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Main Forums => Living With HIV => Topic started by: NycJoe on March 22, 2011, 09:30:02 am
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So I am up for a job very important to me. Had 2 telephone interviews. Went in person this morning. NYC has over 8 million people. What are the chances that the guy who interviewed me in person is the guy I had sex with a few months ago? I can count on one hand how many people I have had sex with in the last couple of years. He was very professional but obviously recognized me and smiled a few times. All I was thinking was, is this guy ever going to hire someone that fucked him? Did I do a good job of nailing him? Did I land on the dismount? He was asking me all of these business related questions and all I could think of was this stuff. We shall see.....LOL. I was speechless.
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Neither of you acknowledged you knew each other biblically? Sounds like a Seinfeld episode.
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I think you will get this new job... its a shoe-in.... or in this case its a cock-in. Congrats!
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So I am up for a job very important to me. Had 2 telephone interviews. Went in person this morning. NYC has over 8 million people. What are the chances that the guy who interviewed me in person is the guy I had sex with a few months ago? I can count on one hand how many people I have had sex with in the last couple of years. He was very professional but obviously recognized me and smiled a few times. All I was thinking was, is this guy ever going to hire someone that fucked him? Did I do a good job of nailing him? Did I land on the dismount? He was asking me all of these business related questions and all I could think of was this stuff. We shall see.....LOL. I was speechless.
Yes, it's an incredible coincidence, but coincidences happen. I would think that if you were composed and professional during the interview, and focused on the job and the business, it would make a big impression on him. Strange coincidences and awkward situations do happen occasionally in business, as well as your personal life, and sometimes they even overlap. This was an opportunity to show him how your handle yourself professionally in an unexpected situation. Hopefully you rose to the occasion (sorry, I couldn't resist the double-entendre).
As a manager in my company, I don't believe I am prevented from hiring anyone that I've had a relationship with in the past (sexual or otherwise). But I would disclose it to my manager first, just to be sure everything was out in the open.
Good Luck!
Henry
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I'm also wondering if you disclosed your HIV status to this man prior to having sex with him? If not, well, you really do have an awkward situation on your hands. If so, then I think your story highlights why disclosure up front can avoid messy situations later.
Regards,
Henry
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Wow that is a very awkward situation! And a very rare one too! I hope you get the job man!
@GSO: Seinfeld episode! So true! I can see it now... To me it sounds like an Elaine story-line. LOL
Dan
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I'm also wondering if you disclosed your HIV status to this man prior to having sex with him? If not, well, you really do have an awkward situation on your hands. If so, then I think your story highlights why disclosure up front can avoid messy situations later.
Regards,
Henry
I hope the OP is not offended, but I did find this very humorous. I mean what are the odds? I am surprised that I haven't had this happen to me in some sort of way other than rounding the corner at the Y and bumping into someone who had their dick up my ass at one time or another. As Henry brought up, I really hope you disclosed otherwise a funny incident ends up not so funny. Sometimes we don't know how our "urge to merge" will end up.
Good luck on the job interview!
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Yes thankfully I did disclose. I remember it so well because he said that's what condoms were made for. If this were not so ridiculously funny I would probably be more worried about the job. I think I am still in shock. When I walked around the corner and saw his face I about died. On the inside I was like..hey I fucked you, hire me. On the outside of course all professional. Stuff like this NEVER happens to me. I lead a very boring life! But it will be a good story to tell I suppose.
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I lead a very boring life! But it will be a good story to tell I suppose.
Indeed it will, I have a friend who says if a story doesn't end in sex what's the point?
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lol what a small world!! do you really want this job? Is he the hiring manager aka the boss? If so, I would definitely look for other opportunities. Imagine once he becomes your boss, you will have so much in common, same job, same colleagues, same coffee break, same team dinner, oh you will use the same toilet...
Is he single? what if he wants more? what if he has a big mouth?
also once someone finds out, both of you will be deemed the office sluts...run! far far away!! hope the sex was good tho... :-)
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Did I land on the dismount?
Priceless! ;)
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Wow that is a very awkward situation! And a very rare one too! I hope you get the job man!
