Worried

[WorriedAlways]

Had a massage.  When doing it on my upper back, I was wearing underwear and for the whole time the girl was fully clothed from t-shirt to pants.  She then told me to turn around and took off my underwear.  Then she started massaging my butt from legs and this was for like 6-7 minutes.  After this she told me to turn around and asked for handjob.  I said No and she touched my penis for like some seconds.  Didn't know that anything of this sort will happen in a four star hotel in China.

My concern is I had some bruises on my Butt and if she had blood on her hands or if she had intentionally touched her vagina and massaged my butt, is it possible for me to get HIV.  And in the same way when she touched my penis.  She was fully clothed but I was naked for some time.  Thanks for your help.

[Wade]

Hi, You had absolutely no risk, not from getting a massage or getting a hand job.
The virus is very fragile and is damaged and unable to infect once exposed to air, so her body fluids were not infectious. ( even if there were any )
HIV is sexually transmitted though unprotected anal and vaginal intercourse and your fears are unfounded.

Best, Wade

To avoid infection,
You need to be using condoms for all anal and vaginal intercourse until you are in a trusting monogamous relationship and both have been tested for all STIs and HIV.
Everyone who is sexually active should have an annual exam and test for all STIs and HIV ,and always after unprotected intercourse. Always using condoms will give you peace of mind your tests will return with a negative result.

[WorriedAlways]

Thanks for your reply.  So do you think I can live normal sexual life with my wife.  Out of curiosity, because I was naked is there a cent percent possibility that her body fluids or blood drop if any( as far as I know she was not bleeding from anywhere)might have gone inside my body thru urethra ?.  There was NO HAND JOB, no kissing , nothing. Just touching for a few seconds with her hand to which I declined and also her hand was with massage oil. I also think that if intentionally she touched her vagina, the reaction with massage oil might reduce the effectiveness of virus.  Just worried about when she was massaging my butt, if might have gone inside anus through scratches.  Here also her hand never touched my anus line.  Please help to clear my doubts. Thanks.

[Jim Allen]

Even if you had kissed her it would simply not be a risk as HIV is not transmitted this way.  Anyhow Wade has given you all the information you need.

What you do with your wife is between you and her, I would recommend condoms as part of safer sex with her and testing at least yearly for STI's including but not limited to HIV.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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[WorriedAlways]

Thank you for your reply.   you think it was safe but I  still have to use condoms as part of safe sex with my wife.  I am a bit worried now.  What should I do?

I haven't done anything with that girl and she was wearing full clothing, still you think that I can get STIs or HIV

Thanks

[Wade]

What you did was NOT a risk. If you or your wife are have sexual relations outside your marriage, then yes using condoms with your wife is recommended.

Best, Wade