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Title: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 15, 2009, 08:09:06 pm
It was time for a new thread so I started one. My mind was on Netta when I came up with the name. My heart really goes out to you, lady. And through it all you still manage to smile and keep your composure. What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger as you well know....

Nothing much going on with me today. It was pretty much a chilled day with nothing to do. My case worker paid me a home visit today. That was something I wasn't use to but it was pretty nice. He even said he was going to look out for apartments for me.

And that is about it for me. I am going to watch some Freddy Krueger movies. I wonder how Cindy is doing? She has been kinda quiet lately. Knowing her she is prolly just mad busy. Anyone see Oprah with the Whitney Interview? I missed it. Yeah, I heard about Swayze last night when it popped on Yahoo.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: HollyStar on September 15, 2009, 09:32:40 pm
Hi Ladies,

Queen, I really like the thread title.

Netta, I just want you to know that I'm thinking about you.

Not much going on with me. I'm not going to sue over the food poisoning but the reporting process was a little more than I expected. The weather has been pretty odd here. It's been hot, then it rained for a couple days, then fog and now it's hot again. I just wanted to pop in real quick. I hope you are all doing well.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on September 16, 2009, 06:33:54 am
Netta, hun, I'm so sorry for what you're going through.  During the separation, are you going to try counsoling? 

Betty, how was your meeting with the lawyer and your DEXA scan?  You've got so much going on right now.  Hun, stay strong.  You know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Camms, good to see you back in action.  You've been missed.

I've been keeping up with everyone here, but not posting much.  Life has been a whirlwind and I've not been dealing with it like I should (enter the "guilt cycle").  On a positive side, Mim's tests have all come back "normal".  Doc is chalking it up to "chronic disease progression".  I'd rather think of it as a very long "blip" - sounds a bit better. 

Today we go back to the ENT.  Not sure what he's going to do, though, since her issues are more neurologic than otologic.  If nothing else, i can get the results of our youngest daughters CAT scan that she had a month ago and no one has bothered to call me and tell me the results of.

Speaking of our youngest daughter: HER HEARING AIDE IS HERE!!  We go Friday afternoon to pick it up.  I'm so excited.  I just hope it helps - and that she leaves it in - and that she doesn't lose it - and .... :P

A week from Saturday, Hubby and I are driving to Toledo, OH (a 12hr round trip) to pick up the kids' new dog - an early Christmas present.  She's a 14mth old true-hairless Chinese Crested. Full-grown, she weighs about 6lbs and is 10 inches tall. An amazing dog breed who just came to the states in the 1970's and got AKC recognition as a pedigree dog in 1991.  They are odd looking, leaning towards ugly, but they have great personalities ;)  Our baby is red with stark white hair on the top of her head and the tip of her tail.  I get sole naming rights and have one picked out.  I'm not telling anyone, including Hubby, until we get her and I make sure she "looks" like her name.  If not, I'll have about 5hrs to pick a new one.  She's already house broken and will be spayed the end of October.

Nothing much else going on.  Laundry today, grocery shopping tomorrow, co-op and hearing aide appointment on Friday.  Just another day in the life....

Mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on September 16, 2009, 08:21:10 am
Morning ladies-  Netta still praying for ya for strength....hold fast! When do you find out the results for the Hep?   

Betty you too.  How was the consult with the lawyers?

queen-  what part of NY are you looking for an apartment?  Was it brooklyn?  I haven't had a chance to go through all the threads yet.  Nice thread ;)

Mini-  The chinese crested are pretty unusual and teeter on ugly.   I think they are sooo sweet and you can't help but fall in love with their peculiar  looks.  You all must be so excited.  How did you her?  Petfinder? and what make you decide to go with that breed?

Well, have to run, I'm working on a large project and have to meet with the client this am.

Be well,

Hugs,

Camms



Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 16, 2009, 09:01:56 am
Mum, thanks for the thoughts and prayers.  I won't get the results of the dexa scan for a couple weeks.  The girl said one of their doctors is out, so it's taking longer.  I've been following your dog thread in "off topic."  I'm going to watch out for what you decided to name her.  You had some pretty good suggestions.  I'm sure everyone is going to love your new baby.    And I'm glad Mim's test results came back alright.  HIV effects kids so different, I believe, than it does adults. 

Camms, I know you mentioned what type of work you do, but I forgot?  Did you ever get into that master's program you were trying for?

The meeting with the attorney lasted only about 15 minutes (I'm sure he didn't want a long one, since the consult's free).  He said that what my therapist told me after talking to his attorney friend is correct.  That (at least in Indiana) someone cannot get misdemeanors expunged or sealed.  He said that yes, there is a thing call "post conviction relief."  He said that with that, it could go either of two ways- the judge could reduce the charges, or could completely dismiss them.  He said the prosecutor has to give his approval, which he said is the most difficult part of the whole thing.  He said, though, being that my last charge is 5 or 6 years old, that that was a pretty good timeline.  Then, he told me how much he would charge for all 3 charges-$900.  I told him that, well, if I come up with that kind of money, I would give him a call.  Soooo...back to the drawing board.

On another note, I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to get my wheel bearings fixed.  They're going out on both sides.  A friend of mine said there's a station that takes payments, but I don't know if that means they don't give the car back unless the payments are made or what.              Just going to a few stores today (grocery shopping, not luxury or anything).  You all have a good one.

Edited to add: Love the title, Queen.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: netta on September 16, 2009, 01:35:41 pm
HI GF's thanks for the prayers :-* really apreciate you all!
We decided not to seperate, give it till the new year.we are going into counseling. I really was angry when I wrote that last post, I just wanted everything to go away. I have to grow up and stop running from my problems, like I have in the past.We had an argument, over something so silly, but when I get mad, I cut you loose. Marriage doesn't work like that. I was very much in love with my husband when I married him, but that was the honeymoon stage, getting to know someone is different, I do love him and want to get back to the in love, I just don't like someof his ways and he doesn't like some of mine. Anyway I love him enough to work on it. see we are really just getting to know each other. he has never been married. and I have, too many times, and they have all ended up in divorce. He is the first man to treat me with respect and really good, but he is not perfect, I think I look for perfection and that is not fair, nor realistic.I am happy today, we are comunicating more and talking more and even making love ! they say making up is good, after an argument.

anyhow- my  hep test was negative, diabeties- negetive. liver still  ellivated , but this is from my high colestoral, called fatty liver, my colesterol is high, so I must watch my diet. which is hard -a non fat diet
all in all good news.

stats undetectable ! t cells-240 may-09
stats undetectable ! t-cells-450 ! sept-09
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on September 16, 2009, 03:15:27 pm
Camms, my parents have an 18-mth old Powder Puff Chinese Crested.  They got her when she was 9mths old.  She is such a sweet dog and great with the kids.  Our youngest daughter has depleted barrier skin cells.  When she gets an itch and scratches, her skin literally peels off.  Ginger, my parents' dog, is the only dog she'd ever been around that didn't set off her allergies.  The only hypo-allergenic dog is a poodle. 

We began researching dogs, interviewing breeders, checking out AKC registeries of breeders, you name it, we researched it.  Then, I started emailing breeders asking about prices for "partial registry" or "pet-quality" dogs (dogs that aren't "perfect" so they can't be shown or used to breed.)  One breeder emailed back that she had a 14mth old hairless female that got her leg hurt by her first owner, then the second owner lost her house.  Both previous owners gave the dog back to the breeder. 

At first she wanted full-price for her.  I emailed her back and told her that we were interested, but I wasn't paying full price for a dog with an injury that, although it wasn't causing her problems now, left her more prone to early onset arthritis.  We offered her just under half of her asking price.  She emailed 7 minutes later asking when we could pick her up.  Now you know the rest of the story ;D

Netta, I think that's wonderful that you and Hubby are trying to work it out.  Give counsoling a chance.  I'll keep you both in my prayers.

Betty, UUGGHH!  I feel your frustration.  Dog-gon it, I wish there was something I could do.  There's got to be something, someone can do to help you out.  I just wish they would hurry and show up. :-\  Mim got an "A+" from her ENT today.  Her lymph nodes aren't swollen and the white goo in her mouth is gone.  HIV effects kids very differently than adults.  The problem is also that there's few to no research done for peds here in the states.  It's wonderful that less than 1% of babies born to poz-mommies are born poz.  The catch is that because there's so few, there's no "market" for people to spend the time and resources on that 1%. :-\

Welp, I've got laundry to fold, lessons to get together, dinner to cook, and my grocery list to make.  I'm getting a sore throat.  Hoping it's just sinus crud from the rain coming in.

It's hump day - go find something to hump ::)
Mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 16, 2009, 09:11:29 pm
I know I have some thing to hump later on.. ;) Sorry, couldn't resist that one. And before Papi, I had something to hump, it just ran on batteries..... :o Hehe, tmi, I'm done. But Mum started it, I just ran with it. Me and my dirty mind....

Anyhoo, Netta, I am so glad that you and hubby are going to work it out. I definitely feel you on the character traits. I tend to overlook some of Papi's flaws as I am sure he ignores some of mine. Like you said no one is perfect and goddess knows this world is far from perfect. I think sometimes people work too hard at striving for perfection instead of accepting who they are. I am glad you guys decided on counseling and hope you work it out. Girl, make up sex is the bomb!!!!

Mum--- I was following the other thread too. Did you come up with a name yet? Papi is talking about getting me a dog once I get a place. For when he is not there to be with me. All I know is it better be house trained.... :D


Betty---That sucks about the lawyer.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on September 16, 2009, 09:28:27 pm
GFS, I am alive but dog tired.  Turns out I have to collect a heap of rent from my tenant, rather than having Housing pay for most of it.  No one told me about this until after he had signed the lease.  I only have half of the Tenant's part of the rent for Sept.  Ice and I drove up to surprise him Labor Day weekend cause he wasn't answering the phone.  It was quite evident he had been smoking in the house, a big no-no according to the lease.  All that new paint and carpet, stunk up.  I'll have to keep him in there cause a non-smoker wouldn't want to rent the place.  I am sitting tight, hoping he pays me close to $1000 for Oct 1st, rather than the $50 we thought would be his part.  Yeah, BIG difference.  Needless to say, I have been frustrated.  Technically he is in default of his lease for many reasons, but I am hoping it will all wash out come October.  I just have to be patient.

Looks like I missed a few birthdays, so Happy Birthday to Betty and Snow!  Betty, I am so sorry about all of the crap you've been going through.  I am frustrated for you, too.  If you were here, Ice could give you a discount on wheel bearings.  Dammit, move to DC, lol!

Netta, I am glad you don't have diabetes, and congrats on the CD4 going up.  Hang in there with dh, bec like you said, you are still getting to know one another.  Its not going to be perfect, but you can compromise.

Holly, sorry about the food poisoning.  Ugh, that always freaks me out bec I used to work for a caterer and I was food safety certified.  With my health I am always very careful about what I eat.  Glad you are better.

Camms so good to see you back!  Congrats on the BF.  No wonder you were away.   ::)   :P

Mum, I hope things get a little better with Min.  I didn't read everything in the threads in detail, just a quick catch up.  Hang in there.

Ice and I are doing good, I am kicking so much ass at work, I am getting bored.  I fly through my work.  PITA (remember her?) is still an ass.  She's hardly ever there, always calling in sick and whining when she's there.  She must have been a bigger bitch in a previous life, bec Karma is biting her ass now.  (PITA = pain in the ass).

More soon, I am beat.  Sorry I was away for so long.  With my renter issues and the kids around more, I've been busy!

Hello to my Queen, I will text when I can, GF!  LOL

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 17, 2009, 07:58:54 am
Netta, I'm glad you and your hubby are going to give counseling a try.  I know it's hard to get used to another person, and all their imperfections.  But, I also know no one is 100% up to our definition of perfect, and we aren't 100% up to anyone else's.  It's all about compromise, and what we're willing to live with.  I'll be thinking about you guys, and hoping for the best.  And congrats on the blood work.  So, you have a fatty liver because of having high cholesterol?  I don't think I've ever heard of this.  Have you like had high cholesterol for a long time? 

Mum, this area isn't known for helping people who get into trouble.  Being that they did away with their statute of limitations years ago, which would have erased people's crimes after some years (as long as they kept out of trouble), I just believe they want people to keep paying.  It's a bit maddening.  They have places to help about everything else, but nothing to help with anything involving criminal charges.  So, people are pretty screwed unless they can get the cash to pay one of those high-priced individuals ("individuals" is the best term I can come up with for lawyers, but certainly not what I'm thinking).  Indiana is fine for people who make a good living, and tend to lean toward the right; it even has a homeless center that Regis Philbin does a Christmas special about, and got a "star" by the old Pres. Bush (the father).  So, it's a good area for homeless people also (doesn't that sound odd).  I mean, I e-mailed the governor (Mitch "the Bitch"  Daniels) about how to get more money into the ASO's so people with HIV/AIDS could get more services.  I got an e-mail back saying "that's a federal matter, Gov. Daniels doesn't deal with that."  Talk about maddening.

Queen, I'm still using my thing with batteries for humping (heh).  The last time I had an actual person, I ended up getting herpes, so that shut me down. :P

Cin, I don't understand; section 8 isn't going to pay much of the rent?  Is this guy going to be able to pay what he owes? I knew he'd be smoking in there.  That pisses me off when someone takes advantage of people like that.  Maybe you could have Ice have a good talking to him, and let him know what's up.  I wouldn't say you'd have to keep him in there just because the smell of smoke is in things.  It can be gotten out of things, and you could have someone who can pay in there.  Just don't "settle" because you don't think things can improve.  Instead of me moving to DC, could you please send Ice here to fix my wheel bearings?  You could come with him and stay with me. 

Yeah, I'm pretty frustrated about the whole background/tattoo thing.  About a month ago, I filled out an application online for a delivery driver for Pizza Hut.  Yesterday someone called from there, and I'm supposed to go Friday for an interview.  I don't hold out hope, though; Pizza Hut does background checks, and so far the restaurants that I've checked out around here don't hire people with visible tatts.  Maybe I should get some motorcycle gloves.  Anyway, I'm sure when I tell the guy about my back crimes, that'll be it.  Even the lawyer said no one in any type of retail would hire me, being that the past crimes involve theft.  It sucks, it really does.  I was telling my best friend last night that I don't hold out hope as far as finding a job is concerned, until I can do something about my background.  She was telling me that she heard something on the radio about this cream that, after seven weeks, takes the pigment out of skin, and causes tatts to fade.  She told me to google it, and see what comes up.  I'm sure it's very expensive, but we'll see.     Today I'm going to the library to take back a couple movies.  You all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 17, 2009, 12:10:55 pm
Cindy--- I saw you online last night after I had finished posting. I did text you about the Redskins playing last weekend (My Cowboys won ;) ) but I figured you had your hands full. I am surprised that Section 8 is not paying most of your tenant's rent. He must have a pretty decent income, I am wondering. Idk, I am new to all this Section 8 stuff myself. But if you have no smoking in your lease then it would be grounds to evict him unless you want to give him another warning. I can see how it all can be stressful to you. As much work as you put in, your ass should have been promoted a long time ago...

Betty-- Yeah, I remember that. I can see where that would leave you a bit hesitant to get with someone else. I think getting wheel bearings is a bit pricey or so I have heard. That was one thing I never had to deal with when I had a car. I hate that your past is keeping you from getting a job, that really blows. Is there any place around there where you could work under the table? Or maybe someone who could write something in your behalf? Maybe your therapist or someone at the place where you volunteered at? Sometimes that helps. My ASO case manager did that for me when Section 8 tried to refuse me because of my felony. It wasn't like they found it, I was being honest and told them myself.

Not much going on with me today. It has gotten cooler now. I need to figured out what to do with my hair since I took my braids down.....Have a good one everyone.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: #1 mom on September 17, 2009, 01:54:57 pm
Hi Everyone,
Lucas and I seem to be sharing a bug  :(. I kept Lucas home from school and he's napping. It's funny, Lucas loves school  ;D, but has been weepy about getting on the bus the last week because I'm not going with him  :'(. " Go with me mommy." "Just one more hug mommy."  :'( :'( :'( When he came home with a fever yesterday I called the bus company to say he wouldn't be going today because I knew his morning driver would be on her afternoon run. Well, they didn't give Lisa the message so she came to pick him up. Lucas saw her. So today instead of crying that he wants to stay with mommy, he starts crying that he wants to go with Lisa to school  ::). I'm beginning to think he just loves tugging my heart  :-\.

