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Title: My mind is going crazy. Was I at risk for HIV?
Post by: beautifuldreams on February 24, 2013, 04:39:54 pm
Hello everyone,
Thanks for reading my post. I'm a bi fem who received oral from another female of unknown status 9 months ago. After the encounter I found out that I had gotten Chlamydia from her. I was shocked because I never knew that someone could have Chlamydia in their mouth and infect someone through oral sex. When I found out it was about 2 1/2 weeks after exposure. I took an elisa test at that time, which was neg. I retested at 87 days via Rapid test where they prick your finger and again after 90 days with an oral swab. Both test were neg. I don't know if I'm just paranoid, but I can't stop thinking that I may have been infected still especially since I contracted Chlamydia. I read somewhere that other STDs increase your risk of HIV. Anyway I took another blood test and am waiting for the results. I'm just really freakin out. What are the chances of false negatives. Can I rely on the rapid tests that I took? Thank you for your time
Title: Re: severe depression, can't move on with my life
Post by: jkinatl2 on February 24, 2013, 04:57:45 pm
Hello everyone,
Thanks for reading my post. I'm a bi fem who received oral from another female of unknown status 9 months ago. After the encounter I found out that I had gotten Chlamydia from her. I was shocked because I never knew that someone could have Chlamydia in their mouth and infect someone through oral sex. When I found out it was about 2 1/2 weeks after exposure. I took an elisa test at that time, which was neg. I retested at 87 days via Rapid test where they prick your finger and again after 90 days with an oral swab. Both test were neg. I don't know if I'm just paranoid, but I can't stop thinking that I may have been infected still especially since I contracted Chlamydia. I read somewhere that other STDs increase your risk of HIV. Anyway I took another blood test and am waiting for the results. I'm just really freakin out. What are the chances of false negatives. Can I rely on the rapid tests that I took? Thank you for your time

YOu can rely on your tests primarily because there is NO risk associated with cunnilingus. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen identified elements which render HIV inert. Other STDs, as you are sadly aware, are far more robust. While it's relatively rare to get chlamydia from receiving cunnilingus, it is not unheard of.

In the history of the HIV pandemic not a single person (male or female) has ever gotten HIV from receiving oral sex. I daresay you won't be the first.

Title: Re: severe depression, can't move on with my life
Post by: beautifuldreams on February 24, 2013, 05:30:36 pm
Thank you kindly. I think the Chlamydia diagnosis really scared me because when I told the doctor how I got it he said he'd never heard of it being transmitted through oral sex, then my mind began to wonder and I started thinking maybe I could've contracted HIV also, but thank you so much, I feel a lot better and more at ease.
Title: My mind is going crazy. Was I at risk for HIV?
Post by: beautifuldreams on July 03, 2013, 12:33:09 am
Hello to all. About 2 days ago I ran into an old bf we exchanged numbers and hung out. We.ended up going to his place. We did a lot of making out and he rubbed his penis against my vagina, shortly after.this.I began to feel him try to penetrate me with the head of his penis. I stopped him.and.told him  to go buy a condom. The head of his penis wasn't in very long. He ended up buying a pack of.condoms and we.proceeded to have sex. I'm really worried that I could've been exposed to.HIV.from the precum. I asked him of his status and of course he said he was clean, but I'm very nervous. Please tell me if I had a risk. I was considering getting Prep, but heard.it's.very expensive, is it worth it in my case? Thanks in advance
Title: Re: My mind is going crazy. Was I at risk for HIV?
Post by: Ann on July 03, 2013, 05:17:15 am
Dreams,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep everything in one thread. It doesn't matter how long it has been since you last posted in your thread or if the subject matter is different.

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What you describe is called frottage and frottage - rubbing genitals together without penetration - is NOT a risk for hiv infection. However, it can be a risk for some of the other, MUCH more easily transmitted STIs.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER FROTTAGE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann