Scared of Having HIV because of Rash

[Syed]

Hello,

I am really scared and do not know what should i do now, the stress and anxiety is killing me.

I live in UAE and i met with one lady she is also living in UAE since long time and she is married. She is an Indian

We started love together and decided to do Vaginal sex .I did sex with her several times and always use the condom and all sperm came out in the condom never broke.

2 times i wore a condom and it torn and i did not notice and involve in Vaginal intercourse 3 - 5 min ,

Now i am afraid that might be i am at risk of HIV , I asked her about HIV status and her husband HIV status and she said she is 200% confident on her husband as she has been living with her past 15 years.

I have done my medical last year and HIV , syphilis, chalamydia, gonnoreah H B and C  were all negative and then i did not involve in any sex except with her.

I did not feel fever , did not swollen lymph node, very mild sore throats but heal with out medicine, now because of tension i felt that some redness / Rash on my skin but it goes and comes please  Help me , only rash occurs then would it be a first seroconversion of HIV , or seroconversion disease comes all together like flu / fever . swollen lymph nodes.

I never had before these some rashes on my body , I fee some needle sensation on my palm (Hand), My palm is red felt some very tiny pimple on fingers that cant be seen but i can feel it.

Please help me and provide me your expert advise.

I read that female to male hiv transmission is about 0.04% which i found equals to Fellatio , is it true.

[Jim Allen]

So the two condoms broke during the act of intercourse?

[Jim Allen]

See your healthcare provider about the rash, plenty of common conditions cause a rash, they need to check it out and treat it.

I asked her about HIV status and her husband HIV status and she said she is 200% confident on her husband as she has been living with her past 15 years.

Living with her husband doesn't means she is HIV-negative, and even if she had tested on the day you had sex, it would not mean anything for several reasons, including the window period.

If you want to know your HIV status, you must test.

I read that female to male hiv transmission is about 0.04% which i found equals to Fellatio , is it true.

In short, no or not in the way you think.

You had a potential real-world risk that meets all the biological and environmental conditions required to aquire HIV. That's all that can be said with certainty. Generally speaking, the receptive partner is more at risk than the insertive partner for several reasons.

As the insertive partner in this case, the odds could be zero if she truly is HIV negative or living with HIV but successfully on treatment; The odds can also increase dramatically, an easy 25x depending on contact with what fluids within the vaginal tract, preexisting STIs or if the person has a high viral load often during initial stages or end stages, etc. etc.

Also, should point out to avoid confusion that fellatio is only a minute risk to the person giving the blowjob, not the person receiving it.

So the two condoms broke during the act of intercourse?

Well, I'll just presume for the moment that they broke during intercourse and it isn't the story that you were messing about with them after the act of sex.

So to know your HIV status, test six weeks after your last potential exposure with a blood-draw (lab) HIV antibody test. The result at this time will rarely change, and retesting at three months generally isn't needed.

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards

Jim

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[Jim Allen]

Some tips on correct condom usage:

Use approved condoms and check for a certification mark (e.g. FDA, C.E., ISO or Kitemark) because the condom complies with safety standards. Check the expiry date and make sure the condom is still within date.

Use lubricant condom-safe water-based lubricants to make condoms more comfortable and reduce breakage risk. – but avoid oil-based lubricants as they can weaken or break condoms.

As for putting the condom on correctly:

Incorrectly done, the risk of breakage can increase. Place the condom on top of the erect penis and pinch the teat at the end of the condom before you start to roll it down the penis. By doing this, you'll squeeze out any air bubbles and ensure there is room for the semen (cum). Roll the condom down to the base of the penis.

If it's on correctly, it will roll downwards easily. If you've started putting it on the wrong way, take it off, and even if you or your partner has not ejaculated (cum), there can still be semen or (pre-cum), so it's important to try again with a new condom. (More to do with risks from other STI's/pregancy than anything else)

Finally, never "test" the condom before or after intercourse. It's not needed at all and could damage the condom, as it's not designed as a reusable (re-stressed) product, and "testing" the condom could lead you to mistakenly think that the condom was damaged during sex when in fact, you caused the damage after the intercourse by trying to "test" it.

Instead, use condoms correctly and consistently. If they don't break during intercourse, there is no reason to stress or test for HIV outside of standard yearly screening.

[Syed]

Can I ask u last question, do all seroconversion  symptoms comes all together , or one by one .
I mean some Web site say heavy flu with fever, swellon lymph node, sore throats , rashes comes all together,  is it like that or one symptom is enough to get to know that these are hiv symptoms

[Jim Allen]

Most people experience no initial symptoms or at least nothing noticeable. Those that do might experience multiple at once or only one symptom, keeping in mind people also might have more common infections and conditions.

The only way to know your HIV status is to test, and as for your symptoms, they are not HIV specific; hence you need to see your healthcare provider to check and treat whatever is causing them.

That is all I am willing to say about "symptoms".

 

[Syed]

Can I ask u last question, do all seroconversion  symptoms comes all together , or one by one .
I mean some Web site say heavy flu with fever, swellon lymph node, sore throats , rashes comes all together,  is it like that or one symptom is enough to get to know that these are hiv symptoms

[Jim Allen]

Most people experience no initial symptoms or at least nothing noticeable. Those that do might experience multiple at once or only one symptom, keeping in mind people also might have more common infections and conditions.

The only way to know your HIV status is to test, and as for your symptoms, they are not HIV specific; hence you need to see your healthcare provider to check and treat whatever is causing them.

That is all I am willing to say about "symptoms".

If you are sick, see your healthcare provider so they can treat whatever is causing you to be sick. As for HIV, regardless of symptoms or lack of symptoms, get tested at the appropriate time to confirm your HIV status.