Netta - I hope that things work out for you and hubby. Whatever happens we're here if you need to vent  >:( or share your joy  ;).

Mum - I'm glad mim's tests are normal. I'm sorry she's going through such a long blip and hope it ends soon. I agree blip not chronic disease progression  ;). The doctors don't always know with our kids what they are capable of. I remember when Lucas was younger and I first started doing therapy with him, his PID thought I was overdoing things  >:(. Now when we go in he always says he's amazed at how well Lucas has done  ::). That he didn't think it was possible for Lucas to do this well. Our kids are amazing  ;). Mim's in my prayers.

Cin - I'm sorry things aren't going smoothly as a landlord. I know you'll work it out. You're a #1 asskicker  ;).

Betty - It sucks what you're going through. If you can't work in any kind of retail business, what about service? My sister has a conviction for embezzlement (not sure if that was the official charge filed) for which she still has to pay $200/mo fine or go to jail for breaking her parole. She works as a personal care assistant (companion, assist with grooming, prepare meals, light housework). Just a thought.

Well, I think I better catch a little nap while Lucas is down. I'm beat.

Amy
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: mahalia on September 18, 2009, 04:10:23 am
hello ladies, m so so glad to be here!!! its been forever, ma new job is just crazy, but i love it, its so challenging and there's massive exposure, just wished it paid just a little better that it does, lol...ma finances r not in good shape to say the least, hopefully things should be a better in Dec. i've missed u all, m just going to go thru threads n catch up.

m gud, have started gained some of weight back afta ma SJS last yr, and m reli happy + things wit ma bf are reli gud...for a while i had issues wit candida, but its just been gr8, cant remembr when i last needed to c ma gynae over that. m due for ma labs in oct...
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 18, 2009, 07:38:31 am
Queen, yeah, wheel bearings are like $300 per side.  A friend told me that it can take up to a year before they completely go out, so I'm hoping that buys me some time.  Yeah, buys me some time before what though.  It's not like I'm going to have that kind of money anytime soon.  I'm hoping I can find someone who can fix them at a (very) discounted price.    My therapist said he's going to write me a letter about how my life has changed.  Of course, that will be the last thing I try; if people find out I'm in therapy, they'll probably really think I'm strange.  You know how people are.

Amy, I've been interviewed for being a home companion before.  They didn't hire me because of my tattoos.  So, if it's not my background, it's my tatts.  I was reading about creams that can be used to make tattoos fade, instead of using laser.  The problem with that is, it takes a few months of using these creams every day before results are seen.  And they're expensive; not as expensive as laser would be, but still expensive.  A friend of mine suggested seeing if there's any prescription ones, and having my doctor write a script for one, if there is.

Not much going on today.  I'm going to a food pantry in this real cushy town just to the northeast of me.  I'm going because I want to see if they give away good things, since it's in a posh town.  And I have a job interview at 3:00 to see about being a Pizza Hut delivery driver.  I'm going to be honest with the guy and tell him about my past first thing.  I don't want to waste his time or mine.  We'll also see how he reacts to my tatts.  Maybe that won't be a big thing, since I would be delivering pizzas, and not directly behind the counter serving people.  I was telling my therapist yesterday about how unfair places are around here.  He said that when his daughter lived here years ago, she couldn't get a job because of a nose piercing.  He said since she moved to California, she's had no problem.  This is such a conservative area (and I mean uber-conservative) there's not much of a chance for people who are a bit "different" than the mainstream people.  I really cannot believe I live in this area, because of being a liberal.                 That's about it.  You all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: HollyStar on September 18, 2009, 07:22:09 pm
Hi everyone,

Betty, hang in there babe.

Queen, I'm sure your hair will be beautiful whatever you decide to do with it. So, how do you like the Sims 3?

Cindy, that's a bummer about the renter. I hope it all works out.

Mum, I'm glad that Mim's tests were ok. And, all I have to say about the Chinese Crested, is that they sure have some, um, interesting looks, lol.

Everything is going good with me. We have been cleaning the house yesterday and today. I even mopped the floors! I still haven't finished the storage/laundry/who-knows-whats-in-there-room but eventually it will get done. It's pretty warm today and it's supposed to heat up to 104 in a few days! YUCK!!!

Also, I had some blood tests done earlier this week and I don't have diabetes, so that's good. These new meds are great except that I'm thirsty a lot more and pee a lot more but I can deal with that I guess. My bf on the other hand, the doctors can't figure out what's going on. His last test had something to do with the Pancreas and the levels were really high. The doc said he needed a low fat diet. I'm a little concerned with that, as he is 6ft 4in tall and 160lbs. He doesn't need to loose any weight, so I need to figure out how to cook low fat while still keeping the weight on. I'm open to any suggestions as far as recipes go. Well, that's about it for now. You all have a good day.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 19, 2009, 11:26:06 am
Just peekin in. Not much planned with me today. I have been in the house all week, not really wanting to go anywhere, just relax. Monday is the meeting with Section 8 then I will be on my grind looking for an apartment. I think I gave myself food poisoning by eating some lunchmeat I didn't realize was bad. Never had it before so I don't know the symptoms. All I know is that my stomach was killing me like I had done a major workout and cramps when I went to the bathroom like I was giving birth to an alien. Papi got me some Alka Seltzer which seem to help some. I am still a little sore today but not as much cramping as yesterday.

Holly-- I am liking the Sims 3 a lot. I mean it's pretty much the same but with some new additions. Now when you have a baby, you can interact more with it and it grows up. You can choose some of the characteristics you want it to have. You celebrate birthdays, get old, die and turn into ghosts. What's not to love, right? But I also have bought Silent Hill 3 and 4. I just started 3, I like it but I hate how the people move. And I also have the first Resident Evil and Mortal Kombat 2. I downloaded those from the Playstation Network.

Have a good weekend folks....
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on September 20, 2009, 07:31:28 am
Great Sunday morning ladies-

Queen-  It's been about 4 years since I've played Playstation....because, it was around that time I separated from my husband.  But for years I was a dedicated player especially for Resident Evil and Silent Hill.  I only played the POV games that fell into the horror genre.  In only four years things have progressed so much.  I wish I had a day just to play it again.  But I gave my ex husband the playstation lol.

Betty-  It's just not fair how the past keeps coming back to haunt you.  What really burns me is the tattoo issue.  I'm not surprised anymore by the shallowness of people but come on.  In any event, I hope Pizza Hut works out for you?  I hope that the manager appreciates your forthcoming approach.  You need a serious break!
 
Mum-  Sooooo?  Is there a new member in the household today?  What's the name and please post some pics.   Are you crating the puppy or going with a room sectioned off with newspaper?

Cin-  What went down when you surprised your tenant?  Did you guys confront him?  I can't even imagine disrespecting my landlord. If a friend or family member is going to smoke, I ask them to take it outside.  The previous tenant smoked 5 packs a day, no joking, and the landlord had to replace all the carpeting for pergo.  Not that you have to take it to that extreme.  He also was here for 7 years.  Basically if you can get this under control now, I don't think it will be as bad as you might think.

Off to the dog park.  I've had 4 hours of sleep.  Since G's been in my life I stay up much later.  He's a graphic designer also, and we're in the process of collaborating on a project.  It's so freaking fun I can't believe this is my life.  I really through a dark period, as some of you might remember, when I had my surgery in the beginning of the summer.  It's been a very long time since I can recall being this happy.

Anyway, I hope everyone has a wonderful Sunday.

Hugs,

Camms

Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 20, 2009, 09:00:23 am
Holly, you and your boyfriend may want to talk to an HIV knowledgable nutritionist or dietician.  That may give you some ideas about what to cook, so your bf can gain some weight (or not lose any).

Queen, I had food poisoning before, and it was awful.  I had stuff coming out both ends, at the same time.  I remember I laid on the bathroom floor all night, too fearful to get too far from the toilet.  Anyway, I hope you're feeling better.

Camms, I'm so glad you're happy.  Yeah, I remember the surgery time.  Yeah, in some states, people don't care about tatts, but here they do care.  This is a fucked up area; I wish I could afford to move to a more liberal-thinking state. 

The Pizza Hut interview was, well, short.  I told the manager about my past; he thanked me.  He said it would cause the background check to "red flag."  He also said he really didn't know what to do about the situation.  He asked me a couple questions, said he had a couple more people to interview, and said he'd let someone know Monday.  So, I don't hold out much hope for that. 

I can't seem to catch a break jobwise.  I don't want this to keep happening for the rest of my life.  Maybe in 10 or 15 years people won't care about my background, because of time length.  I'm just pretty down about the whole thing.  Anyway, I don't want to be a downer on here.  Whatever happens, happens.  I'll just have to deal with it.               You all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on September 20, 2009, 03:28:31 pm
Camms, no new baby yet - next Saturday.  Hubby and I are leaving Friday afternoon and driving the 5hrs to Toledo, OH.  Then at 9am Saturday morning, we're going to the breeders to pick her up.  She's already 14mths old (dob 7/8/08) and potty trained.  She's used to being in a crate, but we're hoping she gets used to being OUT of it soon.  We have one that we'll put in our room for bedtime, but we'll not keep her in it during the day.  So far we've only bought her a teeny weeny pink collar and a 16ft (pink) retractable leash.  We're taking the camera with us so I'll post pics here and in the doggy thread as soon as we have a quiet moment.

Betty, the whole thing just SUCKS.  I don't know what else to call it.  You'd be the most educated worker Pizza Hut ever saw, that's for sure.  Gosh doggit!  I just keep praying that an answer will come quickly and  this can all be put behind you.

Youngest didn't get her hearing aide Friday.  Her ears need suctioned out first or her hearing aide will do nothing but squeal.  So, we have an appointment Tuesday afternoon for her ears to be suctioned and then Wednesday morning to be fitted (again) with her hearing aide.  Such a seemingly simple thing - and it's turning out to be so stinkin' danged complicated!

We hit the ground running tomorrow and it doesn't slow down until sometime mid-November.

Make it a good one, ladies!
Mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 20, 2009, 10:03:15 pm
Hey! Just popping in to update you all on my tummy cause I know y'all care..*lol* Last night it was rough going to sleep, the cramps kept me tossing and turning. I had to lay with a pillow under my stomach all night. Plus, I think I was running a fever, It was so bad I took a warm shower instead of my usual hot one. It is a little better today but I notice the cramps come after I eat something. So, I really haven't eaten anything today but an avacado salad. And I will wait til after my Section 8 appointment to eat. Other than that nothing much going on just sitting here watching the football game.

Camms---I am so very happy for you. I remember the rough patches you had last year, what a difference a year makes. Last year wasn't the best for me either if you remember. Now I couldn't be happier and I would've never thought I would be living in NY.

Mum--I can't wait for you to get the pup. You have to take pics. We just might have a new addition of our own. Papi's daughter might get a chicuhua (I know I destroyed the spelling on that one but you know what I mean). He is 5 months old and his previous owner passed away but someone else also wants him too so we're not sure what is going to happen.

Betty--I wish I could go to the bathroom. When I try that is when the cramps hit me the most. I can't even pass gas...*lol* Praying that would give me some relief. And try not to let the job thing get you down. I'll have faith for the both of us.

Well, I need to get back into the football game...
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 21, 2009, 06:50:42 am
Mum, too bad the youngest didn't get her hearing aide Friday, but hopefully Tuesday's appointment will be short, and she'll be hearing better in no time.   I'm keeping my fingers crossed.  Thanks for the prayers, I can use them.  I can't wait until you get your dog.  I know the kids are going to love her (it's a her right).

Queen, I hope you're feeling better by now.  it's been a couple days, hasn't it?  I wonder if it's something else, like the flu.  I don't think food poisoning lasts too long; of course, I could be mistaken.  Mine lasted for one night, I guess until it was out of my system.  I hope it's nothing serious.

A couple weekends ago my sister, who lives in this area,  gave me a loveseat.  A friend of mine daughter and son-in-law went with me and a friend to pick it up (it's in another city).  I'm so happy.  I haven't owned a sofa in 6 years. Truly, all I've had is a rocking chair, and folding chair.  The ones (sofas) I had before I went into the nursing home were ruined (I spilled everything on them I was so strung out all the time).  And I haven't had one since getting out of the hospital I was put in to dry out.  So, I finally have one.  My kitty thinks it's a new bed for her.  Seriously.  She's very selfish about anyone else getting on it.  The other day, I was stretched out on it, and she came up by it, sat down, looked at me, and started meowing.  And yesterday, I was napping on it, and my kitty jumped up, put her front paws on my legs, and started meowing.  It's hilarious.  Cats are so much fun. 

Today I'm going to start doing another work experience (this is the last one I can do).  It's going to be helping this guy who works with this program called Access to Recovery.  It pays for people to get intensive outpatient treatment in alcohol/drug addiction, and pays for their transitional housing up to a point.  He also works with offenders who are just getting out of prison to either get their GED, or find a job (well, I have news for them on the job front).     Anyway, I hope it goes well.  Please think good thoughts for me.  Thanks. :-*      You all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: netta on September 21, 2009, 10:56:51 am
HI GF'S Hope everyone had a good weekend. I  went to the movies again with the grands to see Tyler Perry's new movie. this is my 2nd time!
The girls begged me to go. MY 12 yr old gd is growing up so fast, losing some baby fat and has a real teenager attitude! Have to check her all the time!
The 6 yr, old  is too smart, she has been here before, in another life. lol She tells her sister to "stay outta her business" they are ajusting well, to the divorce. They see their dad on weekends and spend the nite. My dh has a new man in her life, he just bought her a real Coach bag and some coach cologne!, he spoils her and has a good job. She deserves it! hard as  she works!
My dh is working overtime to get extra money, since he didnt get his promotion. The other employers put up a fuss, since he has only been there 6 months, and remember someone told the manager about his criminal past, that he had served time for robbery, of course you know they made up some of it to sound worse, that was ten years ago! So Betty we know what you are going through!
rented The Soloist, this weekend, it was ok. Jamie Fox starred in it.

Well I went to my friends house yesterday to see the new puppies. Sophie , the mother finallly had 7 pups last Monday! Sophie is a shitzu-rat terrier mix and the dad Max is pure shitzu. I love shitzus ,would of bought one , but they are 300.00 and up. she is giving us a good deal, since they are mutts. they are so cute and tiny, 3 black ,2 blk and white ,and 2 brown. I am getting  a female black and white. , they all look shitzu. I have to wait 8 weeks to take them home, I am getting only one, but would love to have two but we don't have the room. I am so excited about the puppy, she will be a house dog and spoiled!
 Love t0 all
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 21, 2009, 08:28:31 pm
Evening All--

Well, I dragged my cramping ass out of bed and made it to my Section 8 appointment. Now I have to go on Friday and get all the paperwork so I can start looking for apartments. I got a few numbers today while I was out with Papi. Also checked out a few real estate places too. I only have 30 days to find a place and if I don't I have to ask for another extension...Sheesh, you know the hell I caught the last time. But Papi thinks we won't have any problems.

Betty--Yeah, my stomach is still cramping a little bit. I finally had a bm today (reminds me of conversations I had in the past with my Moms) but I was concerned because I saw something white in it. And I haven't eaten anything white which made me wonder if it was a tape worm from the bad lunch meat. Papi seems to think I need to take a laxative for some reason so I decided to humor him and take it before bed tonight. If that doesn't work and I still don't feel any better by Wednesday then I will go to the ER.

I know what you mean about getting the loveseat. Soon, I will be trying to get stuff lined up for my place when I get it. But here they have a program for HIV folks where they give you money for furniture. I didn't believe it when Papi told me but he took me to the place and met with a worker. He said soon as I found a place to let him know and they would get me set up. I almost fell over. Man, I love NY... ;D

Netta-- Sorry your hubby didn't get the promotion. It sounds like there is a lot of haters at his job. Congrats on the pup. Are you getting a male or female? Like I told Mum. you gonna have to post pics of your new babies.

