Was this risky?

[AEV555]

Hi guys, this is my first time posting… I always try to keep my risk lower when I hookup by not having anal but I was wondering if this sounds at all risky. I met two guys separately while on vacation and one of them told me he had tested negative 3 months ago and he also did a check a month ago that also came back negative. I only did oral on him but without him ejaculating and when he did ejaculate it was just on my neck and chest (I later noticed I had razor burn from shaving the day before on my neck but not sure if that matters).

The second guy told me he was negative and also on prep. I also only gave him oral, he didn’t ejaculate but I noticed at one point a little precum coming out onto my tongue so I immediately spit it out. He did at one point do simulated anal where he was just rubbing himself on my perineum and the outside of my anus but I don’t remember him putting it in at all (I was 100% sober too). I also never do bareback so I would have pushed him away if he tried. He also mentioned he brought a condom which makes me think he also does safe sex.

Could any of this have put me at risk and is it ok to keeping sticking to oral and handiobs to keep my risk low?

[Jim Allen]

one of them told me he had tested negative 3 months ago and he also did a check a month ago that also came back negative.

The second guy told me he was negative and also on prep

Look, whatever they said is meaningless. Next to that, even if they tested on the day you met, it means nothing due to the window period. The same can be said about them taking PrEP.

If you are concerned about your HIV risks, you should reduce them by using condoms and consider talking to your healthcare provider about taking PrEP yourself. 

I only did oral on him but without him ejaculating and when he did ejaculate it was just on my neck and chest (I later noticed I had razor burn from shaving the day before on my neck but not sure if that matters).

The second guy told me he was negative and also on prep. I also only gave him oral, he didn’t ejaculate but I noticed at one point a little precum coming out onto my tongue so I immediately spit it out. He did at one point do simulated anal where he was just rubbing himself on my perineum and the outside of my anus but I don’t remember him putting it in at all (I was 100% sober too).

Rubbing against you isn't an HIV risk and day-to-day cuts, scratches, small wounds, and razor burn are not a route for acquiring HIV.

Regarding blowjobs, the mouth generally lacks a route for HIV to infect, and saliva also neutralises HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells. Unless you had gaping open wounds in your mouth, giving a blowjob is such a minute HIV that doesn't warrant specific testing outside the standard yearly HIV screening.

Relax.

handiobs

Not an HIV risk to you.

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards

Jim

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