@GSO: Seinfeld episode! So true! I can see it now... To me it sounds like an Elaine story-line. LOL
Dan
Awkward is when you had sex with a co-worker, I have been to a lot of places before, but I have NEVER been there ;D I did when I was in the NAVY, but we were on 2 different Ships, so he wasn't really someone I worked with, I guess what I'm trying to say is, it's like he worked @ another location ;D
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lol what a small world!! do you really want this job? Is he the hiring manager aka the boss? If so, I would definitely look for other opportunities. Imagine once he becomes your boss, you will have so much in common, same job, same colleagues, same coffee break, same team dinner, oh you will use the same toilet...
Is he single? what if he wants more? what if he has a big mouth?
also once someone finds out, both of you will be deemed the office sluts...run! far far away!! hope the sex was good tho... :-)
Didn't you read the OP? He said the job is important to him and that they were both highly professional. Plus, you gotta give other professionals the benefit of the doubt that they handle themselves professionally too. All sorts of affairs go on in the workplace and it doesn't equate with being deemed office sluts as a net effect.
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NYC Joe,
I think this is a wonderful story---funny and sure did spice up your life, huh?
Hope you get the job. He sounds like a great person to be working for or with.
Keep us posted!!
Em
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Neither of you acknowledged you knew each other biblically? Sounds like a Seinfeld episode.
Sounds like they both knew it and "didn't go there" and why would anyone, in such a highly professional and scripted kind of encounter.
Anyway, cause he smiled, my guess he's cool about it and the past won't hurt and might help. How was the sex anyway? And was he in HR or would he be an office colleague? I think him being in HR would be a small extra bonus in your favor because he would be even more professional.
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Interesting....But didn't he asked you to f**k him again this time? If not hope he won't give you the job. :P
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If you get and accept the post I look forward to the first day on the job post..
t
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Hope you get the job, sounds like there is already a connection. I had a situation like this, once I was diagnosed with HIV. I just found out and went to my initial appoint at the Immune Deficiency Clinic at the hospital where I was recommended to go. The nurse did all her stuff and than the social worker came in and yes, I had sex with him, a couple times in fact. Its been awhile and we definately knew and later after the interview of finding the place where I am, we talked about our meetings, and I now look forward to seeing him at my appointments. We both have significant others...not partners. He always talks to me both b4 and after my appointment, I am wondering if he does this to all the patients or just me. Maybe someday I will ask him.
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Reminds me of when Jack McFarland was marrying Rosario in order for her to get a green card. They had to meet with immigration. The gov't worker interviewing them turned out be a trick Jack hooked up with. Those are all real people, right?
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LOL, I hope they are all real people!
That episode was hilarious!
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Good luck with getting the job.
And assuming you get it, I look forward to your company Christmas party.
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From the title of the thread I was imagining a porn scenario...like you went to the interview and nailed the interviewer during the interview...but it sounds like you handled it well anyway!
I had a relationship with a guy at work for a little while but we broke it off amicably. We work in different areas but our job duties do have us in contact and there's no tension at all (TG.)
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Well I guess my dick wasn't big enough. (Ha). I went in for a second interview and in addition they had me come in to work for a few hours (paid of course) to see how I worked. It's the kind of job that you have to prove your skills. Anyway the guy I "did" was pulling for me, the coworker I would have had really liked me a lot, but another person there was very challenging and I believe it was because of him I was not chosen. He grilled me about my resume saying things like, a bachelor degree means nothing to me (I graduated in December) and why do you have your GPA on your resume because A's mean nothing. I of course remained calm but mentioned that yes, good grades do not mean you will be great at your profession, however they do prove dedication and effort. In the end the guy I had sex with was kind enough to personally call me to tell me they chose the other candidate. It was actually a good experience as they had interviewed 8 people and it came down to 2 of us. I wasn't sure I was going to take it as the benefits were lacking. He did say at the end of the call he hopes to run into me again. No complaints here. :)
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Sounds like the 'means nothing to me' dude may have some issues. Keep the GPA on the resume because A's do mean a great deal. I think maybe that one has a bit of an inferiority complex and you brought that to the surface. He saw you as a threat (from my dispassionate point of view).
Better luck next time!
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Sorry you didn't get the job man. That guy that was drilling you sure did sound like a major douche!