Well, that is about it for me....
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on September 22, 2009, 06:04:57 am
Good pre-dawn morning!  I know I should be in bed, but seems like once I wake up, I'm awake.  I've been fighting a sinus / cold / allergy thing for a week.  I'm feeling better, but not 100% and it's making me nuts.  Hubby's been a good sport about it, taking up the slack and letting me sleep during the day.  Of course my worst day was last Thursday - the day he leaves for school at 9am and doesn't get  home until 10:30pm.  I even managed, barely, to get the grocery shopping done. 

Betty, congrats on the new furniture.  Sounds like you are making a home.  How come this is your last work experience position?  Are you only allowed a certain number?  Do they pay at least?  Yes, our new baby is a girl.  I can't wait to go get her.  She has a name, 7 of them actually, but we don't know which we'll call her until we see her.  I haven't told the kids and it's making them nuts, especially our oldest.

Netta, sad about not getting the promotion, but glad he at least got a raise.  Even with people ratting out his past, it doesn't seem the boss had too big of a problem with it since he's not letting your dh go.  Congrats on the puppy!  Does your's have a name, yet?  $300 for a mutt?  WOW!  Now breeders aren't calling them "mutts", they're calling them "designer hybrids" which, to me, just means "very expensive mutts".  Our dog is getting spayed the end of October.  I have enough 2-legged babies, I don't want anymore 4-legged ones.

Today our youngest goes back to her ENT to get her ears suctioned.  It doesn't hurt, but she HATES it!  I'm going to ask for a prescription med to put in her ears to keep them clean.  I use debrox, but it doesn't work for her.  ENT said her eustatia tubes are so small that her ears don't drain so they're always dirty.  Now with her hearing aide, if her ears aren't perfectly clean, the aides will squeal.  I need something that will get down in her "pipes" - like Drain-O ;)

Other than ENT and dance tonight for Mim and Middle Son, not much else happening.  Hubby got all the laundry done yesterday.  I just need to fold it all.  We got the girls' beds taken apart and the room rearranged for their new bed which is supposed to be delivered tomorrow.  I have an 8:30 doc appointment to recheck my blood pressure.  Then I take Youngest to get her hearing aide at 10.  Like I said - hit the ground running.

You all make it a great day.  HAPPY FIRST DAY OF FALL!!  Bring on the cool weather ;D

Mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on September 22, 2009, 06:14:01 am
Morning Ladies-

Betty-  Congrats on the love seat. You've gone a long time with out a seating area.  Now, it's time for you and your kitty to snuggle up the the couch especially since it is getting colder.  Cat's are so funny when it comes to enjoying new furniture.  I wonder if they think it just appeared, magically, and specifically for them?.  In my house the cat and dog are so spoiled that a lot of times I find my self squished on the couch between the two of them.  However, I am not so freaky that I  would allow the same if I have guests.

Mum-  Too bad your child didn't receive the hearing aides on Friday.  I know that is a frustrating process as my father has to be fitted perfectly.  He goes back and forth to the doctors until everything is perfect.  Just one more thing.  Where is this doggy thread?  This who "oodle" phenomena is really absurd, in the sense of the high priced mutts they're producing.  I understand the allergies, but I can not rationalize a $1000 + for a golden doodle, labor doodle, or puggle.  I'm happy to announce I have not seen a daneydoodle yet.
I was writing this when you posted you message.  My word, the shortest summer is officially over?  I hope that we have, at least, a long, beautiful fall.

Queen-  Thinking of you.  Sounds like an awful bug or food poisoning? Getting sick is always an inconvenience but especially now that you have appointments regarding the apartment. Are there any kind of restrictions or guidelines you  have to follow when finding a place?

Netta-  Happy to hear that your DH got the raise despite not getting the promotion. In addition, that there were "halo bending" co workers trying to bring down your husband's reputation by bringing up the past.  How much more mean spirited  can you get?

I'm busy today but looking forward to it.   I have been pretty tired lately, because as I posted early, I've been staying up late and getting up very early.  Another reason is I've had this real dedication to watching documentaries on my netflix.  HBO has had a few good ones also.  One in particular is about honey bee's colony collapse disorder.  Honey bees are dying at an exponential rate.  They cannot figure out what's killing them and it's getting serious.  Owners of bees are having to sell the family business because of a 70 percent death rate in the hives in just over a few months. Not only are families being affected, but the ego system will feel the devastation at unknown proportions if they continue to die off.  Another documentary, not so depressing, was "Confessions of a Superhero"  It follows four men and women who work as superhero characters on the sidewalks of Hollywood Boulevard.  It's making me realize how strange are the lives of others. 

Hope you girls have a great day!

Hugs,

Camms
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: vivyt on September 22, 2009, 08:32:46 am
Oh my gosh!!! I didn't realize how long it has been since I posted. I have just been so busy! This is just a quick stop to say Hello!. Will come back later

Andrea  :)
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 22, 2009, 09:06:25 am
Hey everyone,

Netta, I know you're anxious to get your new puppy.  I love shitzus.  One of my very good friends has one, and she's just the sweetest thing.     I still think it's horrible that someone told the boss about your hubby's past.  It's none of their business.  Stuff like that pisses me off.  How are you feeling by the way?  Any better with the eating?

Queen, furniture that gets paid for for HIV+ people?  Wow, that's great.  You're probably excited about getting a new place-I would be.       I really hope you're feeling better today.  Yeah, don't let it get out of control if you think it's something that's going to cause problems. 

Mum, yeah, with work experiences, people can only do 3.  I get paid minimum wage through Goodwill, who got me this work experience.  Isn't it ironic-Goodwill won't hire me because of my past, but they will set me up with other places for work experiences.  I hope things work out for your youngest daughter with the cleaning out and hearing aids.  I remember Debrox, my father used to use that.  I hope the doctor can give you a good idea about something that will actually work on your daughter. 

Camms, bees disappearing is just more evidence of how polluted this society has become.  It is dangerous to lose bees.  Think of how they pollinate things and what would happen if they disappeared.  I've only seen about 3 or 4 over the summer.  Very strange.     I've taken to reading biographies, and autobiographies.  I just got done reading Kennedy's new book, and it was terrific.  I didn't realize how much public service he and his other siblings (especially JFK and Bobby) did.  I love reading about other people.     About the loveseat, yes, I believe my cat thinks I got her a new bed.  She loves to take over things.

Andrea, what's going on with you?

Today I'm not working.  All I really have to do is pick up some prescriptions.  I'm reading this book about people who have survived horrific situations, and how they did it.  It's really quite interesting.  This one lady, who was a knitter, went to her knitting group.  When she came to the door of the house where the group was being held, she slipped, and the result was that part of a wooden knitting needle went through her sternum and punctured part of her heart.  It's just a really good book.  I've gotten into reading, and trying to learn more about things and people.  As I was telling Camms, I just got done reading Sen. Kennedy's book, and it was a terrific read.  I would recommend it to anyone.  The Kennedys did so much public service, and were responsible, or co-authored so many bills that benefitted so many people.  I admire them very much.               I guess that's it for me.  You all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: HollyStar on September 22, 2009, 03:34:18 pm
Hi ladies,

Betty, it is just totally outrageous that the goodwill will help with finding work but won't hire you. GRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!! And that's great that you are reading so much. That's something that I need to pick up again. I really like fiction though. I still carry a book in my purse most of time though.

Hi Andrea! It's been a while.

Camms, the whole thing with the bees is really scary. I think I have watched something about it and I really don't think most people know about it or really give a damn if they do know. The consequences will be devastating! Anyway, I hope you get some rest.

Mum, I hope everything works out with the hearing aid and that you start to feel better.

Queen, I'm sorry that you are feeling so crappy. I also don't think that food poisoning should last this long. I hope you get it sorted soon. I also can't wait to get a new computer so I can start gaming again. It's addicting!

Netta, that really sucks about hubby not getting the promotion because of that jackass! I hope you are feeling better.

Sorry if I forgot anyone.

Everything is going OK with me, I'm just really bored! We're kind of homebound as we're pretty broke and we both have cabin fever. My bf also switched his meds from Sustiva and Combivir to Atripla about a week ago. I think he adjusting OK, though he has had an upset stomach the past couple of mornings but that could be stress too.
Also, my mom mailed me some home made blueberry jam and zucchini bread several days ago. It is so good and was very nice to get something homemade from her.

On another note, about a month or so ago, I finally got a myspace account. I've been against the whole social networking thing but I thought it would be cool to look up old school mates and have actually contacted a few of them. One of my old friends has a husband and two kids and the other is studying chemical engineering and something else. It's just crazy to see how different we all are now and all of us are on such different paths than I thought they would be. I never thought that my partying friend would be going to school for chemical engineering with a goal of eventually flying into space and my other friend would be married with children and then me getting HIV and always putting my goals for the future on the back burner. I really truly am happy for the both of them. It just really made me reflect on my own life. It made me kinda of depressed but also forcing me to look at my goals again. Strange but in a good way if that makes sense.

Well, I've rambled long enough. You all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 22, 2009, 03:50:48 pm
Well, I am feeling 100 percent better today. I have been up and moving around, doing the laundry with Papi. I blogged. I remember when I use to put out an entry almost every week. Sometimes I feel guilty because I haven't been doing it as much. Not planning on doing much other than just chilling around the house. Maybe I will watch a movie or play one of my games. I haven't really decided yet.

Betty---Yeah, I almost hit the floor too. The same place will also pay part of your rent if you have an income and all of your rent if you don't. But I don't need that since I am on Section 8. It's good to know there are places here that will help. Back home there is only the local ASO and every year it seems like their funding is being cut.

Camms---Not really any restrictions, it seems here I can qualify for up to a 2 bedroom. But I don't really need or want a 2 bedroom. I might consider it should people come to visit me. But then at the same time, it just means more stuff.

Holly--You type so fast. You posted when I was writing but when I started no one else was in this thread. Wow. Is your bf taking meds with food or without? Atripla also does a number on my stomach too. Once I find a new ID doc, I am going to ask to be switched to something else.

Mum--I hated getting my ears cleaned out too. Especially when there is wax on the ear drum, not a nice feeling at all. I don't blame your daughter for hating it. Is there something out there better than Debrox because that doesn't do anything for me either. I use Q-tips from time to time though they say it is not good but what else can I do? I got to get the wax out someway. And if your daughter is having wax problems with her ears now, she may have even more because hearing aids seem to cause wax build up. At least for me it does.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on September 23, 2009, 06:40:56 am
I wish I had better news to greet you all this morning.  There is a little girl named Abby who dances with my younger kids on Monday nights.  This past Monday, her mom brought her 3mth old baby brother, Riley, to class.  He was such a cutie - one of those babies with a perfectly shiny bald head and big ol' toothless smile.  I tried holding him in my lap, but he just wanted to stand up and "talk".  He was even bouncing around on my lap.  Full of energy and drool.

16 1/2 hours later, at 11am yesterday morning, Riley was pronounced dead.  Not really sure what happened - information is kind of scattered and fragmented.  From what we've pieced together, he woke up Tuesday morning and was having some problems breathing.  Because it was early - 7am - the doctor suggested they go to the ER instead of waiting to see him later that day.  By 10 am, Riley could only breathe with a respirator and by 11am they pronounced him.  He wasn't running any fever and his white count was fine.

The whole thing is so surreal to me.  I JUST held that baby and played with him.  My kids kissed him on the head before we left.  And now he's just gone.  I'm still trying to wrap my head around it.  The funeral hasn't been scheduled yet, but when they do, I'll go.  Wow...

Mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 23, 2009, 07:45:01 am
Holly, I understand perfectly being broke.  Right now, being that it's the end of the month, I'm broke also.  And I hate being broke.     That homemade blueberry jam and zucchini bread sounds really good.  Enjoy it.   And please don't compare yourself to other people on that myspace thing.  No one lives the exact duplicate life of someone else.  Everyone has their own trials to go through, and you have as well.  I mean, it's good that you're looking at your goals again, but don't feel bad.

Queen, yeah, all I have here is an ASO.  And they're always broke, and never have anything in their food pantry.  I'm glad you're going to be able to get more help there.  Maybe someday I'll move to New York. ;)   And you're eligible for a 2 br there?  Wow, that's great, even if you don't need it now, who knows, maybe someday you'll need it.

Mum, I am so, so sorry about Riley.  Things like that seem to defy explanation.  I mean, why some people die without warning is a mystery.  I hope the family is doing alright, and I'll definitely keep them in my thoughts and prayers.  It seems like me saying "I'll keep _____ in my prayers," is becoming a common thing to say lately.  I hope everyone's luck, or whatever it may be, starts turning around soon. 

Today I'm going to that work experience thing at 2:00 this afternoon.  I like it so far.  It's something I love, which is working with addicts/alcoholics.  The man who I work with is a Pentecostal outreach minister. The organization that we're working with, though, has nothing to do with religion.  I told him I used to go to Pentecostal churches (it's true).  He asked what made me stop, so I told him, "I don't think women have to wear dresses all the time, no makeup, and no jewelry in order to be saved.  And I don't think people have to talk in tongues to be saved."  He took that and let it rest.  I mean, I believe some people can probably talk in tongues; it's in the Bible.  But, I don't think it's a prerequisite to being accepted by God.  I remember when I used to go, the pastor at the church I was attending told me that recovering addicts make the best Pentecostals.  I'm sure that's true, since their services can be another high.  I mean, the services border on hysteria, with everyone running around, falling over and supposedly speaking in tongues etc.  Anyway, that's my morning rant for now.  You all have a good day. :-*
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on September 23, 2009, 08:19:45 am
Good Morning-

Oh Mum- my goodness. How awful.  It is sooo horrible reading about you and your kids kissing the baby and this unfortunate situation unfolds.  Now the loss and suffering the parents are feeling, you being able to relate, as a mom, must be just devastating.  The whole thing just sucks!

Betty-  That book regarding people who make lemonade out of lemons sounds fascinating.  I have a compulsion to read about the underdog or victim who overcomes their trials and tribulations.  What's the name of the book?  A bio about the Kennedy's sounds like a good read.  I've never been a big fan but I'm used to hearing or reading about their scandalous ways.  However, I do like to read about the positive aspects to someone's work so I will put it on the list.

Queen-  The combo I'm on is great (Truvada, norvir and reyetaz). I haven't had to deal with any side affects so I'm thinking you might consider it. I also take a probiotic everyday, so maybe that has something to do with it.  On the down side, they tend to get pricey, but the Vitamin Shoppe has good deals and competitive pricing.  Glad to hear you are back to 100%.  I was becoming concerned, especially now that the swine flu is lurking around.  They closed the schools, in my former town, because 12 came down with it.  

Holly- You should try facebook.  I cannot believe how many people I've reconnected to.  I was never into the social internet applications but I've had a really good time with this one.  As for what you're  feeling with friends and "how did I end up here" feeling, I think, is pretty common.  When I was first diagnosed that was a big part of my mental ills...comparing myself to others. As time went on, I realized some people out there have it really bad.  I think negative  people, too,  pull out their comparative charts for just about anything.  "Who would have thought I would be divorced, who would have thought I'd be pill popper, who would have thought I would get involved in waste management, etc etc, when everyone else has the perfect life.  I think it's human nature

My big dilemma recently is snoring.  It sounds ridiculous right?  But it's becoming an issue with G.  Not with him, with me.  He just pokes me in the side but I don't want to keep him up and I know that's what's happening.  I never dealt with it before.  I guess my previous partners were sound sleepers, because this doesn't pop up right away.  I've done some research on the internet but I wanted to hear some advice you ladies.

Ladies, have a good one.

