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Main Forums => In Memoriam => Topic started by: anniebc on June 22, 2010, 08:26:05 am
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I had many fond memories of Tim..but one of the first that springs to mind tonight as I sit here thinking about him was in Montreal 2006, Tim leaned forward and whispered in my ear "be at my room at 5pm I have something I want to share with you".I did as I was told and I went off to his room at 5 on the dot, when I went inside the room he had the table set with gourmet cheeses, crackers and a huge slice chocolate cake, and lying beside it was a little card that read:
"I wanted to share these with you Jan because the good things in life always taste better when shared with a friend"
I just hugged him because I couldn't trust myself to speak...I still have the card.
We should have eaten more Chocolate cake Tim.
I miss you more than words can say.
Rest in peace my friend.
In sadness
Jan :-*
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I never had the pleasure of meeting Tim in person, I was not as blessed as some of you that had the opportunity to talk with him in person, yall were truly given a gift by meeting him personally. But as we all know we quickly become attached to each other in these Forums, we come to think of each other as family in the truest sense. We come to love the others on here just as much as our own family, but with this great joy comes heartache when we lose a fellow member such as Tim.
So with this I have been hit hard with Tim's passing. He was a gem here, he was one of a kind and no one will ever be able to fill his shoes. Even when I was on the receiving end of one of his lashings I always respected him.
I think one way to honor him is to acknowledge and appreciate his passion on issues and the sage wisdom he gave us in these threads. For me, a relatively new Pozzie, his 27 years of experience with HIV gave me invaluable insight to life with HIV, everyone one of his posts taught me something. His wisdom was invaluable. I loved hearing about his stories, whether it be about his life in the military, remodelling his bathroom, his cast Iron Griddle, his cars, or the somber early days of the AIDS epidemic.
I take comfort in knowing that now he has shed the pain, wheelchairs and scooters and now has a whole body and soul and is the company of those that passed before us such as Em, Ric, and the other 210 friends he lost.
So since my memories of him are limited to these forums I'd like to share snippet's of some of his posts, snippets that made me laugh and some that made me cry...
"Welcome to the fourms, and if you think this thread is redundant, stick around for three or four years; you aint seen nothing yet..."
"Take your pills, and experience the new life."
Kiss my droopy aging arse, you perfect ANGEL Swiss Miss!!!
"Who the fuck listens to us Dinosaurs any more anyway..."
"Thinking of you today, and sending love"
"OK, Church is over, light em up if you got em"
"Drag Queens are special"
"All you have is today, this minute, this second to make changes and refocus your minds and hearts on living fully in the moment"
"Isn't HIV just a laugh riot?"
"I apologise for the error, and back out of the room to my corner. I should have known I was wrong, and refrain from revisiting this thread. Assholes!!"
"I was infected at the age of 36, and given six months to live. The doctor has since died who said that, so beware of doctors playing God"
"I taste more like Baked Brie in Puff Pastry.."
"I wouldn't have had the joy of my 22year marriage to the most beautiful man on the planet."
"and it never gets any easier to say goodbye, so now I just say I'll see you soon enough"
"Love Ya
Tim"
Tim, RIP, your Screenname here says "Offline" but you'll always be "Online" in my thoughts!
-Will
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Jan and Will: Sweet posts. Em
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I've been in here 6 times today, each time with the intention of posting.
I couldn't do it. The tears flowed, the hands trembled, mostly I was just lost.
Moffie wasn't just a warrior. Moffie was a general. We shared many common experiences in our lives with HIV, we butted heads many times.
(The man could be a pain if you know what I mean.)
But as someone said in the LW forum (I think it was Cliff), Moffie has touched so many, Moffie has made such a lasting impression, Moffie MADE a difference, he will never be forgotten.
And in the final analysis, that speaks volumes. As I said, not a warrior, but a general.
