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Offline Denzel881

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Canker sore on tongue
« on: February 24, 2023, 07:49:10 am »
In our group, we have a friend who just recently diagnose with HIV like 5 months ago, he is very open about it and we have seen hes transformation when he started taking medication. I really have a crush on him, and we started dating. We kiss, there is tongue (very subtle) and an exchange of saliva.

We kiss for like day 1 and day 2 (on day 2, he said he has canker sore, I too have 1, and we still kiss). Im aware the he is HIV positive but because I liked him that much that I did not hesistate to kiss him even though I know I have canker sore in the side bottom of my tongue. He is very open and told us that saliva is not infectious.

My question is, what is the chance of me acquiring HIV, Im a guy by the way. And he also gave me blowjob, after that I masturbated with oil. Are these activities We have done in any way got me acquiring HIV? I want to be prepared, so I will be asking for an honest answer.

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Re: Canker sore on tongue
« Reply #1 on: February 24, 2023, 07:59:01 am »
Read your post three times.

Receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV; thus, it makes sense that after 40+ years of this pandemic in terms of BJs, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

Masturbation also isn't an HIV risk to you, and neither is kissing. You should also know that saliva doesn't contain viable HIV, in fact, saliva is hostile towards HIV breaking down the receptors needed for HIV to infect.

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we have a friend who just recently diagnose with HIV like 5 months ago, he is very open about it and we have seen hes transformation when he started taking medication.

Glad to hear that your friend is doing well.

What you should also know is that once your friends has a suppressed viral load (below 200 copies) for six+ months and then they continue to take their meds, they can not pass on HIV sexually, even if other activities occur such as condomless intercourse, although there is still a risk for other STIs.  See https://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=71864.0

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Canker sore on tongue
« Reply #2 on: February 24, 2023, 08:12:15 am »
Thanks Jim. By the way, when he gave me blowjob, he has a canker sore? What are the chances then that I acquire HIV? And with regards with the kissing, his saliva mixes with my saliva and am sure that his saliva got to my sore in my tongue.

Does these types of scenario somewhat elevate the risk? Im planning on still seeing him again. He is a nice guy, I would just like to be prepared. And hoping I will get a negative result and that I would be very careful soon and just wait for him to become undetectable. Any honest thoughts?

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Re: Canker sore on tongue
« Reply #3 on: February 24, 2023, 08:31:47 am »
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Thanks Jim. By the way, when he gave me blowjob, he has a canker sore? What are the chances then that I acquire HIV? And with regards with the kissing, his saliva mixes with my saliva and am sure that his saliva got to my sore in my tongue.

Asked and answered already.

It's not an HIV risk to you; Also, saliva is hostile towards HIV.  You did not acquire HIV from the activities you mentioned here.

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just wait for him to become undetectable. Any honest thoughts?

Undetectable for 6+ months and if they continue to take their meds, then they can't pass it on sexually. Of course, nobody can guarantee your friend will keep taking their meds, that all comes down to you trusting them and accepting the risk trust can be broken.

Although to be clear ill repeat that the activities mentioned here so far are not an HIV risk to you regardless of their viral load.

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Re: Canker sore on tongue
« Reply #4 on: March 05, 2023, 09:30:46 am »
Hi Jim, thanks for the reply. Its me again, Ive got myself tested yet on that incident and your assessment have calmed me. We are now dating, I dont why, maybe because he is such a nice guy but we make out again and this time he fingered my anus with precum I think. I never felt any wetness but when I checked his penis, there is already a precum.

I dont know if it gets inside my anus when he fingered me or it has been dried out or wiped because of the sheets. In case that it is still wet and it got inside my anus, it wasnt bleeding, but it sure hurts. What are the chances I contracted the virus then? Does being wiped out of the bed, or if theres a tiny bit of fluid increase or decrease my chance of contracting it? Btw he is still detectable.

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Re: Canker sore on tongue
« Reply #5 on: March 05, 2023, 09:36:08 am »
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We are now dating

Wishing you both the best.

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we make out again and this time he fingered my anus with precum I think. I never felt any wetness but when I checked his penis, there is already a precum.

I dont know if it gets inside my anus when he fingered me or it has been dried out or wiped because of the sheets. In case that it is still wet and it got inside my anus, it wasnt bleeding, but it sure hurts. What are the chances I contracted the virus then?


He fingered you and he might have had precum on his fingers, it's not an HIV risk to you.

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