Hugs,

Camms

Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 23, 2009, 12:03:00 pm
Camms, the Kennedy's "scandalous ways" are mostly bs.  Teddy K. talks in his book about Chapaquidick, and after reading the truth about it, I don't see how anyone could hold him in judgement.  The Kennedys are responsible for passage of many bills that brought help to many, many people (including the HIV+ community)....the Civil Rights Act, the Americans With Disabilities Act, OSHA, Ryan White Care Act, Special Olympics, increasing minimum wage etc.   Some people, especially the far right, would like all America to hold the family in harsh judgement for a few mistakes, and damn them.  I say, judge by what they left behind, and what they did for the country when they were here, not by a few mistakes.  Otherwise, as I see it, we're all damned.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: #1 mom on September 23, 2009, 12:36:10 pm
Lucas is in school so this is my time to scramble and get things done without my little helper  ;).

Mum - I'm so sorry for this new loss. I'll add Riley, Abby and the rest of the family to my prayers.

Queen - I'm glad you're feeling better.

Camms - Do you have allergies? During the spring when mine are the worst I snore terribly. Besides treating the allergies sometimes breathright strips help.

Betty - I hope the work experience goes well. Maybe you'll make a contact that can help you find a job.

Betty & Camms - I guess the bee problem isn't hitting PA too bad at least so far. The flowers around my house are always filled with bees.

Well, got to run to get things done before the little helper returns  ;).
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Snowangel on September 23, 2009, 10:05:05 pm
Mum- I am so sorry to hear about Riley, what a shock.  That is so sad, I will keep him and his family in my prayers.

Camms- Have you tried those breathe right strips that go on the bridge of your nose? I don't have a problem with snoring, I tend to talk, cry and hit in my sleep( I have actually given my SO a couple bruises  :o). 

BT- I just don't understand why they are just looking at your past past and not your recent past.  I mean come on, they can't have that many people with records that come in with the degrees you have gotten recently? The sad thing is that you want to work and so many just rather just live off the state.  I guess, it is another case of people who don't have a clue making up the rules.  Maybe with this new position you are at now, you can meet some contacts to get you in somewhere.  My SO's brother and sister in law are both recovering addicts with records and they both go and speak at the prisons and the sister in law has a job helping people just starting in recovery.

Queen- Glad you are feeling better and it is nice to hear that you are liking NYC.  That is great that the ASO's are able to provide so much assistance.

Holly- I kind of feel the same way about Facebook, to me, it seems like no really posts if they are having a bad day or bad whatever, it is all about the vacations they are booking and dinners they went out to?  Some days I like it, other times it can be depressing.  Especially around the end of the month, when I have no money to get food, nevermind extras.

I volunteered at my kids school on all day Monday, yesterday I went to a cookout put on for the volunteers for the place I volunteer for and today I laid low.  I have been dog sitting my Mom's dog, she is so goofy. If she could talk I think she would walk around saying, "I'm a happy dog" over and over again.  It takes her forever to pee and poop, most dogs you let them out and they pee as soon as they get to "thier" spot, it takes her 15 minutes at least.

Everybody have a good night!
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: vivyt on September 23, 2009, 10:10:08 pm
Hey everyone!!! So much has been going on! It's nice to see that everyone has a life to report. LOL! I have just been so busy and TIRED. Most of the time I just don't want to do anything beyond check my email and then before I know a week has passed. I started my last master's course so that is overwhelming. Nothing much else. I am really enjoying the 2nd graders.

I just quickly scanned through the other posts and there is way too much to comment on. I hope no one is offended... ;D

I won't let time get away from me next time.

Have a good night all my wonderful ladies!!!!!!

Andrea :)
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 24, 2009, 05:26:58 am
Yeah, I'm up early, but I have to be at the work experience at 7:30 this morning, to drive to another town, which is about 45 minutes away.  I've already been up about an hour; way too early.

Amy, is Lucas still liking school?

Snow, it's like I keep telling everyone, around here, it's like we're in the heart of the conservative South.  People want others who have a record, or anything else out of the ordinary, to pay for the rest of their lives.  About this job I'm doing now, the guy I've been working with is real nice; but, I don't know if it's him who does the hiring for these positions of "recovery consultants," or if it's the state.  If it's the state, I don't have a chance.           I don't remember you ever posting about your volunteer job.  You probably did, and my memory is not being kind.  What is it you're doing?

Andrea, I'm sure you are tired, taking that course and being a full-time teacher. 

Well everyone, have a good day.  I'll probably be back later.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: tendai on September 24, 2009, 07:09:24 am
hie ladies

just poking my head in to say hie.  im ok, im an idiot but im ok. 

betty - im sorry for the trouble you're having with work and the stuff from your past. its like they wont give someone a chance...

camms - im so happy for you. if he can take the snoring and doesnt mind, dont worry about it :-)

queen - im glad u're loving NY

andrea - enjoy your studies and your kids...

netta - enjoy the puppy!
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 24, 2009, 12:06:02 pm
Morning.....

Just got up almost an hour ago. I was up last night til 3 am. My morning ritual is something to drink, a cig, and watch about all of the judge shows. While perusing the the judge shows, I get online, check my email and post here. After that is when I get up and get motivated. Not much going on for today. Papi and I may go to the movies but that is still up in the air.

Tendai--Good to see you. And what do you mean you're an idiot? Now why would you say that?

Camms--My bf snores loud too. But when I take my hearing aids out, I don't hear anything. Maybe your friend could wear ear plugs, that's what my bff does cause her bf snores. Or have one tried those breathing strips you put on your nose. Not sure if it works but it was invented by a guy who snores.

Snow--U volunteering somewhere? I totally missed that too. How do you like it?

Betty- What is the work experience? You're volunteering there now?


That's it for me.....
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Snowangel on September 24, 2009, 04:02:42 pm
Yeah, Ten. What's up with the idiot comment?

BT & Queen- I have been volunteering for a couple of years now.  I found the place when I was leaving the my sons boy scout council. I was taking a 93 women to the library, to do her laundry, grocery shopping and I did yard work for her but she passed this last Christmas.  The other lady I started out decorating her Christmas tree because she she had fallen and broke her hip and arm.  She has cancer that is in remission but I have realized that she drinks alot and she also smokes?  I went to her house again today and cleaned and organized her pantry and then took her to Costco.

I hope everyone has a good night, my son has football practice so that is all I am doing.

Snow
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: netta on September 24, 2009, 07:09:54 pm
Hello all,
Mums- so sad to here about the baby Riley, you all and his family is in my prayers. Wonder what happened.? an allergic reaction? phenmonia??  Hope the doctors find out.

Nothing much happening with me feeling better and eating better since i stopped the nexium for my stomach. i have been having pain in my feet and toes, Have an appiontment with my rhermatoligist on tuesday. EXcuse my spelling. I think it is nerapathy. which is common in Hiv people. this can be a side effect from meds. Other than that I'm fine. My dd birthday is Friday ,she will be 30 yrs. old! i am getting old. lol
OH on another topic, My  oldest dear sister's and late brothers' father passed in August, My mothers first husband, after suffering with alzheimer. My ds could not go to the funeral, because of finances, and lived so far away. Her aunt was so rude, they didn't even send an obituary! You all know my dear brother passed in March, of this year, Ironically six months before his father, Well my sister found the obituary online and no mention of my brother!  only my sister!!! this has me boiling madd!!!  >:(also my brothers was named, middle name after his father!! is this crazy or what??? MY brother flew to Georgia  from Conn. to visit his sick father many times,  and family even though he was sick himself!
Do you think it was because he was gay, and had aids??? i hope not.

Camms- My dh snores like crazy! ,we have tried the breathing strips, works a little, He bought me earplugs!
Snow- did you say you do volunteer work? how sweet of you!

Queen- excited for you and your new apartment!

Vivt- god bless you , we understand how busy you are these days. take time out to smell the roses.
Tendai- don 't breat yourself up, whatever the case.
Shout out to all!
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 25, 2009, 05:47:50 am
Tendai, so good to hear from you.  I'm with Queen and Snow-what's with the idiot comment?

Queen, the work experience goes something like this- vocational rehab helped pay for some of my school.  When that happens, they set people who have used them up with some job search people.  Mine happen to be at Goodwill.  I picked there, because one of the ladies I'm working with used to work at the ASO here.  Anyway, the job search people set me up with what are called work experiences.  That's working with local social service organizations, and I get paid minimum wage through Goodwill, and I believe Voc. rehab reimburses Goodwill probably.  There can be 3 job experiences (this is my 3rd one) and they only last for a month.  The last organization I worked with, I stayed on and volunteered at.  I don't think there's volunteer opportunities for the organization I'm working with now, because there's a lot of filling out papers, and being that I'm not an employee of the organization, I can't fill out any papers.    Did you and Papi go see any movies yesterday?

Snow, I believe it helps the soul to volunteer.  I think that's really great of you.  I love volunteering. 

Netta, I'm glad you're able to eat better without the Nexium.  I have neuropathy, and it can be quite painful.  Just last night, even though I'm on meds for it, it felt like I was having a nail drilled into one of my toes.  Sometimes it feels like electrical shocks in the feet.  I hope you're able to get some help for it.

I'm meeting the man from the organization I'm working with this morning at 8:00 at a coffee shop.  He usually sees people, who are trying to get on the program, there (at the coffee shop).  It's a pretty good organization I believe.  It's called Access to Recovery.  It pays for a variety of things-outpatient treatment, transitional housing, some counseling etc.  It has a cap on how much it will pay per person.  I like it so far.               I think that's it for now.  I hope you all have a good day.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on September 25, 2009, 06:54:09 am
What a week and I'm glad it's over.  The viewing for baby Riley is today from 10-noon.  The funeral was a "family only" at the graveyard, but they've decided to open it to the public.  I just can't imagine.  The autopsy was Wednesday, but so far no one knows what the "official" cause of death was.  The whole thing blows my mind.

Wed. our youngest got her hearing aide.  Then, she proceded to scream and cry (think foaming at the mouth screaming - like she was being tortured) for a solid 3hrs.  I had to pull over into a parking lot, crack the windows a bit, and get out of the car.  I stood by her window so she could see me and not freak out, but I needed some seperation. 

Just as she was starting to settle down, the delivery guys came with the girls' new beds.  Instead of turning into our driveway in front of our barn (we moved the cars out of the way, down the hill) then backing up the truck to the house, the idiot driver turned too soon and nosed the truck smack into the revine!  3 hour later, the tow truck shows up and pulls them out.  I wanted to scream.

Yesterday I did laundry all day.  But, I got it done, folded, and all put away.  This morning I've got to get everyone packed for the weekend.  Hubby and I leave this afternoon for Toledo to pick up our newest member ;D.  Hubby packed all his books so he can study.  I packed a little, black, slinky number ;) - we'll see who wins.

That's all from this side of the mountain.  Still getting used to it being pitch black at 7am and getting dark again by 7:30pm.  Make it a good weekend.  Hopefully I'll be able to post pictures of our new baby by Monday. By "I'll", I really mean "Hubby'll".

Stay safe!
Mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on September 25, 2009, 08:18:50 am
Hey Happy Friday-

Glad to see you Tendai....yeah, idiot?  what's up with that?

thanks for all the advice.  I went out and bought the snore strips and they are working.  I saw the commercial once and thought it was just another goofy product.

Mum-  I'm glad that this is the weekend that you are picking up the little one, with no name....or I should say...only you hold the secret as the beholder of the name.  I think it's time just to get out of town even if it's just for a day.  Can't wait to see the pics.

Netta- Sorry to hear about the discomfort in your feet and toes. Is it a nerve pain or joint?

Betty-  Good luck with the meeting today.  Sounds like a great program. 

Not much to report. My uncle passed away so I will be busy with wakes and funeral business this weekend. 

Have a great Friday.

Camms
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Sweet_C on September 25, 2009, 08:46:13 am
Just wanted to stop by to say hi to everyone!  I've got a lot of catching up to do since I've been gone from these threads for about a year!
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on September 26, 2009, 08:27:15 am
Good morning

Betty-  what's the name of the book about the people overcoming bad situations?  As far a the media's depiction of people and families of power, they mostly always focus on the notorious behavior of the individuals or group.  Yes, it one sided and not limited to a particular political party.  My goodness, just watch the history channel. So many of their documentaries are "dirty little secrets".  Ah but that's the crappy media.

Snow-  How old is the woman who you are caring for now....the one in remission from cancer.

Welcome back Sweet C. 

I just received in Netflix "Grizzly Man", the story about Timothy Treadwell a bear enthusiast.  I had scene it a few years back but wanted to view it again.  The director is Werner Hertzog, a very peculiar filmmaker who narrates the film, interjected with his own feelings toward Treadwell.  I believe it's been on Animal Planet so some of you may have seen it.

Has anyone had a chance to see the new Michael Moore film?

Well, I bought ear plugs for him and it's so so. The strips aren't working.  I will have to revisit my options..sigh.

Hope you all have a great day.

hugs,

Camms

 

Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 26, 2009, 09:21:44 am
Camms, it's called "The Survivor's Club" and it's by Ben Sherwood.  About the media and people in "power," I think we can usually sort out truth from over-blown circumstances, that are not told at 100% clarity by newspeople.  Yeah, the Kennedys had some flaws, but their public service, and the things they did for this country far, far outweigh their mistakes.  Unlike Bush, who not only declassified the info that got the CIA agent's identity publicly known, and also starting a war based on deception told to the American people.  A war that has cost trillions, and a lot of lives.  Big difference.       Sorry, I don't know what to tell you about the snoring.  I don't know if I snore or not, but I do know I've woke myself up at times talking in my sleep.  I hope things work out.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: vivyt on September 26, 2009, 10:39:09 am
Good morning everyone! So much going on!

Mum- I can't wait to see pictures of your new member! It makes me want to get another dog until I look at the one I have and change my mind...LOL!

Betty- I saw a program on MTV the other day which focused on tattoos. They were young people who were dealing with the problems that the tattoos caused them. One guy was getting them removed so he could get a better job. Anyways....it made think of you. Has anything turned around for you?

Queen- So....are you enjoying New York?  ;D

Camms- Ok...I missed a lot obviously. Do you have a boyfriend?

Netta- I am glad you are feeling better.

Tendai- What's going on?

Sweet C- Hello

Well I went to a new ID doctor on Thursday and I just love him! Totally different then the one I have been seeing. He was very thorough and explained everything in great detail. I think he is going to be much better.
Today I am just going to be doing my homework... :( :(

Talk to you all later!

Andrea :)
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on September 26, 2009, 02:18:39 pm
Betty-  thanks, hopefully I will be able to pick it up this week.  Good Lord, don't even get me started on Bush.   :-X  What a waste......

Viv-  Yes, I have a new guy.  He was my first boyfriend and first love when I was in high school / college.  He moved away to san fran for 15 years and we recently reconnected.  It's really wonderful and I'm happier than I've been in a very long time. 

Camms
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on September 26, 2009, 09:10:07 pm
We are back home after 2 very long days.  Our baby is such a sweet heart.  She rode in my lap the whole 6 hr trip home.  She's red with some pink splotches.  Her hair is white with some auburn streaks.  She's a lip-lover :-*  I took several pictures but Hubby is catching up on his school work and studying for tests, so you'll have to wait until tomorrow for pictures. ::)  I have some of her growling at herself in my mirror.  She was funny.  She was walking into our bedroom, did a double-take at her reflection, then started growling at it.  Then, during dinner, she took to growling and barking at a tissue box.  Definately not the brightest bulb in the cubbard.

Oh, yeah, her name is (drum roll....)  The Contessa Ava Camille Rose.  We're calling her Ava.

I was hoping we wouldn't have to crate her, but not long after being home, she peed on the living room carpet.  So, when we're not home, she'll have to go in her crate.  The breeder said that Ava is used to being crated at night to sleep, but she sure didn't act like she was real happy about it tonight.  She didn't fuss, but she put up a good struggle.  I haven't heard from her, so I assume she's fallen asleep.

I'll post more when I can put up some pictures.  Make it a good one.

Mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on September 27, 2009, 08:01:53 am
Hello Ladies-

Mum-  glad you made it back safely with the new puppy Ava.  I love the name.  First off, Ava will probably have a particular connection to you since she bonded with you on the ride home. I read that some time ago when I first got my pup. She sounds like a real character.  What was the kid's response?

