incessantly posting such nonsense.  The least you could do is to keep your random thoughts in one thread.

Joe

I have seen some things in here that look like they don't belong here. I'm not sorry your personality is such crap.
And this is not just what crosses my mind everyday. It is what happens in my life. I type on here to get opinions from intelligent people who have what I have, HIV.
I can not explain why my husband cannot work to people without disclosing his personal information.
Here I don't have to disclose it or explain why we see therapists to deal with things.
I am also on another site for moms. In it the HIV site is dead. No one wants to post or reply.
So I come on here.
If you wanted to sound like a jerk then congrads.
Anyways no wonder why you're trolling the mental health forum.

[idee]

I agree that it seems like a conflict to have the same therapist.  Well, you obviously need the same therapist in marriage counseling.

We are going to see her together.

[tednlou2]

I was curious about something.  Do you have both a psychiatrist and a therapist?  I ask, because you mentioned using up your 15 minutes on your husband.  I know most have very short sessions with psychiatrists.  They are now more for discussing meds and writing scripts. 

You didn't mean you only have 15 mins with your therapist, did you?  I was thinking 15 mins go by with mine, just saying hello and making small talk, before getting into issues.  I have hour sessions.  I assume you do as well, but was just curious. 

[Ann]

I have seen some things in here that look like they don't belong here. I'm not sorry your personality is such crap.
And this is not just what crosses my mind everyday. It is what happens in my life. I type on here to get opinions from intelligent people who have what I have, HIV.
I can not explain why my husband cannot work to people without disclosing his personal information.
Here I don't have to disclose it or explain why we see therapists to deal with things.
I am also on another site for moms. In it the HIV site is dead. No one wants to post or reply.
So I come on here.
If you wanted to sound like a jerk then congrads.
Anyways no wonder why you're trolling the mental health forum.

Idee,

For a start, I already had words with Joe. It's not your place to take moderation of these forums into your own hands once a moderator has dealt with the issue (or any time for that matter - that's what the report to moderator button is for). If you weren't happy with how I dealt with it, you should have contacted me via PM, not addressed Joe yourself.

Second, we do not permit name-calling or personal attacks in these forums - and your use of the word "jerk" falls into that category, as does you trying to insult him by saying "I'm not sorry your personality is such crap." and "Anyways no wonder why you're trolling the mental health forum." Your thread wasn't even IN the Mental Health forum when he replied to you.

This is your first official warning. DO NOT resort to personal attacks or name-calling here again.

Thank you for your cooperation.

Ann

[Joe K]

Idee,

I wish to apologize for my insensitive remarks and I hope you will accept my heartfelt apology.

Joe