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Received oral sex and can't move on


I'm sorry if my questions are going to be too many. But I hope you will understand.

I posted my question on a different another forum and was told it's a no risk. I don't know how true is that.

I received a blow job 9 weeks ago. About 4 weeks ago, on June 1st, I went through my contacts and contacted the girl just to say hi and so on...
Then on the call she informs me that she is HIV positive. She told me that what we had done was safe. In panic i asked her for us to meet up and talk i couldn't handle that type of info on the phone. We met and she confirmed to me that she is indeed, for about 5 years.

I am in a state of confusion. I posted my question on a few forums and I was there no risk .

I'm having all sorts of digestive issues you can imagine. On top of that my body has been trembling, i think they call it twitching. I did some research and found out that it could be peripheral neuropathy. Which can be a symptom of HIV. And then now I have rashes around my neck.

So what are all these symptoms due to? Of faith I wonder if it's not HIV then maybe hepatitis B/C, gonorrhea syphilis... Or just the stress that is destroying my health.

What if there was cuts in her mouth?
What if her tongue touched my glans during the blow job ?
What if her saliva contained the virus?
Is the mouth not a mucous membranes?
Does the virus pass through the glans or urethra?

Too many what ifs.... questions.. i can't deal anymore

My life has become a hole of depression I don't know how to exit.

When i seat in the midst of all of these symptoms I ask myself the following and answer:

1. Did I have unprotected vaginal with her ?
2. Did I have unprotected anal with her ?
3. Did I share intravenous drugs with her ?

Am i forgetting to mention another risk ???

Or am I creating paranoia from a disease that i can not have ?

Jim Allen:

--- Quote ---What if there was cuts in her mouth?
--- End quote ---

Not an issue. Cuts, scrapes and day-to-day wounds are not an HIV risk. Also, the environment of the mouth is hostile toward HIV.

Some blood can and does happen when giving blowjobs, its not an HIV risk to you unless you tell me something that is worth publishing in the trash media papers, like she needed urgent medical care, like had blood pissing out of her mouth and instead of being a decent human being and helping her to a hospital, you decided to put your penis in her mouth.

--- Quote ---What if her tongue touched my glans during the blow job ?
--- End quote ---

Happy days for you, not an HIV risk.

--- Quote ---Is the mouth not a mucous membranes?
--- End quote ---

Sure and if you had ejaculated into her mouth then she would have had a minute HIV risk from you.  Thankfully for her, the oral mucosa is composed of far more layers of cells (thicker) than the vagina or anal passage and the environment in the mouth is hostile toward HIV.

--- Quote ---Does the virus pass through the glans or urethra?
--- End quote ---

The urethra would be the main concern if you had engaged in an activity that was an HIV risk such as condomless anal or vaginal intercourse, however, you say you didn't engage in those activities.

--- Quote ---What if her saliva contained the virus?
--- End quote ---

Saliva doesn't contain viable HIV, in fact, its hostile toward HIV and breaks down the receptors needed for HIV to cause infection.

Enough, what ifs. None of your what-ifs make any difference and nothing you can dream up would be relevant or change that receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV.  Thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJs, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

Move on with your life, use condoms for any intercourse, consider PrEP as an additional layer of HIV prevention and as you are sexually active test out of standard routine yearly.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards


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Jim Allen:

--- Quote ---We met and she confirmed to me that she is indeed, for about 5 years.
--- End quote ---

It's 2022 and with treatment, people living with HIV can live long and healthy lives, just like their HIV-negative peers. Also, the additional benefit of treatment is once someone living with HIV has suppressed the HIV with meds for 6+ months and continues to take their meds, they can't sexually pass on HIV even if condomless intercourse takes place.

You received a blowjob, you had no HIV risk from this lady.

My two cents, she was willing to give you a blowjob and meet you again, that's nice, prehaps she likes you. So if you are smart, put these irrational fears behind you, be nice, because prehaps she is still is interested in you.


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