Well, not much going on except my Uncle passed away a few days ago and today is the wake. Technically, I think he is my great uncle since he was my grandmother's brother?  But I always just thought of him as my uncle.  My sister is driving up to my house, then, we'll switch to my car which we will  have a two hour ride.  It will be good catching up with her since I don't see her very often.  I'm also glad that I'll be walking in with my sister into the funeral home.  I know that nobody likes a wake, but I get really choked up when someone I know is in pain.  So it will be difficult seeing my Aunt and his kids.  On a brighter note, he was older, 84, and lived life to the fullest.  He was literally a large presence, in the room, so much so that his hands made everyone else's seem tiny. He worked and lived in Tehran for years and skied the slopes of turkey.  He was surrounded my a large family who loved him terribly.

It's raining here today.  I hope you all have a sunny day where ever you may be.  Except, Queen, I know you probably have the same weather I have since I can see ny from my house... :-\

Hugs,

Camms
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Sweet_C on September 27, 2009, 08:22:39 am
It's a beautiful sunny morning.  We've been getting so much rain in GA.  I think I may go for a walk.  I'm so worried about fitting into my dress.  My wedding is two weeks away and I feel so bloated.

Camille,  Congratulations on the new relationship!!!  :)

Mum, that's quite a long name for such a tiny dog!

Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 27, 2009, 08:34:59 am
Hey all,

Andrea, no, nothing's happening.  I wish I could afford to get the tatts removed, but that's quite expensive, and one usually has to go back a few times before they're gone (the tatts).  I looked online about creams that could do the same thing.  I found one that's gotten some good reviews from dermatologists.  But, they're expensive as well, and it takes months before the tatt is faded.  One of my friends suggested seeing if they have prescription tatt removal cream, and if there is, asking my doc to prescribe it if my insurance covers it.  I still have to do that.

Camms, yeah, I could go on and on about Bush also.  I read the book that his former press secretary, I think his name was Scott something or other, and that really opened my eyes.  It was a good book.

Mum, love the name (it's so cute).   I can't wait to see some pics!  How'd she do in the crate last night?  Any yelping?

Sweet, I'm glad you're posting here with us. :)

Not much planned for today except cleaning.  Yesterday a friend and I went out to supper, then to a meeting (NA).  It was a good meeting.  There was a girl there, who has like 90 days clean who was crying about all the emotions she's dealing with.  It's tough, I know. Drugs numb out emotions for so long, that when they come, they're overwhelming.  And we don't really have all the tools yet to deal with all of them.  The first year being clean is very trying.  There was another guy who shared about how he used to feel in early recovery, and he said people would told him "it gets better."  He said he wondered what "it" was, and finally figured out "it" meant "him."   In other words, circumstances still happen.  It's just that we get better equipped to deal with them (I guess).                That's it for now. You all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: HollyStar on September 27, 2009, 03:01:22 pm
Hi ladies,

Mum, I love the dogs name! I hope you can find some rest after the long trip.

Welcome, Sweet C!

Betty, I'm glad that you had a good meeting and I really hope the work experience is going well for you. I think about you often.

Camms, I'm very sorry for your loss. That's great that he did have such a long life and surrounded by family.

Andrea, that's great that you found a good ID doc. I've had two and both of them were really great, which seems a little odd as I live in such a small town.

I'm doing OK. I have had visitors the past few days, so I've been trying to keep the house in order. Now that we have some breathing room, I need to clean again! Ah, well, what do I expect living in the country!? Then we will be having more guests at the end of the week that will actually be staying for a while and after that my brother and his girlfriend will come for a visit.
I'm also cramming for a math class that I'm taking. It's an online course but I have two assignments due..today! Yes, I've been slacking but I'm determined to actually finish it this time around.
We are both looking forward to a vacation that will hopefully happen in November. We still haven't decided where we're going but I have always wanted to go to Hawaii and so has my bf but he calls airplanes 'flu tubes', LOL. Where ever we decide to go, it will definitely be in the US. And when we do go somewhere, we have to board 6 dogs and have to find someone that will come and feed all the cats. It's a hassle but a break is needed for sure. Anyway, you all have a good day.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 27, 2009, 03:05:36 pm
Just looking in, not much to say really. The finding an apartment thing is a little more complicated especially after going to the meeting..But I am still trying to keep hope alive... :-\

Yeah, Camms, it's rainy and cold here today. Little bit of drama with Papi. I don't blame him though, his daughter and her bf don't like to clean up behind themselves. So, we have been doing it and it has gotten on both of our nerves. He's been talkiing to them about it so hopefully things will change. It also putting a fire under my ass to find my own place. As my Mother use to say, "God bless the child who has his/her own". I pretty much stay out of it.

I am waiting for my benefits to kick in so I can go find some doctors. I have Medicaid, that's the red, white, and blue card. I can use that can't I til the other benefits kick in?
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 27, 2009, 03:30:44 pm
I am waiting for my benefits to kick in so I can go find some doctors. I have Medicaid, that's the red, white, and blue card. I can use that can't I til the other benefits kick in?

Queen, I think you're talking about the Medicare card.  Yeah, you can use it.  You mean for a doctor's, right?  Medicare is good anywhere in the country.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: #1 mom on September 28, 2009, 01:22:37 am
Hi everyone,

Sweet C - Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Mum - What a mouthful of a name LOL. I hope little Ava lives up to it. How is she doing with the kids?
Vivyt - I'm glad you finally found a doctor you like. Don't work too hard on your homework  ;).
Camms - I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like he lived a full and exciting life.
Betty - I'm glad you had a good meeting.

Even though I trust my family, I've been afraid to leave Lucas because of his medicine. Now that he's a little older, and getting better about taking his medicine, we thought it was time to give it a try. So, Sam and I went away this weekend. We took Lucas to my mom's house and she and my sister watched him so Sam and I could have some time alone. It's the first time we've done that since Lucas was born (3 years  :o). We stayed in Somerset, less than an hour from my mom's place.  ::) What can I say? For the first time I didn't want to be too far away in case there was a problem. Well, it was fabulous! We played mini golf, went bowling and finished up shooting pool in a bar with live music. It might not sound exciting to some, but we loved it. We also had an incredible dinner. If you are ever in Somerset, PA you need to go to Lamonica's. Wonderful food (especially the fresh pasta and bread) and the prices aren't bad. The hotel room with a Jacuzzi tub was the icing on the cake  ;).
Lucas had a great time too. He enjoyed being spoiled by Grammy and Aunt Lynn  ;). Now that things went so well, we'll have to plan for more  ;D.

Blessings to all!

Amy
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 28, 2009, 05:44:27 am
Morning all,

Camms, I'm sorry about your uncle.  That's good that he was able to do what he wanted in life. 

Holly, I don't see how you can take a math class online.  When I was in school, I had to take algebra, and I had to meet with the teacher outside of class.  I'm not good at all in math.  If someone were to put a problem in front of me now, that I did a year ago, I probably would not know how to do it.

Amy, I'm so glad you and your hubby had a nice time by yourselves.  I used to love to play pool at this bowling alley when I was younger.  There was a jukebox, and I would always play some rock songs from bands of the day; of course, back then, it was like AC/DC, Van Halen (the original) etc.   The jaccuzi sounds really nice, and I'm glad Lucas did well. 

I believe all that's going on today is that work experience, and I'm taking back a book to the library that I'm done reading.  I don't know what I'm going to be doing with the work experience; I'm meeting the guy I work with at the bus station at 8:15.  I think he's picking up, then passing out bus passes.  I hope the work lasts for a few hours today.  The guy is going out of town tomorrow until the weekend, then next week he's going out of town, and the week after (I want his job).  Actually, this week, he's going to Louisville, KY, to learn about a new way to treat meth addicts.  I know it's difficult, and meth doesn't have a high success rate of recovery.  But, my friend who works in addictions told me they graduated 3 meth addicts.  Anyway, with him being out of town for the next 3 weeks, I'm unsure as to what I'm going to be doing.  I hope we can talk about that today.     That's it for now.  You all have a good one.  BTW, mum, I can't wait to see pics of your new baby. 
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: keepingfaith on September 28, 2009, 09:29:15 pm
Hey Ladies,

Just dropping in to let you all know im still alive. I have been basically lurking. Nothing really going on with me. I have started back to school working on my MBA. I am tired already. Last time I went to the ID. my numbers had dropped from 804 to 600+. I just got my blood drawn again last month. Hope it is better. (my cd4) well just dropping in to say Hello. Hope all is well.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Sweet_C on September 29, 2009, 07:27:35 am
Camlille, Sorry to hear about your uncle.  :(

Betty, I did not know that there were tattoo removal creams.  It seems like that would be easier and less painful.

Good luck on your math test, Holly!

Hi Queen, Amy and KeepingtheFaith!




Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Snowangel on September 29, 2009, 09:25:56 am
Camille- Sorry to hear about your uncle.

Amy- I am so glad you and your hubby were able to get away.  That was nice of your Mom and sis to watch Lucas for you, they must of all had a blast.

BT- I hope you can get some good contacts or someone can give you some good direction on where you can go from here.  There is  a need for what you enjoy doing, it can't be being realized, if they are turning people away for old records and tattoos.

Hi Keeping- You don't even want to know what my dreams were about last night :o  Hopefully, your counts were just a blip, let us know what the new numbers are.

Queen- I agree with BT, sounds like Medicare and you should be able to use it now.  Good Luck with the apartment search!

Mum- This is me chanting  ;D We want pictures, we want pictures, we want pictures.  Cute name! Please tell your hubby we said, PLEEEEEEEZZEEE! ;D

I took the kids to the big fair we have around here last night and of course, it rained.  They still had a lot of fun, there were rides, farm animals to look at and lots of good things for them to eat.  We all got soaked walking back to the car, we had to park like a 1/4 of mile from fairgrounds, the smaller ones were exhausted by the time we left, so my oldest gave one a piggy back and I put one of my shoulders and carried the other, our car has never looked so good.
 I am going to a local park at the end of the week, we the 4th grade classes, they have 2 days of outdoor classroom.  I went with my son last year when he was in 4th and thought it was great for the kids.  Should be interesting since I don't know any of the kids in that class, so I will probably saying "Hey you" a lot. :-\
Thats it for me, hope everyone has a good one!

oh, does anyone want to be friends on Facebook?
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Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 29, 2009, 11:29:51 am
Heeeeeey----

I am a bit pissed off. I think my old apartment manager is trying to keep my security deposit. She has no reason to keep it, I left the place in good condition. So, I had to make a call back to Pa to speak to a district justice about suing her. Technically, she has until Thursday to get it to me but I have been corresponding with her thru emails and text messages. She even told me that she would have the money back to me before 30 days. I know legally she has 30 days but if she is going to send it, she is cutting it real close. And now all of a sudden she doesn't want to answer none of my emails or texts. I just hate when someone tries to get over or insult my intelligence.

Ugh, I am just so pissed off right now.....I'll post more later.... >:(
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on September 29, 2009, 05:50:07 pm
Latrice, boy it's good to hear from you.  Going back for your MBA, eh?  That's great.  I suppose you read about my conundrum with school.  Hopefully they'll have the program I want to get into accredited soon.

Sweet, yeah, the cream's expensive, though. Something like $60 per container.  And it takes months to work, but I think lasers do also.  Of course, I don't know for sure. 

Snow, I absolutely love fair food!  Myself and a friend went twice over the summer, just to eat food.   Good luck going to the park with the 4th graders.

Queen, I hope your ex-landlord returns the deposit.  I know you cleaned the apartment, you talked about having to steam clean the carpets.  It's not fair and it sucks.

Nothing happening here.  Same ol', same ol'.  My care coordinator came over today (from the ASO), and we talked for a little over 2 hours.  Mostly about life, some about the state of the ASO.  They need help, and I believe they want us, the clients, to help them.  I think we probably should, since we get the services.  I'm going to try to devise a game plan for myself.  Wish me luck.  Have a good one.           I'm waiting for pics of mum's newest addition.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: missy on September 29, 2009, 09:22:07 pm
Hi GFs
Jumpping in to say hi. Vacation was great, I needed a week away. Now its back to packing the end of October will be here before I know it and I have a lot to pack. Talk to you all latter. Mary
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on September 30, 2009, 06:05:24 am
I have now tried 3 times to post pictures and it says my files are too large >:(  I don't know how to reduce them, or I would.  I even got up before dawn (5:30am) to post them.  Actually, Snow's chanting was making it impossible to sleep ;)  I'll get Hubby on it when he wakes up - hopefully he can get them sized-down.  One issue has been that Hubby put them on our classroom computer and that's where our oldest son's curriculum is.  So, basically, it's never free (except at 5am).

Anyway, this week has been insane.  Last Friday, before we left for Toledo, Hubby was playing football with some of the 12-16yr old boys at co-op.  Now, Hubby is niether 12-15 nor is he athletic.  He's an upward 40-something computer geek.  Anyway, he wound up ripping his thigh muscle.  From just below his right butt cheek to the back of his knee is black rimmed in a lovely shade of olive green.  Just below the knee is a lighter shade of black.  Because he didn't elevate it after it happened, but sat in a car for 6hrs, gravity took over and the blood is puddling.  The more he walks on it (ie driving to and walking at school), the lower it will puddle.  We were told it could take 3wks or better for everything to heal.  Thank goodness it's not hot (57F yesterday and 58F today) and he can cover it with jeans.

Tomorrow our youngest son and Mim are in a talent / beauty pageant.  Before you all faint, yes I loathe the idea of beauty pageants.  But here, it's less about beauty per se and more about the talent.  Our youngest son's group has to play musical chairs to show good sportsmenship.  In the end, everyone gets a trophy and gift bag.  So, I've been trying to get haircuts, outfits together (Mim's is borrowed and my mom bought our son's), work on Mim's "walk" (talk about a comedy routine), and still try to stay sane.

Hubby was going to miss it because of tests tomorrow.  But, he talked to his professor and they guy POSTPONED the test until Tuesday so Hubby wouldn't miss it.  Now he can be there to watch the kids! ;D  Of course, he'll still go to his morning class and his night class, so the preparations and gathering up afterwards is up to me, but I don't care.  I'm just glad he'll be there for them.

Youngest has a follow-up appointment with the hearing aide people today at 10.  After that, I'll run some errands and do the grocery shopping.  Just the 2 of us - YEAH!  I've already written out lesson plans for Hubby for the other 5. ::)  Then I have class tonight and need to get my homework done.

That's about all for now.  I best start on my homework.

Mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 30, 2009, 01:06:05 pm
Not a good day for me at all....I just found out that my mother, my adopted one, had died from cancer. A cousin of mine had talked to my oldest sister who in turn had her son text message me. And the kicker of it all is that she died in July. I am her youngest child, she had 5 others from a previous marriage. I had seen or spoken to my mother in about 5 years when we were getting money from my father's estate when he passed away.

I had to yellowpage her to find her number. I called and spoke to my brother Michael. Our eldest sister Kathy, who lives in Boston is the executor of my Mom's estate. Michael and I spoke for awhile and gave him my address and phone number. My mother owned her own home in a nice neighborhood so once the house sells, I guess they will split it 6 ways. According to him, my mother had no outstanding debts.

But I feel like shit. I hadn't been in contact with her in over 5 years. We had no beef. We kinda drifted a part once her and my father divorced. They still lived together up until the time he died. She was a sweet woman, used to be a social worker for over 25 years before she retired. And once again cancer takes another one from me, that makes 3.

I just feel so numb. And though I haven't mentioned it in awhile....I am about to blaze up the good green in honor of her..... :'(
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Snowangel on September 30, 2009, 05:17:25 pm
Queen-
Sorry to hear about your Mom.  May she rest in peace.  You are in my thoughts and prayers!
Snow
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on September 30, 2009, 06:14:41 pm
Thanks Snow..... I appreciate it and could sure use those prayers about now...
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Post by: #1 mom on September 30, 2009, 06:30:31 pm
Mum - Best wishes for the talent show. I'm glad hubby will be able to watch. I hope his leg heals quick.
Betty - The band was called "Been There Done That" they played AC/DC , Van Halen, Jethro Tull, etc.  8)

Not much going on here. I mowed the lawn and cleaned the rain gutters  :P. Now I need to finish dinner. Take care everyone.

