Author Topic: My father just got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer (Read 13797 times)

madbrain · « **on:** July 07, 2010, 08:50:12 pm »

Last week. He had no symptoms whatsoever until about 6 weeks ago.
But the cancer is already stage IV . The tumor is 7cm and inoperable. The cancer has already metastasized to the liver and peritoneum. He doesn't want to ask his doctor for a prognosis.
From what I have read, he doesn't have long with that kind of diagnosis. I'm flying 6000 miles this weekend to see him for a week.

Jeff G · « **Reply #1 on:** July 07, 2010, 08:52:04 pm »

I'm so very sorry to hear about your fathers diagnosis . You and your family will be in my thoughts .

phildinftlaudy · « **Reply #2 on:** July 07, 2010, 08:55:46 pm »

Madbrain -
Sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis. I'm glad that you are able to fly there and be with him. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Phil

Matty the Damned · « **Reply #3 on:** July 07, 2010, 09:06:25 pm »

Sad news this Mad. You have my sympathies.

You have read correctly, your father's prognosis is very grim. May the remaining time you and he have be as good as can be under the circumstances.

MtD

WillyWump · « **Reply #4 on:** July 07, 2010, 09:13:18 pm »

Sincere Sympathies Mad. I am glad you are going to be with him.

It is grim news, but be sure you query the Docs about every possibility. Don't give up until you have to.

-Will

skeebo1969 · « **Reply #5 on:** July 07, 2010, 09:32:25 pm »

Mad, I am sorry to hear about your father's diagnosis.

GSOgymrat · « **Reply #6 on:** July 07, 2010, 10:20:14 pm »

I'm so sorry to hear about your father. My mother died last year of pancreatic cancer. Hers was also inoperable but had not metastasized. Spend as much time with him as you can.

Ford

anniebc · « **Reply #7 on:** July 07, 2010, 10:41:38 pm »

I'm sorry to hear this, enjoy your time together, it will be a time you will always remember.

In sadness
Jan

Miss Philicia · « **Reply #8 on:** July 07, 2010, 11:28:05 pm »

Yes, fly immediately. One of my best friends had this in his late 30's and went somewhat quickly. My thoughts are with you and your family.

tednlou2 · « **Reply #9 on:** July 07, 2010, 11:49:30 pm »

As everyone has said, my thoughts are with you. I didn't know much about that cancer until Patrick Swayze got it. It is a very scary cancer in that it is almost always diagnosed very late. I don't want to get off subject on wishing you and your family the best-- just curious whether if CT scans, MRI's, or PET scans done once say every 5 to 10 years after a certain age would pick up some of these very hard to detect cancers like this one and ovarian cancer which is also usually detected very late.

I'll be thinking about you and your family. I'm glad to hear you're going to see him. Try to stay healthy yourself--forcing yourself to eat when I'm sure you won't feel like it due to all the emotional stress.

Hellraiser · « **Reply #10 on:** July 08, 2010, 12:48:17 am »

So sorry Maddy. You know that all of us will be with you in spirit.

Ann · « **Reply #11 on:** July 08, 2010, 08:42:18 am »

Sorry to hear about this, Mad. I'm glad you are able to go and spend some time with him - I'm sure you'll be a comfort to him.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Hugs,
Ann
xxx

J.R.E. · « **Reply #12 on:** July 08, 2010, 09:15:55 am »

M,

Sorry to hear this news. My deepest thoughts go out to your family, during this very difficult time.

Ray

Joe K · « **Reply #13 on:** July 08, 2010, 10:56:39 am »

Dear Mad,

I am very sorry to hear the news about your father and my deepest condolences to you and your family. Please remember to take care of yourself as well, during these difficult times.

peteb · « **Reply #14 on:** July 08, 2010, 11:15:07 am »

Mad
so sorry to hear about your dad I am so glad you will spend some time with him
I will keep you and your family in my prayers
Pete

emeraldize · « **Reply #15 on:** July 08, 2010, 02:06:23 pm »

Hello Mad,

So sorry to read of your father's diagnosis.

If you've not heard of Randy Pausch, who was a professor at CMU and brought lots of attention to pancreatic cancer, here's a link to his site. http://download.srv.cs.cmu.edu/~pausch/

Here's Diane Sawyer's piece about him on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BZbOQqtDAW0&feature=related

You and your father may find you want to watch his "Last Lecture" video. He was a motivating prof, citizen and advocate.

I'm glad you have a week to spend with him. Family is great medicine.

Em

mecch · « **Reply #16 on:** July 08, 2010, 03:12:03 pm »

Oh Jez, my heart goes out to you.

Courage, cause it won't be very pleasant. Try to spend as much time as possible. Especially important to be there now, and then again towards the end. I went through this for 2 years with my dad and he especially needed his family around at the end of his life.

bocker3 · « **Reply #17 on:** July 08, 2010, 05:35:35 pm »

So sorry to hear this news.

Will be thinking of you Mad -- I'm sure your presence will be a great comfort to your dad.

Hugs,
Mike

madbrain · « **Reply #18 on:** July 08, 2010, 06:00:59 pm »

Thanks to everyone who replied for encouragements.

madbrain · « **Reply #19 on:** September 02, 2010, 12:54:25 pm »

My father passed away yesterday in the hospital in Clichy. I flew again to see him on saturday night and was with him his last 3 nights though he was no longer conscious the last 2. He passed a couple hours after I left the small room, my uncle and aunt were with him. The funeral is on saturday.