I know exactly what it's like getting beat by another applicant for the most trivial of reasons. You'll find something!
Dan
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Sorry you didnt get that.
At least you can call the HR guy and fuck him again. Since he seems game, when you do fuck him, throw a couple of hard ones as payback, hehe.
About the douche. Did the job require a college degree? if so, hes a total douche.
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I thought you had the job in the bag, Joe. That other guy sounds like a dick, and he's wrong about the GPA..lol I've actually had one interviewer tell me to always include it.
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Well as you get up in years GPA doesnt seem very important but certainly for a recent grad or new in one's career.
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I'm sure you'll get it ...and maybe he'll be thinking Employee with benefits? (lol)
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I'm sorry I didn't scroll down enough before I wrote..UGH. bad habit. speaking too soon. I liked your answer. Good Luck in the Future.
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that guy sounds like a jerk joe. at least you dont have to work with him now. thanks for the great read and happy job hunting!
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I say give him a call, you never know what you may screw out of him :D
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I'm sorry, but, I just cannot get behind that concept of fucking where you have to work everyday, I mean I've seen this before in my 25 yr career, and I can tell you all that doing THIS doesn't end well, and that's no lie, I've seen it many times :-X when you throw-in STDs, AIDS, sexual harassment law suits, pregnancy, divorce, it's really not a pretty picture in the workforce :(
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I can tell you all that doing THIS doesn't end well, and that's no lie, I've seen it many times
That old corny saying is actually true: 'Dont get your honey where you make your money'!
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My boyfriend at the time was hired to work on the same psychiatric unit I was working, same shift. We also worked with a married straight couple and a lesbian couple. No problems for any of us.
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My boyfriend at the time was hired to work on the same psychiatric unit I was working, same shift. We also worked with a married straight couple and a lesbian couple. No problems for any of us.
It can happen w/o negative repercussions but for many workplace romances that dont go well, tension can exist after the 'luvin' goes south. I got involved with a dude at work once..... DISASTER!!
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My boyfriend at the time was hired to work on the same psychiatric unit I was working, same shift. We also worked with a married straight couple and a lesbian couple. No problems for any of us.
There isn't a problem until you start having sex w/ other workers, then things can go SOUTH really fast, your otherhalf or a married couple, well that doesn't count, and not what I'm speaking of here, of course there wouldn't be any problems in your situation ;)
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I don't think I would want an office romance. I've never had one before, but I can see how it could be disastrous: rumors, gossip, people taking sides if the relationship goes sour, lots of drama and stress added to work...
That's relationships... having sex on the side is a different matter I think ;) (Both parties would have to be honest with each other that it's just sex and nothing more... or am I wrong?)
Dan
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I don't think I would want an office romance. I've never had one before, but I can see how it could be disastrous: rumors, gossip, people taking sides if the relationship goes sour, lots of drama and stress added to work...
That's relationships... having sex on the side is a different matter I think ;) (Both parties would have to be honest with each other that it's just sex and nothing more... or am I wrong?)
Dan
Or maybe not ;D honest is always the best policy, but sometimes it's not, ever heard of the DL=Down-Low ;D
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I can see how it could be disastrous: rumors, gossip, people taking sides if the relationship goes sour, lots of drama and stress added to work...
AND to add, getting an occasional boner while at work. Oy Vey!!!
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Or maybe not ;D honest is always the best policy, but sometimes it's not, ever heard of the DL=Down-Low ;D
Hey, saw that we posted at around the same side.
Of course, as I said, I don't have any experience with office romances or anything. So I'll defer to your experience ;D
In my mind, I just thought that if both persons agreed that it's just sex and nothing more... then why would there be problems?
Oh, and boners at work, I'm totally guilty of that!
Dan
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I can tell you that they set soap operas at hospitals for a reason. DRAMA!!!
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Speaking of affairs, my wife works with a guy who has slept with two of their coworkers, both married. About 6 months ago my wife and him had to go to Mexico to do an audit for one of their manufacturing companies. When I first heard of it I didn't think anything of it. I just figured I know my wife and I trust her, she's a grown woman.