Amy
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Post by: #1 mom on September 30, 2009, 06:31:46 pm
Queen - I'm so sorry for your loss. You're in my prayers.

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Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on October 01, 2009, 06:22:55 am
Queen, I'm very, very sorry for your loss.  Please take care of yourself.

Mum, hubby's torn muscle sounds really painful.  And I hope the kids have fun in the pageant. 

Amy, the bands you mentioned are the ones I used to listen to when I was a teen, and older, when I used to party heavy.  It is good party music.

I'm up early again to do that work experience.  Yesterday I was working with the lady there, and we saw quite a few people.  I don't know what's going to happen next week, because the "boss" is out of town at a training.  He's learning the newest ways of treating meth addiction.  I think that would be really interesting.  I know meth users don't have a very high success rate.  So, I'd like to know what's said at that training.  Maybe he'll pass along the info he learns.  Anyway, because he's gone, I don't know when I'm working next week. I tried to get ahold of him yesterday, but he was probably busy.   That's about it for now.  You all have a good day.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: vivyt on October 01, 2009, 08:24:50 am
Good Morning!

Queen- So sorry about your loss.

Mum- That sounds so painful!! I hope your hubby heals quickly. Can't wait to see your puppy!  :)

Amy- How nice that you had a weekend away. Everyone needs a break from reality once and a while.

Missy, Snow, and Sweet C- Hi!!!

Keeping- Good luck with your MBA. I definitely can relate.

Holly- Flu tubes...LOL! Go to Hawaii!!

Betty- That does sound interesting...How long do you that work experience?

Not much here. Just work, work, work. I haven't done my homework yet so I need to get that done.

Have a good day!

Andrea
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: netta on October 01, 2009, 10:25:17 am
HI Girlfriends!
Nothing much going on here.
Queen You are in my prayers :-*
I went to the rhematologist this week about my painful feet. The pain is bad and feels like scalding water was dropped on them. The pain changes up at times and feels like needles being stuck in them and they hurt to touch them. The doc says it is nerve damage from my hiv meds and probly nerapathy. he sugguest going to my id doctor to treat it. So I have an appointment next week, but after talking to the nurse at the id clinic, she agreed that it was nerapathy and it can't be cured, only treated with meds. After reading the side  effects of the meds used I don't think so. It is scary! the side effects are worse tha n the diagnosis!!! and effect you mentally! I'm already a mental case and don't need any help LOL. Hope I don't need a cane!
Anyway nothing I take relieves the pain, it is making me cranky!. keeping busy is the only solution, taking my mind off it, so I have been crocheting. still want to learn to knit.
Betty- I heard you say you have Nerapathy, God bless you! how do you cope???
MUM- can't wait to see you doggie pics!
I  will be checking on the puppies this weekend and take pics, they will be three weeks old. Still not sure which one I want.
My hubby went on a great job interview with Frito Lay and passed the test, so now we just wait, the job pays twice as much as he gets now, but it is only part time. Ha ! his health insurance from the job told us becasue of his diabeties he is on a 5 month hold!! yet they take out money from his check.Well thats about it.

Everyone have a blessed day.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on October 02, 2009, 07:33:57 am
Hey Good Friday ladies-

Queen-  So sorry to hear about your "adopted" mom's passing.  She sounded like a good woman.  You are definitely in my prayers.  The apartment situation sounds like it is adding its fair amount of stress.  If the landlady doesn't return your rent, doesn't it start compounding interest?

Betty-  I ordered the "Survivors" guide through Amazon the other day.  I've since received the book and I'm on chapter 2. It seems to be a book of "how to survive a catastrophic event like a plane crash, cancer etc". He uses examples of various people who overcame the worst odds like a survivor from the plane crash in the Andes....one of the soccer players who had to use cannibalism to survive.  So far so good....

Mum- Hope the hubby's leg is on the mend.  It sounds just awful and incredibly painful.  I use photoshop for reducing my image's size.  I'm not sure what you would use, but I'm guessing if you go under "accessories" in your start up menu you can open up the Paint application.  I think you can just literally open the image and go to the dialogue box "image", you can change the size of the pic.  NOW post us some puppies  :D

Netta sorry to hear about your pain.  Side affects, on the package, does sound more scary than the pain.  There is a commercial for Cymbalta that has almost an entire minute of side affects with a nice melody under the narrator's calm and peaceful voice. Do the producer's think it will make us feel better about the possibilities of coma or death.  I don't. :-\

Thank you, everyone, for your condolences regarding my uncle.

oh yeah, snow, I will contact you about facebook. 

Well, I have to run.  I have to get to the client's early today.




Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on October 02, 2009, 07:39:27 am
Hey all,

Andrea, get that homework done, girl.  I know how much you want your master's.  This is it after this class, right?

Netta, I take Neurontin.  Some people really complain about it, but it works fine for me.  Of course, I've been on it for years, so any side effects probably went away a long time ago.

Camms, I hope you like the book.  Yeah, it's got a lot of different survivors.  Sometimes I would be reading it, and thinking "wow, how did they do that?"  I think it's because I'm such a wimp, I don't know if I would survive or not.

Today, of course, is paying bills, and doing a little shopping (grocery, nothing exciting).  Not much else going on today.  Tomorrow there's going to be this event called "Pride in the Park."  It's for all GLBT persons, and I may go with my best gay friend.  I mean, I'm bisexual, so I fit right in.  And I know the guy who's going to be doing the gay bingo.  He's an old drag queen, and can be really hilarious.   So, that's it for now.  You all have a good day.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on October 02, 2009, 11:35:50 am
Morning Ladies---

I am feeling a little better, thank you all for your prayers and well wishes. I haven't been crying anymore but I can't stop thinking about her. And I am still feeling some guilt. I am also stressed about the apartment situation. I am running out of time on my voucher. I put in a request for another extension. The lady here at Section 8 told me to do that if I didn't find a place by the first. But listening to how the lady at Section 8 back home sounded, I may not get one. I'm heading out today to get a new list, they post new apartments every Friday.

I did get my deposit back yesterday. I went shopping. I needed to get some jackets since it turned cooler and I didn't have any. Plus Papi's bday is coming up so I got him his present. And I still have to get presents for my son and my bff. Not doing any major spending today, trying to hold on to the majority of my check in case I do find a place.

And I do apologize for not responding to everyone. It's just lately it's been hard for me to stay focused. T.G.I.F.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on October 03, 2009, 08:48:42 am
Queen, I'm hoping you find an apartment quick.  I know you want your own place.  Good luck!

I'm not going to the Pride in the Park thing.  It's going to be rainy and cold (lower 50's) all day.  I might go later wtih a friend, to do something.  Maybe out to eat and to a meeting, not sure.  And I have laundry to do.  I swear, when it starts getting colder out, I break out the winter coats immediately.  Like when it's in the 50's.  Then, the opposite happens when it gets to be spring.  When the weather, after months of snow and cold, gets into the 40's and 50's, I don't wear a coat when I go out.  Crazy, how the body works.              Anyway, you all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on October 03, 2009, 11:39:58 am
Hi GFs~

I'm back, have just been under the weather with a head cold.  I went to work this entire week and pushed it until Friday, when I stayed home sick.  I finally got my tenant's rent in the mail yesterday.  He paid the other half of Sept and all of Oct plus $10 extra by mistake.  So, things are caught up there.  I still need to get him a new washing machine, but he didn't mention it, so I'm not pressed just yet.

Ice is in Ocean City and Bethany Beach playing golf with the guys.  He was sick before me, had it worse than I, and his kid has been sick since mid-Sept.  She was whining at Ice yesterday on the phone before school that she didn't feel good and wanted to go into school LATE.  He made her get on the bus but ended up having to go pick her up before he left for his trip with the guys.  Something tells me its anxiety or something else, cause if you're truly sick, you don't just wanna go in LATE, you want to stay the hell home.  She has missed a lot of school, so we'll see how the report card goes.  Shes a good student, but I am ready to lock her ass out of the computers here cause all she does is take pics of herself for Facebook and text all day on her cell.  She is a good kid, don't get me wrong, but its time for her to start growing up.  A few weeks ago I told her to get off the computer bec nothing had changed in the past hour while she was in the shower.  She is hooked on FB.  Oh well, HS is awkward, so here it comes.

I am still doing really well at work and a co-worker wants me to assist them in another dept.  I'm not sure about all that.  I know I could do the work, but they would have to pay me more money.  My dept needs me, so who knows.  I told her to pitch it to her boss and we'd go from there.  "Who's BAD?"  lol  ;)

Camms~  Last night was the first night I slept OK bec Ice snores.  He snores every night and I am a light sleeper, waking up from meds and not being able to get back to sleep.  This past week while we were both sick, I slept in his daughter's bed one night and on the couch another.  Have your G try using "Mack's" earplugs.  They are wax, not foam, and although they say don't put them in your ear canal, you can moisten them a little and create a vacuum of sorts, blocking out noise.  I wear these every night with Ice.  I have been wearing them for 15 years bec I am such a light sleeper.  I take one earplug, break it in two halves, roll them into a bullet shape and stick them in my ears.  They don't block out everything, but they sure help!  I was sorry to hear of your Uncle's passing, but its good to know you found some peace in knowing he lived a good long life.

Queen~  I am so sorry about your adoptive mother.  As far as feeling awkward and guilty, don't beat yourself up over not having spoken to her in 5 years.  Our lives take different paths, and we can't be everything to everyone all of the time.  After my husband died, I lost touch with my in-laws, back in '98.  I recently connected with my former brother-in-law on facebook, bec we all went to HS together.  I haven't even asked about his parents.  I just never had the emotional energy to "worry" about them.  I am the same way with my birth father, who I hardly know.  I know that sounds selfish, but with this virus and how stressful our lives are, we have to look out for #1, and thats ourselves.  I believe that's what you might have been doing, so don't be so hard on yourself.  I was also glad to read that your tummy thing wasn't anything serious.  I ate something and couldn't "go" for three days and thought I was going to die, lol.  I finally took a Pepto pill (the kind you swallow) and I think it helped to reset my belly and everything worked out.  Yay!  So, if I'm ever backed up again, I am trying Pepto.

Betty~  Goodness I have read all about the job hunt dilemma you've been experiencing.  I agree with Snow, you'd think that you pursuing these degrees and graduating would speak volumes more than a criminal blip in your past.  People are so quick to "disqualify" others.  I say go into an interview and say that you've had the blip, like you did at Pizza Hut, but really focus on all of the GOOD things you've done to better yourself over the past few years.  I've been on here two years and you've been going to school the entire time, without fail!  I am frustrated for you, but I hope the Work Exp thru Goodwill is helping.  At least you get a change of scenery and you get a paycheck.  I am hoping that you can build these Work Exp's onto your resume and that someone somewhere will give you a FT job, not just a temp one, like Goodwill is doing.  How is the love seat working out?    :D  After my ex-BF and I broke up, he took all of the furniture back and put it into that log home that we were working on building together.  I had a rocking chair and an end-table when Ice met me.  I didn't have a couch or anything, so I've been there.

Speaking of the ex............You know a mutual friend of my ex-BFs is still in touch and she joined FB?  I saw pics of her on there posted by a woman with the same last name as my ex-BF.  Remember, he got married after knowing this woman for 3 weeks in March 2007   ???  , only 2-1/2 months after we split.  Well, anyway I look at the pics and there is this adorable baby that the mutual friend and her hubby are holding.  I see the walls of the home I help put up in the background, I see the couch they are sitting on that used to be in my TH during construction on the log home in PA.  Weird.  Gorgeous little boy, though, prob 1-1/2 yrs old, who looks just like my ex BFs mother's side of the family.   :o  Yep, so it looks like my ex BF had a kid.

Better babyproof that log home, lol.   :P  I am happy for my ex, I knew he didn't want to be with me bec of the virus.  His wife is tall and pretty, in a Cruella DeVille sort of way.   ;D  I will always think of her as a bitch.     :o  She was very rude in the background during a phonecall years ago to my ex, apparently she was either very jealous, or just judging me bec of the virus without knowing me.  Oh well.

I got my labs back yesterday and they are posted below, doing well.  My sugar A1C for the diabetes has been awful for the past year, but it dropped from 8.4 to 7.8 this time, which is a considerable drop, so I am happy.  I have also joined Weight Watchers at work, which should be starting soon, and my total cholesterol is 195, so thats good.

I need to go rest, even though I have more to post, but I will check in later.  There is a block party right outside my door tonight, so I want to rest up for that and try to be social.

Love to all~

Cindy and Cheech
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on October 04, 2009, 08:33:10 am
Cin, these work experiences are going on the resume.    I had a rocker and end table when I moved in here also! :D  I had a few more pieces like a bed, and bookshelf.  And I love the loveseat.  So does my kitty; she thinks it's a new bed for her.         Wow, it must be hard to see some of the things you used to own.  That would be a bit surreal to me.    I hope you're feeling better.  I have an ache on the left side of my head, and my sinuses have a lot of pressure. 

I did go to that Pride in the Park thing yesterday.  I played this bingo, in which the cards were free.  There was this old drag queen (I say old, because I remember seeing her years ago) that was leading it.  At one point he asked if anyone had a wet towellette, because he had gotten some chili on his hand.  I gave him a couple, and he gave me a "prize."  When I was leaving with my best gay friend,I opened it. It was a game for a Playstation 2.  Since I don't have one, I gave it to my friend for his grandkids.  It was a good time, but it was only in the 50's here yesterday, with a wind and occasional rain, so I was freezing.   Then later on I went to supper with a friend. 

Today all I have going on is cleaning, and my brother coming over later.  I hope you all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on October 04, 2009, 09:10:16 am
Good Morning-
 
Cindy-  Wow, that must have been very strange seeing your ex with a baby.  Thankfully, you're in a great relationship now which can make the rejection of the past seem, well, a thing of the past.  Though, even if you weren't, you're a smart and beautiful woman who has been through a lot over the years.  You are a real blessing to people who do love you ie, friends, furry friends, and family.  On another note, facebook is addictive to people of all ages.  Every time I login, the same people are posting 24/7 and these are people my age.  I haven't been on there as much, but in the beginning, I was guilty of gobbling up valuable time on FB too :-\.  Glad that you are recovering from the sickies and that you're results are great.

Betty-   I know, all to well, the temperature issue.  When it's 50 degrees, I act like it's 30 below.  I have thermals on with scarf.  It's ridiculous.  And when it is 30 below, I'll walk outside without a coat. ???   I'll take the hot weather any day.  I sometimes wonder when I'll move to a warmer climate, because it's inevitable.  I just want to stay close to my parents for now since they are getting older.

Mum- PUPPY...PUPPY....PUPPY PICs PLEASE!!!

What's up with the rest of you ladies?  Queen... anything new with the apartments, especially with the new postings on Friday?  Sounds like you need some peace in your kingdom.

Ladies?  Viv, Snow, Netta, Missy, #1 and anyone else... what's new with you?  What happened to Drag?

Today, I have brunch plans with G and my folks at a really beautiful place on the river.  I'm nervous, because this is the first time my parents will be seeing G since we were 21.  My parents despised him because he broke my heart as a kid.  So, I had to have a sit down, with the folks, to let them know how much he had changed and grown.  In the words of Vince Vaughn from Swingers "He's all growns up"!  I think they realize how change is possible.  My parents were strict pastors who stopped drinking and smoking when they first got involved in the church.  Now, practically 70, they chain smoke, drink on the weekends with their friends, and my dad has let his conservative hair grow past his shoulders.  My mom puts it into a pony tail everyday.  I still find it all so surreal.  But it was only one major event in their lives that changed everything.  My grandmother's demise.  They had to leave the church to take care of her in o4, hospice at home, and she was as mean as they come.  It wore my parents out.  So after she passed on Christmas, I saw the transformation begin.    

