Author Topic: Need your advice (Read 8601 times)

w890 · « **on:** December 05, 2008, 02:12:29 pm »

Hey,
a few days ago I had sex with a girl. Of course I used a condom, which is very important for me. After my climax I did not pull out my penis suddenly from her vagina. Maybe I stayed in her for a couple of seconds. Then pulled it out and I was terrified and shocked because the condom was not covering my penis. So I looked and saw that the condom was hanging out of her vagina. Not the whole condom just the end. like one-third was hanging out. I pulled it out and immediately I checked it and saw that my sperm was inside it and the condom had no damage. So how can it be that it slipped off? I mean do you notice when you loose a condom completely inside the vagina and you keep going on with sex, do you notice that? And on my sheet there was fluid. I think it was vaginal fluid which the girl also says but maybe it was my sperm that was coming out from her vagina. I asked her if it could be sperm but she said that she would notice when sperm is coming out from her vagina. So she says no. Was I at a risk? Plz Forum help me and give me some advice.

Ann · « **Reply #1 on:** December 05, 2008, 02:19:02 pm »

w,

You need to read the condom and lube links in my signature line. When using condoms, you're supposed to remove your penis immediately after cumming, and hold on to the bottom of the condom while you do so. After you cum, your penis starts to go soft and the condom won't fit as snugly. What happened to you happens all the time and no, it's not risky for hiv infection. You were covered while you were inside and that's what counts.

No risk.

Ann

w890 · « **Reply #2 on:** December 05, 2008, 02:45:01 pm »

so I can take a deep breath?

w890 · « **Reply #3 on:** December 05, 2008, 05:06:45 pm »

but what was the fluid on the sheet? vaginal fluids? I mean does a woman notice when the sperm is coming out of her? so I had really no risk?

RapidRod · « **Reply #4 on:** December 05, 2008, 05:37:25 pm »

You didn't have a risk.

w890 · « **Reply #5 on:** December 05, 2008, 06:23:15 pm »

so shall I forget the fluid on the sheet and leave this behind? But there was fluid on the sheet

Andy Velez · « **Reply #6 on:** December 05, 2008, 07:03:21 pm »

Yes, you absolutely would have known if the condom had slipped off while you were in your partner. The fact that it came off as you were withdrawing means your penis head was covered during intercourse and that is what matters.

You are worrying needlessly. This was not a risky incident. Really.

w890 · « **Reply #7 on:** December 06, 2008, 07:40:58 am »

but what can be the fluid on the sheet? sperm which was coming out from her vagina? she said she would notice that and feel that if something comes out. vaginal fluid which is produced during sex?

Andy Velez · « **Reply #8 on:** December 06, 2008, 08:51:20 am »

Stop playing detective and tell your mind to give it a rest. You will not in all likelihood ever determine what was on the sheet.

The bottom line in all of this is you had a condom on during intercourse. The manner in which it was protruding from her vagina when you pulled out indicates to me that it had stayed on during intercourse and slipped off as you were withdrawing. That's a not uncommon event. And it's not one that put you at risk. Period.

w890 · « **Reply #9 on:** December 06, 2008, 08:59:55 am »

ok thx sir

Andy Velez · « **Reply #10 on:** December 06, 2008, 09:04:43 am »

You're welcome. Get on with your life.

Cheers.

w890 · « **Reply #11 on:** December 06, 2008, 10:31:50 am »

I will....

w890 · « **Reply #12 on:** December 06, 2008, 10:59:13 am »

u know what. I posted this question on another forum and they said that it was definately a risk coz u dont know if you were unprotected inside her or protected. and the said it is not noticable if a condom slips off during intercourse. what the are they talking.......?

RapidRod · « **Reply #13 on:** December 06, 2008, 11:08:10 am »

Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Andy Velez · « **Reply #14 on:** December 06, 2008, 11:19:39 am »

I've told you my evaluation of the situation. That's not going to change. You can believe it or not.

I can guarantee you that if you continue to search elsewhere on the web you absolutely will find responses to feed your worst fears. If you think you need to get tested at 13 weeks to make sure, then go ahead and do that. It's totally unnecessary and you will just collect the inevitable negative result.

