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Please Assess my HIV Risk
« on: September 06, 2022, 02:13:50 pm »
So I met a girl on a dating app, and dated for a short while including plenty of sexual activites. However there was no intercourse.

I gave her oral sex and she gave me oral sex and there was lots of kissing and fingering.

Now I know HIV isn't spread through Oral sex or fingering or kissing. However at one point we got carried away and I tried to penetrate her. However I was not able to fully insert inside her as she said she can't feel me inside her. This would have lasted 15 seconds or so, and post this we did other things, but no further attempt at penetration was made.

However during these 15 seconds, I was either partially inside her (too drunk to remember) or not, but my dick definitely made contact with the outside and the vulva.

I spoke to her later and she said she had been tested for HIV in March when she was negative and hasnt had any sex since. However, I have no way to verify this and we no longer are in touch.

Now I thought nothing of it, till yesterday when I saw red rashes in my beard region and I know one of the first signs of HIV is a rash so it got me thinking and I have not been able to shake off the doubt.

The rash has since gone away in a day. However as I said the doubt is there still and so thought its best to ask. I have not had any fever or Night sweats or diarrhea (the symptons google says). The rash gave me doubt and have not been able to shake it off at all.

Also I now remember during the time that I was dating her and during the phase of all the sexual activites I had noticed a yellow discolorations across my chest and arm. They have also since gone away.


Please guide me.

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Re: Please Assess my HIV Risk
« Reply #1 on: September 06, 2022, 02:34:32 pm »
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I spoke to her later and she said she had been tested for HIV in March when she was negative and hasnt had any sex since. However, I have no way to verify this and we no longer are in touch.

Even if you could directly access her medical records to view these results it would mean nothing due to the window period.

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I gave her oral sex and she gave me oral sex and there was lots of kissing and fingering.

Not an HIV concern.

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I know HIV isn't spread through Oral sex or fingering or kissing

Well, "oral" giving a blowjob would be a minute HIV risk but that doesn't apply to the activities you mentioned.

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I was either partially inside her (too drunk to remember) or not, but my dick definitely made contact with the outside and the vulva.

Touching and rubbing against isn't an HIV risk. Condomless penetration would be, and as you were too intoxicated to know what happened, ill presume there was condomless intercourse and recommend you test to confirm your HIV status.

Test at six weeks post your last potential exposure with a blood draw (lab) antibody test. The result at this time will rarely change, and retesting at three months generally isn't needed.

Also, get a screening for far easier to acquire STIs whilst you are at it.
 
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The rash has since gone away in a day. However as I said the doubt is there still and so thought its best to ask. I have not had any fever or Night sweats or diarrhea (the symptons google says). The rash gave me doubt and have not been able to shake it off at all.

Not HIV specific, and the most common initial issue is none at all or nothing notable by most.  Test as mentioned above for HIV & STIs.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Please Assess my HIV Risk
« Reply #2 on: September 06, 2022, 03:01:46 pm »
Hi,

Thank you for the prompt reply.

The assumption about the condomless intercourse is wrong though. I am very aware that there was no intercourse. I tried to penetrate for 15 seconds or so, but never was fully inside her.

The contact was with my dick and the outside of her vagina and the lips. There was no full penetration at any point.

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Re: Please Assess my HIV Risk
« Reply #3 on: September 06, 2022, 03:04:20 pm »
Fully inside... you either are or are not. The tip of your penis inside would already count as inside.

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I was either partially inside her (too drunk to remember) or not

Look, either you did or did not, but based on your first post, where you say you were too drunk to recall my assessment isn't going to change.

Test to confirm your HIV status, and I wish you the best.


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Re: Please Assess my HIV Risk
« Reply #4 on: September 16, 2022, 09:05:31 pm »
Hi,

Thank you for the replies. One final post on this please. I have to wait 3 months to get tested and in the meawhile I have been doing some studying online.

I have been reading that oral issues are usually the first signs of undetected HIV. How many days/months after contracting HIV does a person start experiencing oral issues due to undetected HIV?

I know there will not be a fixed timeline for this ... but on an avg do dental issues start after say 5 months or after 1 year or when?

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Re: Please Assess my HIV Risk
« Reply #5 on: September 17, 2022, 07:00:13 am »
If you are having oral health issues it's not related to your HIV status from the concerned encounter. See your healthcare provider and treat whatever is bothering you.

Test at six weeks post your last potential exposure with a blood draw (lab) antibody test. The result at this time will rarely change, and retesting at three months generally isn't needed.
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