Anyway, I have to start getting things done before we head out.  Hope you all have a great day.  And no, my ilterations were not intentional :)

Hugs,  

Camms
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on October 04, 2009, 10:18:47 am
Hi BT and Cams~

I know FB is addicting.  When I started on it a year ago, I was on it many times a day for the first two months, as I searched for people from my past.  I have it linked to my email now, so I get a notice if anyone contacts me on there, but otherwise, I'm usu not on it, maybe every other week.

Except for last night, lol.  I found the profile for my ex that I dated after my late husband died and started looking.  We dated 97-99 and parted ways.  The girl he met after me became his wife, which I knew of, but now he has a young boy.  I found and added his buddy to my FB and sent a few messages to the mutual long lost friend last night.  I'm sure it will get back to my ex.  I don't mind about either of these EXes of mine having moved on and getting married, having kids.  Its what they wanted.  I have no remorse against these guys, who strangely enough, have the same first  name!  LOL  Hee hee!

I never got out to the block party last night.  The DJ was so F'n loud that I was ready to go out and tell him to play some Metal if he was keeping the volume so high, and to BAG the Miley Cyrus tunes already.  I was looking forward to 9pm when the DJ was supposed to quit, so I just cranked Guitar Hero "Smashes" and played my own Metal.  You know that DJ didn't stop until 11:15pm?  Oh dear I must be getting old.  If Ice was here, I probably would've made it out there, but I am getting over a  cold and it was chilly out.  I love this weather, but trying to get better, you know?

I got my flu shot for seasonal flu on 9/25, and I'm waiting for the release of the H1N1 vaccines.  Do all of you get flu shots every year?  I have been since college.  I've been diabetic since I was 11, and communal living in college scared me into getting the shot then.

OK, I have to do laundry and clean (I guess, lol) before Ice gets home tonight.  He's playing his third round of golf over as many days as we speak.  Last year he tore a rib or something before Father's Day swinging at the range.  So far he's OK on this trip!  LOL

Oh how could I forget!  My brother is in the military and has been back and forth overseas many times already during the past six years or so!  Mom left me a message yesterday saying he is back home from his latest tour, so I am relieved, VERY relieved.

Mum~  Doggie pics!!  I can email you how to shrink the ones you have if you need help!   ;)  Its a process, so let me know.

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: missy on October 04, 2009, 08:06:55 pm
Hi gfs, just jumpping in. I have been so busy packing, I don't have time to get online. I am having a quick break right now because I am aching from head to toe. I move at the end of the month so I need to get things done. I don't have then lining up a the door to help so I just keep packing each day. My sister is coming for a visit next week (from CA) so we are going to NY to visit her daughter she is going to school in NY. Well got to run I have to get laundry done before I go to bed.

I will catch up when I have more time but I do want to see pics of the puppy!

Mary
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: #1 mom on October 05, 2009, 03:27:45 am
Hi Everyone!
Not much going on. I work night shift weekends (12 hours one night 10 the next), so Sam takes care of Lucas so I can sleep. Lucas got a Thomas the Train DVD from his aunt for his birthday. In the front was a flier for other Thomas items. Well, Lucas has locked on to one of them. Sam says he's said "I want that" about every 3 seconds all weekend  ::). Sam told him maybe Santa would bring it for Christmas, but that it was a long time until Christmas. Sam also said something about it snowing before Christmas.  Now Lucas wants to have snow ball fights and go to Christmas   ;D.

Moon - Blasting Miley Cyrus, how did you keep your sanity  :o? I hope your cold clears up soon. It's about time you got your rent. I'm glad your brother is home safe.

Camms - I hope you had a nice brunch.

Queen - I'm glad you're doing better. Congrats on getting your deposit back and good luck with your search.

Mum - Puppy Pics Please.

It sounds like Lucas is having a bad dream, got to go.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on October 05, 2009, 05:51:07 am
Morning all,

Camms, how did the lunch go?  I'm sure your parents will adjust to him being back in your life.   And I think it's cool you're staying there to be by your parents.  I miss mine terrible, and it would have been worse had I been a long ways away.

Cin, I'm so glad that your brother's home safely.  I know you must be relieved.  They need to quit sending people back for multiple tours of duty. One is enough.    And yes, I get a flu shot every year.  I haven't gotten one yet, but I see my doctor next Monday, so, if he still has some, I'll get one then.  And about getting old, heh, I couldn't stand listening to Miley Cyrus blaring either.  Give me AC/DC anyday.

Mary, how much more do you have to do before you're finally moved?

Amy, my grandson loves Thomas the Train also. 

Alright, first things first.  I have a job!!!  Yipee!!   It's at the church where I did my first work experience.  That was the one (I know, you all probably don't remember; I wouldn't), that feeds breakfast to the homeless, and they can take showers and wash their clothes; and they have a food pantry.  Anyway, I'll kind of be like the pastor's assistant.  I went for an interview last week.  Last night I sent an e-mail to the pastor, because my pastor, who is friends of the other one, told me at Pride in the Park she heard some really good news.  So, I couldn't stand it-I sent an e-mail to the pastor asking her about the job.  She sent one back, saying they were still deciding, and that she was a bit concerned about my computer skills.  I sent one back, telling her I can learn, and that I'm a hard worker.  So, after awhile, she sent one, giving me her phone number, and asking me to call her.  I did, and when I did, she told me I had the job.  I was, and am, so elated.  It's going to be 8-2, either Mon-Fri, or Mon-Thurs, not sure yet.  So, that'll keep me under what disability allows, which is great.  I hope I don't have a hard time with social security, but I think my doctor will tell them I'm still disabled.  He said before, that it would be a disaster if I lost it, because of my prescription costs (Medicare prescription plan pays for them at the moment).            So, I'm very happy at the moment.  I'm giving the work experience I'm doing now my week's notice.  I have to meet the lady that works there this morning in Elkhart, which is one town to the east of me (besides a snooty very small town called Granger).  You all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on October 05, 2009, 07:23:50 am
Just passing through before leaving for my doctor's appointment and wanted to say a great big:

CONGRATS BETTY!!!!!!!  I just knew there'd be a light at the end of the job hunt tunnel!

I'll post more when I get back.  Gotta run......

mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on October 05, 2009, 11:35:10 am
Just a quick post!!!

Betty-  How great!!! Sounds like a rewarding job too, as opposed to, delivering pizzas to frat boys at midnight.  I've found that people that work for my church come in all kinds....punk with tatts and piercings etc, because they are not being judged by their appearance but by their attitudes and abilities.  Another thing is that their past, remains their past, which is one concept I wish would catch on into the mainstream.  Again congrats. :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

Brunch went incredibly well.  My folks went in with an open mind and I give them kudos for that.  They really like him and he thinks they're amazing...(I think they are too:) )  My mom has called me twice telling me what a good time they had.  It was so important to me that they like him and know what a wonderful person he has become.  I guess it's that parent approval that I needed.  I know the divorce was hard on them because of the pain it caused for me. In the end, they just want me to be happy.  Well, I can say, I am really happy.

Have a great Monday!  Let's hear some more good news from you ladies.

Hugs,

Camms
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: #1 mom on October 05, 2009, 04:02:20 pm


;D ;D ;D CONGRATULATIONS BETTY!!  ;D ;D ;D

Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on October 05, 2009, 05:33:40 pm
YAY BETTY CONGRATS

I am so happy for you, Betty. I knew someone would hire you, remember I told you that. I'm gonna crack open a Mike's Hard Lemonade in your honor, lady!!!!!

I have been running around looking for apartments still. Good news is that I was given another extension. So, I have until November 14th. Most places don't accept Section 8 which is weird to me. Or the Section 8 list has places in very bad areas I wouldn't be caught dead in. I hope this week's list will be better.

Over the weekend, I got my hair braided. Ugh, 6 long hours and my head is a little sore. It was in Harlem so I took a picture of the Apollo Theater. When I am done being lazy I will make it my avatar. Still trying to get in with doctor, been waiting on them to call back, and has called them a few times.

Well, I am exhausted. Will check back later.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on October 05, 2009, 07:26:43 pm
 ;D       OMG yay for Betty and Cams !      ;D

BT!!!!  You have a job!  I was praying for you, just hoping that something would come through.  What the church might not realize yet is just how MUCH you can offer by helping those in need!  As far as computer skills?  Tell them you can type a mean thread!  Hee heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Cams~  I was thinking about you today, wondering how the brunch went.  You know its good when everyone has a good time, but for your mother to call you back twice and tell you?  THAT is GOOD, GF!

I am SO happy for both of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I got my Housing check in the mail today for October, so the month is paid in full.  Ice also brought home flowers for me to thank me for "letting" him go away to play golf this weekend.  He has been extra mushy lately, even though we've all been sick.  My 40th birthday is coming on 11/14, but before that is two years for us dating, on 11/2.  My ring finger is burning.  I can't help but wonder, but I don't dare say it.........   ::)

I went to work today on 4 hrs sleep cause Ice was snoring all night, lol.  Tonight he said he would sleep in his daughter's room so I could get some rest!  But then I'd miss him, lmao.  He is a good guy and I am psyched!

The moon is full, or close to it!  Cindy means Goddess of the Moon, and I still wear my moon charm that Ice gave me for my birthday in 2007!

It is a good night tonight.   :D

~ Cindy

Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Snowangel on October 05, 2009, 09:55:56 pm
Yeah, BT!!! You go girl!  That is such good news! Congratulations! Do you have to notify social security that you are working?

Queen- Glad you got the extension for Sect. 8.  I am suprised that there are not more apartments available, have you tried looking on-line at all?

Camms- Glad your brunch went well for everyone.

#1- One of my 3some really liked Thomas for awhile too. I got some good pics of the train paintings that were up on the wall in the museum we went to last month, if you want them.

Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on October 06, 2009, 06:56:01 am
Ladies, thank you so much!  You all are incredible and I love you all. :-*

Camms, I'm glad the lunch went well.  That's got to be a load off your mind.

Amy, thank you.

Queen, I really hope you find a good apartment.  I'm surprised also, that New York doesn't have more section 8 properties.  You'd think they would, with the size of the city.  I'll be rooting for you to find one that you really, really like.

Cin, wow, you think Ice is going to pop the question?  I'm going to be on pins now, waiting to hear! 

Snow, yes, I'm going to have to report to social security about the job.  I'm not really sure how that's going to go, because this benefits counselor said every office is different.  I'm going to have to get ahold of the office here, and find out what they want me to do.  I think it's a bit ridiculous, since they will already know how much I'm making (all they have to do is look on their computers).  But, whatever.  I certainly don't want to get in trouble with any government agency.

I don't know why I'm up so early.  I guess because my cat thought it was time to get up.  My computer is acting very strange.  When I type, sometimes it will freeze up, then when it goes again, the words that I've typed come on the screen.  It's really quite a pain.  It was doing this the other day.  I wish I knew how to fix it. 

I don't have to be at the job experience until 11:30 this morning.  The lady I'm working with this week, and her husband have to see a realtor this morning.  She really is a nice person, just very disorganized, and has problems with her short-term memory.  She's a recovery meth and booze addict, and I admire anyone who can overcome a meth addiction.  It seems that it's the hardest one for people to stay away from.  And it's so awful, the way it takes a person down in such a short amount of time.  I'm thankful it wasn't around in my heyday.  But, I never really did good with speed-type drugs anyway.     I guess that's it for now.  You all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on October 06, 2009, 06:59:09 am
Good morning, ladies!  Doc appointment went well.  She gave me a prescription for allergy meds that I can take with my singulair before bed.  Last night was my first dose and let me tell you that I will NOT be taking it at night again.  I've been up all night tossing and turning.  Normally meds put me to sleep (except for Nyquil and Melatonin) which is why she told me take them at night.  I'm exhausted but my body just won't relax so I can sleep.  UGGGHHHH!

About the pics, I can't figure out how to reduce them so I can post them here.  Hubby's in the middle of exams and studying every waking hour.  If someone doesn't mind PM-ing me their email address and will reduce them and post them here and in the OT thread, I'm more than happy to email them.  She's a real sweetie pie.  A total mommy's dog.

We got some rather odd news last week from my dad.  There is a farm (96 acres) that has been in his family since the 1800's.  Back when I was a little girl, my dad found out that his 3 uncles and aunt weren't paying the taxes on it and it was about to go up for sale.  So, he and my mom bought it for the cost of the back taxes.  A few year's later, he bought the mineral rights from them.  Every month or so, he goes by to check on things, clears out the "yard" around his boyhood home, cleans out the family graveyard (it has "plots" dating back over 100 years), and hikes in the woods.  Well, about a week ago, he went by and got the shock of his life.  His boyhood home had been bulldozed down and in its place was a single-wide trailor!  

He knocked on the door to find out what in the world they were doing living on his property.  He found out that they had BOUGHT it from a guy who had several plots of my parents' land for sale!!  What the heck?!?  My dad found out the guys name and gave him a call.  Needless to say the guy refused to speak to him.  So now my parents have gotten a lawyer to go after this guy and whomever from the bank did the supposed title search. My parents have a copy of the original hand-written deed to the property.  It's not like someone had to search REAL hard to find out this other shister didn't own the land.  Not to mention that the only people who have paid the taxes on it for the last 25+ years have been my parents.

 What he's not sure about is what to do with the people living there.  He's not one to force a family into homelessness.  But, on the flip side, they are on his land.  He has spoken to them and is helping them to sue the guy who sold them the property.  He's hoping that they can get enough to buy, and move to, another property.  Part of the land that was part of this illegal deal was our family graveyard and the right of way to it.  

Of course he'll never get back his boyhood home.  When I was a teen, we stayed in it for 2wks while my parents repaired it.  It had no electricity or running water, but to listen to my dad talk about memories from his childhood while sitting the very spot where they happened was priceless.  I was hoping he'd be able to share that with my kids.  Now it'll never happen.  It's gone and no amount of money will get it back.

No excitement here.  Our autism lady is coming tomorrow to observe #4 in our classroom and talk to the kids.  I got the livingroom done yesterday and just need the bathroom and laundry done today.  Hubby's in school all day, kids have dance, and I'm exhausted.  Perfect ingredients for an interesting day.  Make it a good one.

Mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on October 06, 2009, 08:22:20 am
Morning Ladies-

Mum-  How startling it must have been for your dad.  I mean really devastating.  All the memories taken down in a swift blow. Now another family is thrown into this tragedy.  Where do people come up with "tah tah's" to do this type of thing, and then, think they will not get caught?  Keep us posted.   When does this go to court or is this still in the preliminary stages?

Cin-  Has Ice given you some kind of clue as to this being in the near future?    Boy it is hard to believe that it was two years ago.  I swear, I remember you writing about your first date with him. A massage and candles and how nervous you were.  Or was that the second date? Now I'm thinking when did I start posting.  I know it was about 6 months after I was first diagnosed, so that means I just hit my 3 year mark of posting.  Though, I've taken long breaks in between.   I started posted under another name and .....whatever, getting distracted here...hee hee.

Betty-  Why is it that our cats seem to really have it down for getting us up?  They are very sure of themselves and demanding.  It got so bad for me that I started feeding her at night.  What I realized is that when G first arrived, she was a bit freaked.  She pooped on the bed and started acting up.  It was just once, the special bed delivery,  but I knew this had to be stopped.  I began to shower her with attention and even bought her the "laser on the chain".  It has really made a difference.  She still hasn't come up on the bed, but I think in time she will.

The big news for me is that "nasal spray" works for snorskies.  I started using nasacort right before going to bed.  I waited for at least a week before determining this as a success.  But my one man trial has deemed it as a success. :)  G says "I'm as quiet as a church mouse".  Today, after the clients, I have to go to the mall.  I have a wedding to go to on Friday and it has a theme :-\.  It's called steampunk.  I'm sure all of you are saying "what in the world".  Imagine the 1900's meets up with the future.  Kind of like the League of Extraordinary Gentlemen.  I am looking for a corset, with my grandmother's black lacey shawl.  And the boots, I'm looking for, are something to be determined.  I was trying hair styles the other day.  They range from hot roller curls pulled up into the back as if I was to walk into a saloon.  The other one was more punk. Two pony tails with about 15 individual braids in each bunch.  But I looked more like a dippy, roller derby chick.  This whole thing has my fashion sense in "a tail spin".  Btw- this movement originated in San Fran and seems to be making an impact on sub cultures. Still, I never heard of it.  Well, wish me well today.