Really don't have anything more to say about this.

w890 · « **Reply #15 on:** December 06, 2008, 11:39:21 am »

Ann · « **Reply #16 on:** December 06, 2008, 11:59:30 am »

w,

We are not responsible for misinformation given out on other websites.

I use condoms and this same situation has happened to me. If the condom had slipped off during the act instead of as you withdrew, the condom would not have been hanging out of her vagina as you described. It would have been pushed up inside - or lying somewhere in the bedding.

If we thought you had a risk, we'd tell you and recommend you test. We're in the business of stopping this virus, not spreading it.

You didn't have a risk and you do not need to test.

Ann

w890 · « **Reply #17 on:** December 06, 2008, 01:34:48 pm »

okay thank u very much ann for ur help. the problem is that i know that i had no risk but in my mind i make up things and then i am switchin on the pc and coming to this forum and asking u frequently the same qustns.....it odd

w890 · « **Reply #18 on:** December 06, 2008, 02:37:20 pm »

hey i have one more qustn. what is bedding?

ah ok now i know

w890 · « **Reply #19 on:** December 07, 2008, 05:06:40 pm »

ok I am honest. My fear is too big. I wanna make tomorrow a test. When I slept with her it was Dec. 1st
tomorrow will be 8. would be the result conclusive?

RapidRod · « **Reply #20 on:** December 07, 2008, 05:11:12 pm »

You didn't have a risk period. You're looking to get a time out on this forum.

w890 · « **Reply #21 on:** December 07, 2008, 05:16:28 pm »

i just wanna know if this is a good choice to do a test

RapidRod · « **Reply #22 on:** December 07, 2008, 05:18:09 pm »

Had you had a risk 8 weeks would not be conclusive, but YOU didn't have a risk.

w890 · « **Reply #23 on:** December 07, 2008, 05:18:58 pm »

8 days

RapidRod · « **Reply #24 on:** December 07, 2008, 05:26:09 pm »

Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

w890 · « **Reply #25 on:** December 08, 2008, 11:33:17 am »

hey guys,
I know that I am annoying you but I just wanna tell you something. Today I went to an information center. I told them my story and they said the same to me as you guys did. The man said like it is no risk. Just a risk for the woman but not for me. But as you know frightened people I just couldn't say yes and leave it. So I called laboratory where I can make a test. Okay to be honest it would not make sense to do a test after 9 days. The doctor said the same. So I told him to do a PCR test. He was like hmm if you wanna do it for your conscious then I am gonna do it for you. He said come tomorrow and we will do it. Costs about 120 Euros which is a lot of money for a student. Now I am sitting here and I am about not to go because I read about and the best thing is to do an antiboy test after the recommended time. I just wanna ask you guys......
Would you recommend me to do a PCR after 9 days? Would anabolic steroids affect the PCR test? Or shall I wait more weeks and then do the test? I know that I am asking to much but plz help and give me an advice.
regards

RapidRod · « **Reply #26 on:** December 08, 2008, 11:37:31 am »

What part of you didn't have a risk is it that you don't understand? Besides that a PCR-DNA test is not an approved diagnostic test.

w890 · « **Reply #27 on:** December 08, 2008, 11:59:10 am »

w890 · « **Reply #28 on:** December 08, 2008, 07:21:30 pm »

hey guys,
i have a question. is fingering with cuts and receiving a blowjob without protection a risk?

RapidRod · « **Reply #29 on:** December 08, 2008, 07:30:38 pm »

MOVE ON.

w890 · « **Reply #30 on:** December 08, 2008, 07:42:23 pm »

move on means i should get a life ^^ ?

w890 · « **Reply #31 on:** December 12, 2008, 09:16:30 am »

hey guys I made today an high developed antibody test. i am livin in germany. it is actually 12 days ago when I had this situation.
a few minutes ago I got the result and it was negative. I mean 12 days say nothing am I right?
but the doctor said you can slow down now a little bit.

Andy Velez · « **Reply #32 on:** December 12, 2008, 09:42:37 am »

You've already been told you weren't at risk. Testing is not necessary and a negative result at anytime is not a surprise.

And yes, you were being told to just get on with your life. I think that's what your doctor was trying to say to you as well.

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