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HIV Risks
« on: August 09, 2022, 03:11:36 am »
Hi Jim/members.

I'm just worried after my last encounter and wanted to get some reassurance if possible.

So I met with this massage therapist and unintentionally one thing led to another and we engaged in intimate stuff after a massage session.

1. Fingered for her like 5 minutes (I have no cuts etc, and I have short trimmed nails)
2. She gave a blowjob with condom on (I insisted and she also agreed). After about 10 minutes we had vaginal Sex, but it didn't last for more than 5 minutes.

I made sure condom was intact and covered nicely and also I pulled out before ejaculating.

My concern is she was giving me a blowjob for a while and soon after tht we had intercourse. I didn't see any leak in the condom but let's say if the condom was damaged or had any small tear because of the blowjob (her teeth), while having sex there are chances her vaginal fluid touching my penis skin right?

She looked perfectly healthy and also used lube but the penetration was a bit tight.

I tried searching online but couldn't find an answer to this... IF let's say she was hiv positive, what exactly could infect me? vaginal fluid means where exactly it is or when it will come in contact?

I really dont think fingering her would have caused any tear n her vagina walls but im more worried about a tear n the condom. I should have changed it before the intercourse.

I know mine is a very low risk activity but based on what I explained just now do you think i will get infected by any chance? or do you think that amount of vaginal fluid is not enough to infect a person even when there was a tear in the condom?

Just to add, I also had a quick shower and washed my private parts with soap soon after the intercourse. I'm not circumcised and I dont have any cut/open wound etc

This happened last week so i know ill have to wait for a while to get tested.

Thanks so much for helping the community with your answers.


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Re: HIV Risks
« Reply #1 on: August 09, 2022, 03:30:38 am »
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She looked perfectly healthy

And?
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Re: HIV Risks
« Reply #2 on: August 09, 2022, 03:37:11 am »
Hiya,

Read your post three times, this is simple, and you are overthinking things.

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1. Fingered for her like 5 minutes (I have no cuts etc, and I have short trimmed nails)
2. She gave a blowjob with condom on (I insisted and she also agreed). After about 10 minutes we had vaginal Sex, but it didn't last for more than 5 minutes.

Fingering isn't an HIV risk and receiving a blowjob regardless of condom usage isn't an HIV risk to you either. It lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV, thus it makes sense that after 40 years of this pandemic in terms of oral sex, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

As for intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing or testing for HIV outside of the standard yearly routine.


Move on with your life, continue to use condoms for any intercourse, and as you are sexually active, test out of standard routine yearly for HIV & STIs.

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IF let's say she was hiv positive, what exactly could infect me? vaginal fluid means where exactly it is or when it will come in contact?

Well, in all risk assessments, it's presumed that the other person is living with HIV and without treatment.

To answer the question, the risks to you with this lady, if she was HIV positive, would be condomless intercourse and sharing drug rigs (Syringes), and during condomless intercourse, the primary fluid of concern to you would be cervical mucus (fluid) in contact with the head of your penis whilst inside the vaginal tract. 

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: HIV Risks
« Reply #3 on: August 09, 2022, 03:47:50 am »
And?

Just wanted to share she had no bleeding, open wounds etc.


 
Hiya,

Read your post three times, this is simple, and you are overthinking things.

Fingering isn't an HIV risk and receiving a blowjob regardless of condom usage isn't an HIV risk to you either. It lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV, thus it makes sense that after 40 years of this pandemic in terms of oral sex, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

As for intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing or testing for HIV outside of the standard yearly routine.


Move on with your life, continue to use condoms for any intercourse, and as you are sexually active, test out of standard routine yearly for HIV & STIs.

Well, in all risk assessments, it's presumed that the other person is living with HIV and without treatment.

To answer the question, the risks to you with this lady, if she was HIV positive, would be condomless intercourse and sharing drug rigs (Syringes), and during condomless intercourse, the primary fluid of concern to you would be cervical mucus (fluid) in contact with the head of your penis whilst inside the vaginal tract. 

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Thanks I guess ill just wait for a while and do a 4th gen test. I'm not sure if cervical mucus touched my head or not thats why.

Just one last question. Even a very small amount of cervical mucus enough to infect? or it really need to go through my head opening and to the blood stream?

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Re: HIV Risks
« Reply #4 on: August 09, 2022, 03:59:58 am »
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Even a very small amount of cervical mucus enough to infect? or it really need to go through my head opening and to the blood stream?

For the opening (urethra) to be a concern, it would happen during condomless intercourse, and in direct contact with the fluids concerned.

However, rather irrelevant as this didn't happen.

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I'm not sure if cervical mucus touched my head or not thats why.

Didn't happen in a way that could cause HIV to be acquired unless you want to change the story to condomless intercourse and the question of intercourse with a condom was already answered, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing or testing for HIV outside of the standard yearly routine.

Move on with your life, continue to use condoms for any intercourse, and as you are sexually active, test out of standard routine yearly for HIV & STIs.

Please don't post about this situation again as ill consider it excessive, and it will lead to a 28-day ban.
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Re: HIV Risks
« Reply #5 on: August 09, 2022, 09:08:09 am »
Oh wow. Sorry didn;t mean to irritate you Jim. I read your replies to other thread and you;ve patiently answered so many questions - so thank you.

I don't this a 28-day ban would be necessary as I will not post about this again - I was just concerned thats all.

Thanks for your input.

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« Reply #6 on: August 09, 2022, 09:15:35 am »
I'm not irritated.

Trust me if I was you would know about it 😂. I'm just not willing to pretend there was a HIV risk in what you posted and there is nothing to discuss or debate about it after 40 years.

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