Rough kissing

[ste82]

Thanks Andy.. I can appreciate what you're saying, I just can't seem to shake this nagging thought out of my mind. Found this on the Body, which seems to suggest a slight risk (of course, I realise that you don't need to hunt for long to find contrasting advice).

'It is not (if one wants to be as safe as possible) advisable to ejaculate on someone else's penis or labia, nor to touch the genitals with someone else's fresh semen or vaginal secretions on the hand.'

Sorry to keep on, I just don't know how common the scenario I describe is (given all the ejaculation that goes on with mutual masturbation). I am worried that his cum should have got into my urethra - although for some reason this is considered 'very difficult'. The thing is I actually like this person - we've dated for a short while so far - and I was willing for mutual masturbation.

Thanks for listening and for any responses..

[Andy Velez]

I don't care what that said on The Body. That's strictly theoretical. In the real world of HIV transmission doesn't happen in that manner and I don't care who you quote.

What I am telling you is that if you continue to allow your anxieties to get you to surfing the net, I can absolutely guarantee that you'll find dis-information to feed your worst fears.

The responses you have received here and the information in the Transmission lesson are the real deal. If that's not enough for you then I suggest you use other sources in which you have more confidence. We're not here to hold your hand through each and every anxious moment you have about your sexual activities. Feelings are not facts.

Despite what you find elsewhere, in terms of sexual activities if you have intercourse and the insertive partner consistently uses a condom you are pretty much covered as far as HIV is concerned. You don't have to believe that if you don't want to.

But I am going to warn you that you're awfully close to getting a time out for coming back here repeatedly with concerns that we've addressed.

 

[ste82]

Hey, haven't posted in quite a while now. Something happened today and it has got me a bit anxious..

Someone I work with was trying to remove a staple from a booklet, and stabbed her thumb in the process (not an unusual thing to do so I didn't really think anything of it). Within seconds of this happening I then attempted to remove the staple and did exactly the same thing to my thumb.

Is this anything to be concerned about? Thanks for your time.

[Andy Velez]

Ste, I am not even going to bother dignifying that one with an answer.

If you haven't learned what's a risk and what isn't after nearly two years of hanging around here, either 1) you're not listening to what's been said to you or 2) we've failed you or 3) you need to go see a counselor or other professional to discuss how come you get stuck on unwarranted fears about HIV.

[ste82]

Hello

I have been working through issues and I've not been here in a while, however there is something which I think needs a response and I hope you can help me out.

Basically a guy I was with was masturbating me from behind. He was erect and very moist with precum. He made contact with me and although there was a bit of pressure there was no insertion (he even said don't worry he wasn't going to stick it up there, and surely I would have felt it anyway). However, my bottom has been very inflamed with sores/haemerroids for a while (won't clear up) and now I'm concerned about direct contact.

Please help!

[RapidRod]

Again, you were never at risk.

[ste82]

Thanks Rod

It's just because I felt some pressure with his damp penis against my anus, but then I guess there would have to be quite strong pressure for insertion/intercourse to take place.

S x

[Andy Velez]

Rubbing against your anus is not a risk for transmission. And I daresay if you had been penetrated you would definitely have felt it. I don't see any cause for further concern about this incident.

Keep the condoms handy in case things move along further in the future and you're actually getting into having intercourse.

 

[ste82]

Hey!

It's been ages since I have been on here - I have been trying to get on with life and I am generally doing a lot better now (it dawned on me that I was wasting so much of my life worrying).

I am back with a slight worry - basically a few days ago I was out walking in a woodland and I got some cuts/grazes on my legs. I later noticed a trail of what appears to be semen on the bottom of my rolled up jeans (it also happens to be a cruising spot) and so I am a bit worried. I know that HIV does not survive for long at all in the environment but I also had fresh cuts/grazes. Should I be concerned? I am already vaccinated for Hep. Thanks in advance.

[RapidRod]

■Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result,  or no-risk situation will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

[jkinatl2]

Hey!

It's been ages since I have been on here - I have been trying to get on with life and I am generally doing a lot better now (it dawned on me that I was wasting so much of my life worrying).

I am back with a slight worry - basically a few days ago I was out walking in a woodland and I got some cuts/grazes on my legs. I later noticed a trail of what appears to be semen on the bottom of my rolled up jeans (it also happens to be a cruising spot) and so I am a bit worried. I know that HIV does not survive for long at all in the environment but I also had fresh cuts/grazes. Should I be concerned? I am already vaccinated for Hep. Thanks in advance.

Four years on the forum. And you come here with this.

You've either learned nothing, have an irrational phobia that we cannot address, or are simply trolling us.

[Andy Velez]

At this point I am going to warn you that if you come back with more symptoms and what ifs you are going to find yourself getting a Time Out from the site.

HIV is not your problem. Symptoms are something for you to discuss with your doctor. And if you can't let go of your irrational fears then talk with a counselor or other professional. HIV is not your problem. We can't help you with anything else in this setting. Consider yourself warned about a Time Out.