Well, I have to admit-- when she called me from the hotel bar while having a couple of drinks with the guy it bothered me. And, when she got back and told me she asked the dude if he slept with Wendy, it bothered me some more.
I accepted it because, like I said, she's an adult. I trust her to make decisions that will always honor our marriage...
But I have to admit, with these new circumstances and a lot of things left unanswered, I wonder. Most of my friends say something is not right. I've decided to let it play out- waiting to see where it goes from here.
Sorry Joe for the hijack, I know this wasn't what you were necessarily talking about. The subject came up and I just felt the need to vent a bit.
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Speaking of affairs, my wife works with a guy who has slept with two of their coworkers, both married. About 6 months ago my wife and him had to go to Mexico to do an audit for one of their manufacturing companies. When I first heard of it I didn't think anything of it. I just figured I know my wife and I trust her, she's a grown woman.
Well, I have to admit-- when she called me from the hotel bar while having a couple of drinks with the guy it bothered me. And, when she got back and told me she asked the dude if he slept with Wendy, it bothered me some more.
I accepted it because, like I said, she's an adult. I trust her to make decisions that will always honor our marriage...
But I have to admit, with these new circumstances and a lot of things left unanswered, I wonder. Most of my friends say something is not right. I've decided to let it play out- waiting to see where it goes from here.
Sorry Joe for the hijack, I know this wasn't what you were necessarily talking about. The subject came up and I just felt the need to vent a bit.
PREACH Tomas, I understand your delima, my otherhalf isn't Poz, but he's a grown man, and I cannot tell him what he should or shouldn't do with anyone on Manhunt or adam 4 adam, I told him, that if you get teh aids, don't blame me ???
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I'm sorry, but, I just cannot get behind that concept of fucking where you have to work everyday, I mean I've seen this before in my 25 yr career, and I can tell you all that doing THIS doesn't end well, and that's no lie, I've seen it many times :-X when you throw-in STDs, AIDS, sexual harassment law suits, pregnancy, divorce, it's really not a pretty picture in the workforce :(
His untill then unknown child contacting you at work...........
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His untill then unknown child contacting you at work...........
Theyer no dear :D I was stating a fact about how this isn't a good thing to do @ work ;)
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Hah, what a classic story! It's that bloody small world syndrome striking again. Life is so full of coincidences. At least you know you were down to the final 2, and all job interview experience is useful for next time. Better luck with the next one!
Have to say, regarding the topic of getting off with co-workers... it's easier said than done. Christmas parties = minefield! When I was a lot younger, one girl wouldn't take the hint... I told her I was gay. She burst into tears. In the middle of the Christmas dinner. Roughly 200 people in the room sat at various tables all went silent while she left sobbing and I sat there looking like a total douchebag.
So next year when almost the same situation happened, I just took the path of least resistance! :P
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So next year when almost the same situation happened, I just took the path of least resistance! :P
Yeah, well just shag-her that's what she probably wanted anyway, women are funny that way, I have found that most of them don't care if your gay, a shag is a shag, str8 or gay to me ;D
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So next year when almost the same situation happened, I just took the path of least resistance! :P
You read her for the psychopath she was?
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You read her for the psychopath she was?
Same situation, different psychopath :)
I have a very poor track record of office xmas parties... :P
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I think it's for the best, personally. Not working right now, but when I am I don't like to have any outside friends, lovers or family there. I prefer it to be my space and my thing totally. I don't mind making friendships from work, but they generally remain in the "office friends" catagory
I like to leave the work away from home and the home away from work. It helps to make each one an oasis from the other, if needed.
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I agree. For me, ideally work friends are work friends. For instance I would not want work friends to be my friends on facebook and such. My last boss wanted to befriend me on facebook. I thought he was kidding. I am a private person like that though. Now this last situation with the interview was unexpected. But we both acted appropriately and I think we would have had they offered and I accepted the job. There was no emotion involved of course. But again a fun story to tell in the future to friends.
Joe
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Yup work is , well work, play time is after work, and that shouldn't include sex w/ co-workers ;)
that's 2 different things I'm in agreement w/ both Tim & Joe :)
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It all depends on the personalities involved and the work setting.
I think co-workers can become friends.
And I also think co-workers can fall in love. Happens all the time.