Jeff G · « **Reply #20 on:** September 02, 2010, 01:08:42 pm »

I'm so sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you . I'm glad you were able to be there with him , I know it meant allot for both of you .

Hellraiser · « **Reply #21 on:** September 02, 2010, 01:12:24 pm »

I'm sorry for your loss Mad.

Merlin · « **Reply #22 on:** September 02, 2010, 01:21:23 pm »

My Condolences. Blessed Be !

Assurbanipal · « **Reply #23 on:** September 02, 2010, 01:29:42 pm »

My condolences on your loss.

peteb · « **Reply #24 on:** September 02, 2010, 01:35:43 pm »

sorry for your loss mad
I will keep you and ur family in my prayers

Inchlingblue · « **Reply #25 on:** September 02, 2010, 01:38:44 pm »

It's great you were able to be there.

Hang in there.

{{{Hugs}}}

Rev. Moon · « **Reply #26 on:** September 02, 2010, 02:43:08 pm »

My condolences, madbrain. Sorry for your loss; this happened all too quickly.

Hang in there.

skeebo1969 · « **Reply #27 on:** September 02, 2010, 03:22:37 pm »

Sorry to hear of your father's passing, may he rest in peace.

Matty the Damned · « **Reply #28 on:** September 02, 2010, 04:10:26 pm »

Condolences on the passing of your father.

MtD

GSOgymrat · « **Reply #29 on:** September 02, 2010, 04:33:55 pm »

So sorry that your father has passed.

Ford

gemini20 · « **Reply #30 on:** September 02, 2010, 04:44:49 pm »

Deepest sympathy on your loss; hope that the fact he is no longer in pain is a crumb of comfort at this difficult time.

I will light a candle for your father and for you and your family who are grieving.

Take care.

Basquo · « **Reply #31 on:** September 02, 2010, 05:46:17 pm »

My deepest sympathies for your loss...it's good that you were there with him.

J.R.E. · « **Reply #32 on:** September 02, 2010, 08:50:34 pm »

Mad,

My deepest condolences to you and you family.

Ray

WillyWump · « **Reply #33 on:** September 02, 2010, 08:57:59 pm »

I'm so sorry MAdbrain, deepest condolences to you and your family.

-Will

Jody · « **Reply #34 on:** September 02, 2010, 09:25:50 pm »

I'm very sorry for the loss of your father madbrain. Condolences to your family.

Jody

aztecan · « **Reply #35 on:** September 02, 2010, 11:37:28 pm »

I am very sorry for the loss of your father Madbrain. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and you have my deepest sympathies

SAD HUGS,

Mark

jkinatl2 · « **Reply #36 on:** September 02, 2010, 11:52:25 pm »

I am so sorry about the loss of your father. It is one of the defining moments in a person's life, that. I hope you have family and friends to grieve with, and who understand the singular crazy that comes with such a profound loss.

tednlou2 · « **Reply #37 on:** September 03, 2010, 02:16:57 am »

I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish a good screening for this cancer will be developed to catch it early. Be well.

Andy Velez · « **Reply #38 on:** September 03, 2010, 08:47:41 am »

My condolences, Mad. Glad you got to spend some time with him after his diagnosis.

Sending hugs and wishing for you to be comforted.

OneTampa · « **Reply #39 on:** September 03, 2010, 04:13:52 pm »

Condolences to you on the loss of your father.

Best.

madbrain · « **Reply #40 on:** September 15, 2010, 05:47:05 pm »

Thanks to all who replied. I spent another week in France to give a power of attorney to my sister and see the notary who will oversee the liquidation of my father's estate. This is a process that will take about 6 months to finish :-( We will be selling my father's house in which I spent almost 20 years. I didn't fail to get sick as usual on nearly all my foreign trips, with a nasty gastro enteritis that kept me in bed for days, followed by a horrible cold. I flew back last week end and am back at work as of yesterday.

northernguy · « **Reply #41 on:** September 15, 2010, 09:45:39 pm »

Very sorry to hear of your loss. Pancreatic cancer just seems to move so fast and fatally.

emeraldize · « **Reply #42 on:** September 15, 2010, 11:09:43 pm »

I'm sorry for your loss, Mad.
Em

jkinatl2 · « **Reply #43 on:** September 15, 2010, 11:16:50 pm »

I am so sorry to hear about your father's diagnosis. My dad died little more than nine years ago, from a similarly virulent and fast-moving cancer. It is an awful thing to go through, and it changes a person. But you have that strength inside you to deal with this. I know I didn't think I had it, but I found myself stronger than I ever imagined.

Just thinking of you in this difficult time.

red_Dragon888 · « **Reply #44 on:** September 15, 2010, 11:37:48 pm »

My Condolences.

AlanBama · « **Reply #45 on:** September 16, 2010, 01:42:40 pm »

Don't know how I missed this earlier...

So sorry about the loss of your Dad. Pancreatic cancer is very cruel indeed... I lost my own Mother to it in 1965, and my "fill-in" Mom last week (she was 88).

May he rest in peace, and may you find comfort and solace for your pain.

Hugs, Alan

Snowangel · « **Reply #46 on:** September 16, 2010, 10:14:42 pm »

Madbrain-
Sorry to hear about your fathers diagnosis. Have a safe trip. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Snow

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