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AIDS Activism / Re: Criminal transmission charges dropped
« Last post by JimDublin on Today at 03:31:34 PM »
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Sure, if someone looks to infect someone intentionally then it's bad and they are pretty evil BUT aside from rape cases (which would be criminal by default), it generally takes two to tango and therefore whatever intentions exist, it is still the responsibility of the other person to look after their health. 

I agree with some of what you are saying but not all of it or not the same conclusion.  Maybe i am just simple but if you know you have a heath issue that is transmittable than taking reasonable precautions to prevent forward transmission as you from the two people involved or at really fun parties more than 2  ;D, know the risk is higher hence i feel it is not that unreasonable.

The out of date stuff like spitting and also severity of some laws is very unreasonable and like i said so is disclosure. Must say however spitting generally speaking is disguising.

On the rape note, I agree, but just being default criminal is not enough, take another example the case a few years ago in Holland where they drugged the victims and injected them with HIV infected blood, 12 victims- Extreme but i do want cases like this prosecuted next or on top of being prosecuted for all other offences related to the same event. (handling drugs etc, etc)
 
The other thought is with a lack of infection or STI laws, we see some places/nations using assault/GBH laws instead, a work around. (Offences Against the Person). I'm not sure that the lack of law, so finding cases defaulting to this general law is a good or a healthy way forward.

I'm stepping out of this one though.

Jim
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Off Topic Forum / Re: Interview the Person Below You
« Last post by LeftyBowler300 on Today at 03:22:36 PM »
A. I tried to make stuffed mushrooms with homemade filling. It was awful. Never again. I'll just go buy the premade filling from now on

Q. What's the worst crime you've witnessed in person?
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Estoy infectado? / Re: Se me salió el condon con una prostituta
« Last post by Andy Velez on Today at 03:05:56 PM »
De nada.  A mi me alegre que puedo ayudar.  Adelante con tu vida normal.
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AIDS Activism / Re: Criminal transmission charges dropped
« Last post by CaveyUK on Today at 02:56:02 PM »
Thought about this some more and ya know, I'm going to go a bit more extreme...if they just de-criminalised all of this, it would probably be the best idea.

Sure, if someone looks to infect someone intentionally then it's bad and they are pretty evil BUT aside from rape cases (which would be criminal by default), it generally takes two to tango and therefore whatever intentions exist, it is still the responsibility of the other person to look after their health.

If someone intentionally tried to make someone pregnant, then it would be bizarre to see that criminalised. People would generally say that it is as much the partner's responsibility to ensure she doesn't get pregnant as the males. And believe me, there have been enough stories of men lying about having the snip or poking holes in condoms etc.

The problem with criminalisation is it is usually one persons word against another. Especially when no transmission has occurred. 'He didn't disclose' cannot be proven one way or another. 'He must have sabotaged the condom' cannot really be proven. So it all comes down to the weight of the law being applied simply on the fact the person had HIV and had the temerity to have sex which is grossly unfair.

If there was a way of categorically confirming that the 'intent' was there, then fine. But this isn't a case of taking a knife to a fist fight. The other partner can in all situations ensure they are protected adequately. As I said before, the exception being rape.

For that reason, it is probably fairer to just get rid of all the criminalisation of HIV. A by-product of this may be that people will take a bit more accountability for their own safety as a result.

Let's not have ANY grey areas. If you have sex with anyone without adequate protection then you are at risk of STI's (including HIV) or Pregnancy. Should this happen it is not a crime, but just an unfortunate situation.

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Am I Infected? / Re: Risk Analysis - Threesome (FFM)
« Last post by JimDublin on Today at 02:44:34 PM »
Hi

Look touching and kissing are not HIV risks.

But this part is real simple, unprotected intercourse is the main sexual route of HIV transmission, past test results, other peoples results and trust do not prevent HIV.  Intact condoms do, and so agreeing to unprotected intercourse is accepting a level of risk for HIV transmission. 

Hence we advice people to reduce risk, use condoms and test at least yearly.
If you choose to do so or not is up to you.

Jim
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Insurance, Benefits Programs & HIV / Re: Illinois ADAP
« Last post by mashers1234 on Today at 02:41:40 PM »
Thank you all. I made a few calls and the way to go, in my situation, and I hope this helps others, is to roll into an IRA account to account and take out what I need to live on which will entail a 10% penalty + regular income tax on the withdrawn amount. Your help leading me to make these inquiries really helped calm a lot of stress and if anyone else is in my situation I hope this gives some guidance. Lining our ducks up keeps us healthy.
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Living With HIV / Re: Casual Sex - Getting Back Into The Saddle
« Last post by CaveyUK on Today at 02:38:51 PM »
you could always go to a sauna or somewhere similar, keeping things fairly anonymous whilst saving the brunch and home reveal to 'dates'
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Estoy infectado? / Re: Se me salió el condon con una prostituta
« Last post by Horho123 on Today at 02:36:59 PM »
Muchas Gracias por su respuesta, me tranquiliza mucho su comentario, seguiré sin probar ya que pensar en los 3 meses de ventana solo me da más ansiedad y algún día que haga una prueba de sangre igual haré de VIH solo por control. Felicidades por el sitio tan informativo y de manera gratuita. Ayudan a muchas personas!
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Am I Infected? / Re: Risk Analysis - Threesome (FFM)
« Last post by anonthrowaway911 on Today at 02:35:28 PM »
Thanks for your reply, Jim! My GF and I have not been with anyone else for more than four years so there is no risk between me and her. This incident was the only time we both been with someone else.

And by saying "simply not a HIV risk to you[,]" means both of us, correct?

No its makes no difference.  What you posted was simply not a HIV risk to you.
 
The only HIV risk you generally had was/is having unprotected sex with your GF, a risk you seem happy to accept.
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Am I Infected? / Re: Risk Analysis - Threesome (FFM)
« Last post by JimDublin on Today at 02:19:56 PM »
No its makes no difference.  What you posted was simply not a HIV risk to you.
 
The only HIV risk you generally had was/is having unprotected sex with your GF, a risk you seem happy to accept.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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