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Precum on Condom - Questions
« on: September 15, 2022, 03:43:34 am »
Dear POZ Team, I have read other threads like this,but I just need to ask for my own sake and tell my story:

So on Monday I had protected Anal Sex with a Transwoman. The only thing i worry about is,that when it was time to put the condom on,she would put her precum between her index finger and thumb and then open the condom packet and put it on. She stroked a bit before but Im sure there was precum left.. residue... we then procceeded to put coconut oil on the condom and stroked a bit more and then put it in my bum for 1 minute. We tried again later and she again took it between her fingers and showed me and then procceeded to take the package,open it and then put the condom on her penis and then stroke it a bit,while there was precum on. She would then perform the act but not really long and also not fully. She did not ejaculate and the condom stayed on all the time,while she was inside me. Im sure the amount of precum was suuuuper low,but Im still so worried. I dont even know if she was infected and I highly doubt it,but I still need to know how high the chances of me contracting HIV are due to this encounter!

You will probably tell me that I certainly can not get HIV by this, but is it really so,that the HIV gets inactivated so fast and it has to happen inside of me to really be a concern? Are you sure?

Thanks a lot up front and have a good day!

Btw I even checked the condoms after and they were completely fine, no tears/holes or anything!

With kind regards!

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Re: Precum on Condom - Questions
« Reply #1 on: September 15, 2022, 04:02:32 am »
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Btw I even checked the condoms after and they were completely fine, no tears/holes or anything!

Please tell it you didn't fill it with water afterwards?

HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing or testing for HIV outside of the standard yearly routine and there is nothing to "check" in regards to the condom.

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You will probably tell me that I certainly can not get HIV by this, but is it really so,that the HIV gets inactivated so fast

That and several other reasons, not that it matters it wasn't an HIV concern.

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coconut oil on the condom

This increases the odds that the condom could break during intercourse, as it didn't, I see no reason to stress but next time don't only use a condom-safe lubricate like KY jelly

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Precum on Condom - Questions
« Reply #2 on: September 15, 2022, 04:03:10 am »
Reading your post I think some information on condom usage might help you.

Use approved condoms and check for a certification mark (e.g. FDA, C.E., ISO or Kitemark) because the condom then complies with safety standards. Check the expiry date and make sure the condom is still within date.

Use lubricant condom safe water-based lubricants make condoms more comfortable and reduce breakage risk. but avoid oil-based lubricants as they can weaken or break condoms.

As for putting the condom on correctly:

Incorrectly done, the risk of breakage can increase. Place the condom on top of the erect penis and pinch the teat at the end of the condom before you start to roll it down the penis. By doing this, you'll squeeze out any air bubbles and ensure there is room for the semen (cum). Roll the condom down to the base of the penis.

If it's on correctly, it will roll downwards easily. If you've started putting it on the wrong way, take it off, and even if you or your partner has not ejaculated (cum), there can still be semen or (pre-cum), so it's important to try again with a new condom. (More to do with risks from other STI's/pregancy than anything else)

Finally, never "test" the condom before or after intercourse. It's not needed at all and could damage the condom, as it's not designed as a reusable (re-stressed) product, and testing could lead you to mistakenly think that the condom was damaged during sex, when in fact, you caused the damage after the intercourse by trying to "test" it.

Instead, use condoms correctly and consistently. If they don't obviously break during intercourse, there is no reason to stress or test for HIV outside of standard yearly screening.
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Re: Precum on Condom - Questions
« Reply #3 on: September 15, 2022, 04:06:56 am »
My anxious mind was willing to fill it with water but i just looked at them vigorously with gloves on.... It is very silly but Im a very anxious person.

I did see that coconut oil was a bad idea for the integrity of the condom,but I only learned it after looking it up - still thanks for the heads up!

So you think I can go on with my life without worrying I could have conceived HIV?

« Last Edit: September 15, 2022, 04:10:53 am by anxman »

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Re: Precum on Condom - Questions
« Reply #4 on: September 15, 2022, 04:17:31 am »
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I did see that coconut oil was a bad idea for the integrity of the condom,but I only learned it after looking it up - still thanks for the heads up!

You're welcome.

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So you think I can go on with my life without worrying I could have conceived HIV?

What you posted here isn't an HIV concern.

Relax, continue to use condoms, consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV prevention and test out of standard routine yearly for HIV and easier to acquire STIs.
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Re: Precum on Condom - Questions
« Reply #5 on: September 15, 2022, 04:21:28 am »
I dont plan on having Bottom Sex again, it wasnt for me. I just needed to see for myself.. PrEP is really expensive here and I usually always take utmost care to not conceive anything.. silly after reading my post,but I thought I did. I even thought of getting PrEP after the encounter to be sure, but I am sure I am just overracting.

I dont know if she is positive to begin with and now you telling me there was no risk.. still you saying I should consider getting PrEP again makes me worry a bit - this is how my brain works. :)

I am stealing your time by going in circles.. I highly appreciate the time you took off from ur day to help me! I wish you all the best and hope you are having a great day!

Much love!

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Re: Precum on Condom - Questions
« Reply #6 on: September 15, 2022, 04:45:34 am »
PrEP is really expensive here

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still you saying I should consider getting PrEP again makes me worry a bit - this is how my brain works.

PrEP = pre-exposure prophylaxis. I am not recommending PrEP because you had a risk from what you posted here, I am recommending you consider PrEP as an additional layer of HIV prevention for the future.

See next to offering an additional layer of HIV prevention should there ever be an exposure like if the condom breaks or if you have condomless sex, PrEP might also give you some peace of mind moving forward. 

Regarding the costs, instead of daily PrEP, you might consider PrEP On-Demand. This is with fewer pills and therefore can be a much cheaper schedule.

You take two pills between 2 to 24 hours before a sexual encounter and one pill 24 hours and 48 hours later.   PrEP On-Demand is also sometimes called PrEP 2-1-1.

https://i-base.info/guides/prep/on-demand

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I even thought of getting PrEP after the encounter to be sure, but I am sure I am just overracting.

That would be PEP not PrEP and nothing you mentioned even warrants testing outside of standard routine let alone PEP.

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I highly appreciate the time you took off from ur day to help me! I wish you all the best and hope you are having a great day!

You're welcome.

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I usually always take utmost care to not conceive anything

Sex with a condom, even intact, comes with risks. No such thing as risk-free sex; an example would be other STIs that, unlike HIV, can be passed on through skin-to-skin contact.

There are things you can do to reduce your risks. Such as getting vaccinated against  Hepatitis B & HPV, using condoms consistently, testing regularly and considering PrEP against HIV.




« Last Edit: September 15, 2022, 04:47:47 am by Jim Allen »
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