Ladies, have a nice Tuesday.  Sunny here, and I hope the same goes for you.  

Hugs,

Camms
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: #1 mom on October 06, 2009, 09:04:51 am
Camms - I'm glad brunch was such a success! Congratulations on finding a cure for your snoring. The wedding sounds interesting. I hope you have a great time.

Mum - I can't believe what some people will do  :o. I'm so sorry for your families loss. The graveyard wasn't disturbed was it?

Snow - I would love the pics from the museum. Thank you.

Moon - I wish the Goddess of the Moon gets her ring, and hey Amy means Goddess of Love  ;).

Not much going on here, same old same old. Cleaning, laundry, groceries  :P. Hope you all have a great day.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on October 07, 2009, 05:31:41 am
Hi GFs~

Ice hasn't said anything and maybe I am just getting my hopes up, but there are plenty of "opportunities" coming up to pop the question, so I am hopeful.  I mean, I AM living with the guy and he just started diredt depositing his paychecks into my account, which I have added him to, lol.

BT, my screen does the hesitation thing while typing and then catches up.  Not all of the time, but I noticed it for the first time last weekend when I posted.  Its been OK since then.  Are you still starting the church job next week?

Camms~  I am going to buy some Nasacort for Ice ASAP and see if it works.  He was quiet last night, so I think it must have to do with his sinuses and when the pollen count is high.  LOL

Mum~  I was so surprised about your father's house.  Don't worry, that family is in a trailer and they can move it somewhere else, like you said.  Thank goodness they didn't BUILD a house on that land.  That's pretty cool that your father has the original paperwork and that the land goes back for so long in the family.

I am going to a Baltimore Ravens game this weekend, skybox, free food and all....care of Iceman's boss.  Next weekend I go see my team, the Redskins, care of my boss, so its football time for us!  I hope I don't get rained on at the Skins game, lol.

OK, have to go get ready to kick ass at work, lol!

~ Cindy
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on October 07, 2009, 05:54:40 am
Hi all,

Mum, that is so strange about those people getting that property.  I hope they can clear out without much trouble.  What medication did your doctor give you for your allergies?

Camms, I'm glad the nasal spray is working for the snoring.  About cats..... when I was 16 I had a cat named "Mork."  I started seeing my first husband then, Oscar.  Well, of course Oscar would come over and visit.  Mork started peeing.  One time, he even backed up to my mom and sprayed.  It wasn't funny at the time, but for years afterward, we laughed. 

Cin, yeah, I'm still starting the job next week.  So, Ice's checks are going direct deposit into  your account?  That's serious.  I'm excited!!  The thing with the screen freezing while I'm typing is still happening today.  It isn't when I'm sending e-mails, only on this site.  I hope it stops it soon.

Today I'm still at the job experience job.  I really do like it.  I gave them my week's notice, so they know I'm leaving.  The boss said he would write me a reference letter, should I want one (of course I do).  I love working with addicts, but I'm sure I'll have some exposure at the church I'll be working for.  The work experience is like this..... there's a new program in the state called Access to Recovery.  If someone qualifies, it pays for their treatment, 90 days of residential housing, bus passes, stuff like that.  So, I've been going along, seeing people already on the progarm, and seeing if people qualify.  The other day we went into the work release in the county to the east (Elkhart County).  That was interesting.  We saw a couple women there.  I had a good talk with one of them.              So, today I'm going to meet the lady again in Elkhart, and she said we'll be working until about 5:30 p.m., and I have to meet her at 8:30 this morning.  Which is fine, I like money. ;)  (I get paid by the hour for this through Goodwill).
That's about it.  You all have a good day.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: netta on October 07, 2009, 01:35:45 pm
HI gf's , Sunday was the aniversary of my godson/nephews murder one year ago,so I have been down in the dumps,but feeling better now.
Went to the Id clinic yesterday and they gave me two new meds for my hiv cocktail. they took me off zerit and viread because of the p-neuropathy and gave me  a med for it.Betty it is thesame one you and my dh are taking! they gave me the lowest dose.
Hopefully I won't have any side effects. Got to get the new meds today and name them for you, they are brand new and just came out on the hiv drug market. The  doc told me this is my last regement of meds because I have a resistance to everything else, whop d do! is tha suppose to scare me! lol
Anyhow,I also got my flu shot, phnemonia shot and tb test. I was sick last nite, but feeling better.
My dh did not get the job at frito lay and was a little depressed, He knows its from being honest about his past record,and you have to tell the truth,cause they do background checks.
Well I also lost 3 more lbs , but i am eating like crazy!
I weigh 134lbs, from 156 last year,no one is worried at the clinic because, I am OVER, my normal weight for my 5'2 frame.
Well 3 or the 7 puppies have died! yes my daughters gf has them in the house,after they were exposed tpo the elements when they were first born, Ihope the others make it. Anyhow I am determined to get a shistu puppy if I have to wait till income tax time, the least expesive run 250.00 to 350.00.
I can't wait for my puppy. if these make it I will get one, but I want a healthy dog, so thats my main concern, they get there shots at six weeks they are now 3 weeks.
Hope all is well!
betty congrats on the new job
Camm- congrats on thenew man
Queen, try to find some income based apartments if you don't find section eight ones, they have more of these in ny.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: HollyStar on October 07, 2009, 04:01:48 pm
Hi ladies,

Congrats Betty!!! Woohoo!!! You must be so relieved and excited. I'm very happy for you.

Mum, that story about the property is outrageous! I hope that they sue the heck out of the people who did this. I hope you are feeling better.

Netta, I hope that the new meds work well for you and I am very sorry about your nephew.

Queen, good luck on finding a place and thank goodness for the extension.

Sorry for not responding to everyone. I did read all the posts but I can't remember everything right now. I haven't been posting for almost a week as we have had a guest. It was a nice visit but we are very private people and having to be "on" all the time can be exhausting! I've been fine until the guest finally left, now I'm just dog tired. Other than that, things are good. It's been pretty cool here and have even had to bust out the sweaters. Anyway, you all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on October 07, 2009, 09:54:26 pm
I've kinda been lurking, just been feeling tired but had been running the last few days so I guess it is catching up with me. Did grocery shopping and now I feel wiped out. Tomorrow is officially sit on my ass and do nothing day... ;D Papi called some Jewish hospital, can't remember the name about now, so I am scheduled to see them on the 19th of November. And I guess through the HIV doc, I can network through the hospital for my other doctors.

Netta---Most of the ones I have seen either doesn't accept section 8 or are HUD housing. Sorry to hear about the pups dying. Do they know what caused this? I would want some answers before taking a pup from them.

Cindy---Wow, 2 years with Ice already. And not a surprised he lets you handle the money, he knows what a whiz you are with numbers. I know the extra income is really coming in handy for you. I think about you when I am watching football on Sundays. And he'll pop the question when you least expect and in the most romantic way too....And your ass will start bawling and say YES!!! Make sure you have plenty of tissues is all.... ;)


Have a good night.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: vivyt on October 07, 2009, 11:10:34 pm
Hi everyone!

Betty-CONGRATULATIONS! I knew you would find something.

Cindy- Wow! 2 years! It seems just like last week when you started dating him. I am glad you are happy.

Mum- That is crazy about your dad's property. It sounds like a movie. I too am eagerly waiting for a picture of the puppy... ;D

Queen- Good luck finding an apartment.

Cams- That themed wedding sounds interesting...share some pictures after you go.

Well nothing much here with me. I have just been going to work and school.  :'( I won't be relaxed until December when I am done.

Have a good night!
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on October 08, 2009, 07:28:23 am
Morning all,

Netta, so you're able to eat more now?  I remember before you said it would take you like all day to eat a hammburger.  And about those puppies, I wonder if it was parvo.  That happens to a lot of puppies who are exposed to the elements.  I hope you get a healthy one if you get one from that woman.  I agree with Queen, I would want to know what killed the other ones.

Holly, Monday here it's only supposed to be 42, so I sympathize with you.

Queen, I hope you like your new HIV doc.  Sounds good that you'll be able to network with other doctors there.  I'm really hoping you find a place soon. 

Andrea, you must be exhausted.  Hang in there, December is only a couple months away.

The cursor keeps freezing.  It's been happening for 3 days.  A friend of mine says hers does that when she opens up mail that has a virus in it.  Well, my computer's been doing this for a couple years on and off.  But it usually goes away after a couple days. 

Yesterday I left at 7:30 a.m., and didn't get home until 5:45 p.m.  I was pretty tired when I first got home.  I worked with the lady who does the Access to Recovery stuff for this area.  We went to a homeless mission, the county jail (in Elkhart county), to another city to see this girl, and then I did some data entry for the lady.  The girl we went to see has a really screwed up story.  Both her daughters have been taken away, and with the youngest, her parental rights have been terminated.  She lost the youngest one because of alleged sexual abuse.  Yeah, messed up.  And now,she's pregnant again.  3 months.  Her boyfriend lives with her, and she said the pregnancy was planned.  She's very slow, and gets a disability check because of it.  It's a pretty sad situation, and I can't imagine the upcoming baby is going to have a very good life.

Today I have to meet the lady at 10:30, and I'll probably only work for 4 hours.  Tomorrow I'm taking my car to get fixed.  I probably mentioned this, but my car is scraping when I drive it.  It's either the wheel bearings, or the brakes.  I hope it doesn't wipe out my money.  I'm taking it to a friend's friend, who is a mechanic, and built a garage on his property.  So, I'm hoping he'll give me a discount.  I'm always nervous about getting this car repaired, because of it costing so much with all the other repairs I've had to get done to it.  The last time, the garage called and told me it was going to cost over $2000 (yes, two thousand).  So far, I've put almost four thousand into the car.  Heck, I could've gotten a car for seven thousand, between the repairs and what I paid for it.  It's just unnerving is all.         That's about it for me.  You all have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on October 08, 2009, 08:28:20 am
First off, I want to thank Camms for posting pics of our sweet baby over in the OT forum.  YOU ROCK!!

About my parents' property: After talking to an attorney on Tuesday and spending all day researching the title himself just to see how hard it would be, my dad found out that 1: No title search was done on the property since my parents bought it 24 years ago, and 2: it's not that hard to find out who owns the land.  Now they have to wait 6mths for the guy who sold the land to make satisfactory restitution.  If nothing is done in 6mths, then my parents have to file an injunction on him and the sale and the guy will have to prove the land is his - which he can't.  That part will have to be done in court.  The guy who bought the land feels horrible.  It's not his fault, though, he had no idea.  When he found out, he removed the trailor back to his original property and halted the other construnction work he had scheduled.  He thanked my dad for personally coming and telling him so he wasn't out any more money.  He is also prepared to file a lawsuit if satisfactory restitution isn't made to him in 6mths as well.

All the guy has to say about illegally selling the property: "I wondered why I never had to pay taxes on the land."  The idiocricy of some people is just danged frightening.

Betty: doc put me on Allegra-D for allergies.  She said to take it at night because it'll make me sleepy.  Well, it kept me up all stinkin' night long.  So yesterday I took it in the morning and by 1 I had to lay down for a nap - slept 2 1/2 hours!  I just can't win.

Cindy, how exciting!  If you need someone to go over and have a talk with Ice, I'll send Hubby ;)  Or you can do what I did and buy your own ring (with his credit card), and then hand him a cataloge and tell him you need help picking out the wedding invitations.  Worked for Hubby ;D

Nothing much going on today.  I'm hoping to be able to color my hair.  My gray roots are getting pretty long.  Can't hide them anymore.  Hubby has school all day and the weather is lousy.  Kids and I may take a ride into town to the fabric store and walk around the mall.  I'll use it as a bribe for them to get their work done for school and not fool around.  May even rent a movie.  Washer just beeped - time to switch it out.  I'm trying to change seasonal clothing and it always takes me forever.  But, with 3 closets for 8 people, I just don't have the room to keep all their clothes all the time.

You all make it a good one!!

Mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on October 08, 2009, 08:32:32 am
Forgot to add:

Netta, I would require at least a 48 if not a 72 hour health guaruntee.  That will give you enough time to take the puppy to the vet and have it checked out.  If something is hinky, you'll be able to return it and get your money back.  I'd also require all vet records and health check records be faxed to your vet before you even pick it up.  Anyone legitimate, especially someone who has pedigree dogs, will have no problem giving you that information.

Queen, how's the apartment hunting?  I'd think in NY, it wouldn't be that difficult.  Shows you how much I know. ;)

Make it a good one, ladies!
Mum
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: camille07 on October 08, 2009, 09:26:56 am
Ok- Mum, Ava is just sooo pretty.  She looks like she has piggy tails for ears.  How is she doing as far as the training?

I need some advice of a particular Christmas present.  I usually shop two weeks prior, unless, I'm making something, so this is really uncommon for me.  I wanted to buy G something really special.  I narrowed it down to two things.  He lived in San Fran for 15 years.  I know he misses a couple, which he is the God father to their daughter, and I want to buy him a round trip to go out and visit them.    The other was a seminar for adobe, which is something he is really interested in, as far as computers.

Well, have to cut this short, unexpectedly.  Will continue this post later.

Hugs,

Camms
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on October 08, 2009, 09:43:09 am
I was actually just browsing through, but Camms, I had to tell you my opinion.  People are so much more important than other things-even an Adobe seminar.  So, I vote for the round trip.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: minismom on October 08, 2009, 10:52:04 am
I vote for round trip ticket - just make sure that the other couple is OK with the dates that you pick (and that G can take off of work to go).  Another option would be to get G and the couple a web camera so that they can talk and see each other as often as they want.  It would be great if you could get it to the other couple before Christmas so on Christmas morning you could suprise G with a special web talk with them.

Ava is doing really good training.  She's having to learn she's not "top dog".  She and our youngest daughter have a love / hate thing going on, but they both have to learn to get along.  She had no accidents the first week, then suddenly took to pooping in the house.  Now if she doesn't poop in the morning, she goes in her "cage" until she does.  So far today, no accidents.

Gotta run - kids await!
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on October 08, 2009, 11:08:12 am
Hey Hey Hey----

Let me put my vote in before I forget. I would go with the trip too. I am sure he will love it. What's better than making memories, right? And the wedding thing sounds kinf of out there. Is that some form of punk? Give G the adobe thing for his birthday or one of those just because moments. LOL, I feel like a card commercial or something. But it figures, I have been sending my son cards like crazy. Just sent him a birthday card, his birthday is on Saturday.

Yeah, I didn't think it was going to be this hard finding a place either. It never was back home, the landlords jumped for Section 8. Here it is like landlords don't want to be bothered because heaven forbid, they might just have to fix something...
::)
... But I haven't given up hope. Worse case scenario, I lose my Section 8 but get on housing. I would get that faster because I am considered homeless though I live with Papi. At least I have a little time left...

Netta, hmmm, I don't know, something seems hinky about the pup situation. And Betty mentioned the Parvo, that could be it too. I am curious to what they are going to tell you when you ask. If they try to give you some bs I wouldn't do it. I'd go with what Mum said.


Well, I am going to go check out the rest of the forums...Have a good one.
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: MOONLIGHT1114 on October 08, 2009, 07:58:05 pm
Hi GFs~

Its TV night and I am beat, still under the weather.  Mum, I resized the pics just now before I got into the threads.  Ava is a cutie!  I wish my straight hair had that much lift!

Kudos to you, Betty, for helping out those people in need.

Camms, I vote for the trip, definitely!  :)

More soon!

~Cindy
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: vivyt on October 08, 2009, 11:42:58 pm
Just checking in!

Camms- I concur...round trip ticket. Much more meaningful.

Have a good night everyone!  ;D
Title: Re: Ladies Thread 65: These boots were made for walking or Life Lessons...
Post by: BT65 on October 09, 2009, 06:58:54 am
Please post all further replies in thread #66.  Consider this one closed.