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[theojs]

Hello, im numb.......not sunk in......i was safe as possible but obviously not safe enough. Ive just turned 48yrs old. I wont tell my family or close friends.
Im determined to work with this as long as i can......i want to see grandchildren come into the world and grow up.....i want to become an old person......im frightened, but strong.
I keep thinking this is just like any other virus and i need to keep myself healthy. I dont know what more to say, but i just dont want to feel alone with this, but dont want the world thinking wrong of me.
If somebody wanted to just say hi whos poz i would appreciate it.
Thankyou xx

[zach]

Hi Theo   

We're all HIV+ here. Welcome to the club, and the group.

Sorry about your diagnosis. It is a mindfuck, and a whirlwind of emotions. We know where you are now, I hope you can look around and see where we are and find some hope.

Please don't despair, you're going to be alright. Living with the virus is a learned skill. Learn from us, learn from your medical team.

Up at the top of your screen is a button "HIV/AIDS Basics" Go through each of those lessons. Ask us questions if you need help understanding. But don't overwhelm yourself with information, and be careful of the internet, there is a lot of outdated information floating around.

Allow yourself to process all the emotions that flooding over you right now. Cry and scream if you need to. Come here and rant and cuss at the injustice of everything. It's ok.

But don't freak out. Take a deep breath, and remember you're the same person you were yesterday. Be patient, the first couple of months entering care, are a difficult and frustrating time. Have you been referred to a ID doctor yet to start the process?

Remember, you'll be ok. You'll see your grandkids one day. You'll grow old.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJUhlRoBL8M

[CaveyUK]

Hi and welcome

Can't really add much to what Zach said, other than educate yourself (but please disregard anything older than a few years, as it is likely out-of-date) and realise that your life will go on just as it always would have done, with just a few minor adjustments.

You will be fine

[Jim Allen]

Zach and Cavey have given you good advice, so I have nothing to add but I did want to say welcome to the forum and your not alone, feel free to ask anything we are here to support each other.

Hope to hear more from you.

Jim

[Tonny2]

Hello, im numb.......not sunk in......i was safe as possible but obviously not safe enough. Ive just turned 48yrs old. I wont tell my family or close friends.
Im determined to work with this as long as i can......i want to see grandchildren come into the world and grow up.....i want to become an old person......im frightened, but strong.
I keep thinking this is just like any other virus and i need to keep myself healthy. I dont know what more to say, but i just dont want to feel alone with this, but dont want the world thinking wrong of me.
If somebody wanted to just say hi whos poz i would appreciate it.
Thankyou xx

         ojo        Hello, first of all, a big hug on your way....I was told in January 1995, I would live two more years, since then, I saw four nieces and two nephews born and grew up, now the oldest ones are in their first year in college, I have become a grand-uncle (OMG, I'm an old fart) of four babies, and in July, I'm expecting one more grand-nephew....so, I think you will have the same chances and joy I had, just you have to start treatment and take your med/s, as prescribed and a positive and strong attitude, you need to be strong, we understand how you are feeling right now, but it will get better, especially if you want to keep living for the reasons you mentioned...you do not have to tell anyone, nobody can tell you are hiv positive just by looking at you, in my case, I've been living with aids/hiv for almost 28 years, and the only people that know about me is my family, no, it is not "self stigma", as I read somewhere, it's just my prerrogative, I'm not telling everybody about my hemorrhoids problems, lol, so, just focus yourself in your dx now, digest the news, get informed, and we are here for you, you are not alone anymore, you can count on us for support and information, there are lots of guys who know a lot about hiv, you are in the right place...I'm sorry for the dx, but, now you know it, now, you fight it...keep planning for the future, you will be around for a long time...keep us posted, start making a list of questions you may have for your ID doctor...more hugs       ojo

[theojs]

Thankyou for all your lovely replies, its good to know i have people here to give me that virtual hug when i need it.
I have now realised the person who gave me this and so many things now make sense when i look back over the last year.
I struggling whether to contact the man himself or let my nurse do this?
I am seeing my doctor for full results and to start meds in two weeks when they know which meds are suitable and cause less side effects.
Ive had a good cry as you guys probably know we ladies are more emotional about these things lol.......
I cant tell anyone in my family or friends, i know nobody can know about this virus just by looking at me bu i come from a very small town and i would be isolated......
I trust my health team and yes im trying not to ready all the stuff on the web as it mindfucks you as was referred.
Thankyou so much for your comments, it nice to know im going to grown an old lady by still doing what im doing.....
If someone could advise me whether i contact this man?? would be a help please xxx

[Jim Allen]

Hi

Look my take on partner notification is it is important and if you are not ready to do this yourself and the clinc can do it for you than let them. 

Jim

[theojs]

 :)THANKYOU

[Tonny2]

Thankyou for all your lovely replies, its good to know i have people here to give me that virtual hug when i need it.
I have now realised the person who gave me this and so many things now make sense when i look back over the last year.
I struggling whether to contact the man himself or let my nurse do this?
I am seeing my doctor for full results and to start meds in two weeks when they know which meds are suitable and cause less side effects.
Ive had a good cry as you guys probably know we ladies are more emotional about these things lol.......
I cant tell anyone in my family or friends, i know nobody can know about this virus just by looking at me bu i come from a very small town and i would be isolated......
I trust my health team and yes im trying not to ready all the stuff on the web as it mindfucks you as was referred.
Thankyou so much for your comments, it nice to know im going to grown an old lady by still doing what im doing.....
If someone could advise me whether i contact this man?? would be a help please xxx

          ojo        Hello there....some of us (men( do have a good cry too,...I'm glad you are looking forward to see your ID doctor and start treatment, you might be a lucky one who will take a pill a day, grrrr!!!...please, let's us know how it goes with your ID doctor and Dracula...make a list of the questions you might want to ask the ID doctor, just a thought,

If I were you, I would let this guy know about the chances of him having hiv, either you want to do it yourself or via the nurse, I guess he doesn't know he might have it, so, he might want to know it, so he can be treated, that, letting him know,  will make you feel better about yourself because I think is the right thing to do, you don't think he knew it, do you?...best of luck, keep us posted, welcome again and do not worry, do not tell anyone if you choose to keep it to yourself, try to keep living your life as you used to do it, life goes on, we will see you in here for a long time, as long as you want to keep fighting and living...hugs          ojo