RIP Moffie
RAB :'(
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Mark I hope you don't mind me posting this, it's a wonderful photo taken in happier times, the smiles say it all
(http://i723.photobucket.com/albums/ww235/anniebc_2009/TimandMarkinMontreal.jpg)
Sometimes you pick your friends and sometimes they pick you...I'm so glad you picked me Tim.
Jan :'(
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Mark I hope you don't mind me posting this, it's a wonderful photo taken in happier times, the smiles say it all
(http://i723.photobucket.com/albums/ww235/anniebc_2009/TimandMarkinMontreal.jpg)
Sometimes you pick your friends and sometimes they pick you...I'm so glad you picked me Tim.
Jan :'(
How could I mind? Its a great photo, even I look OK in it.
I also remember sharing treats with Tim in Montreal.
We also shared a wonderful time in Vegas, as well as an incredible day at Lake Mead.
While in Montreal, Tim mentioned to me he was certain we had met years earlier in San Francisco. I am talking 30 years earlier.
I remember him talking about how he met Bob.
I had wonderful telephone conversations with him.
I feel a bit lost at the moment. But I know my world is a better place for having known Tim.
Requiescat in Pace, dear friend.
HUGS,
Mark
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While in Montreal, Tim mentioned to me he was certain we had met years earlier in San Francisco. I am talking 30 years earlier.
HUGS,
Mark
Oh my I remember that and I remember what he told me...treats weren't the only things he liked to share with me... ;)
He didn't believe in keeping things to himself, I will miss his openess and his honesty.
Love always
Jan :'(
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I will miss Tim. He was such an important part of these forums. Rest in Peace.
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I will miss you, friend....the Forums will never be the same without you.
I give you 12 dozen roses :'(
Rest eternal grant to Tim, O Lord;
Let light perpetual shine upon him.
May the souls of all the departed,
through the Mercy of Christ,
Rest in Peace. Amen
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I am so sad right now, I think one of the first persons to welcome on here was Tim, and then LIsa.I haven't been on here in awhile and those two were some of the ones i was hoping would be here. I am so sad that we lost 2 very wonderful, smart people. People are put in our lives for a reason, Tim and Lisa helped me just by listening and talking to me. I will always love and miss them.
This is not good bye but see ya later. For i know that they are in heaven and giving God a good laugh.
Wendy
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My Dear Tim,
I have no words to describe how much I will miss you, so I will just say, until we meet again, kisses on all your openings.
With All My Love,
Joe
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(http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g16/jc35cb/1c7a90de.jpg)
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I’m posting this here and in the Living With thread about Tim, so it’s less likely to be missed by folk.
I think it’s been about 2 years since I logged in here. Today I’m logging in with a message from Bob.
As some of you may remember, after meeting Tim in Las Vegas in 2007, I had the great fortune to share an unforgettable road trip with him across Arizona to go and spend some time at their place. They welcomed me into their home and life with warmth I shall never forget and I had the best time.
I spoke with Bob on the phone the other night. He wanted me to pass on his thanks to everyone here at Aidsmeds for your kind words, thoughts and gestures. He is extremely appreciative to you all.
Debra
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When I think of Tim I think of a man on his bike, a shadow running across the barron mesas of the Great Southwest and losing himself in the sunset.
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Tim is truly a classic character and the only one who could make me laugh till I almost peed in my pants with his blatant honesty. His body may have seemed worn at times when I met him in Montreal, but his mind was sharper than most. His forthrightness may seem hard to swallow, but in this world of sugar coated fungus, Tim’s words is and has always been a breath of fresh air. He was the big brother type, the educator, and I can remember saying to myself, I have A LOT to learn from this man and I wish I could be more like him. Jerry and Aztecan, I remember those pictures and I'm sure that Tim is looking at them and smiling as he did back then.
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My heart is broken :'( ....
I've been gone for awhile and hadn't talked to Tim on the phone for awhile and was going to send him a message... I did not expect to find this.
I love you Tim!! I have missed our talks and all the encouragement you gave me over the years to keep fighting. I pray your at peace now and no more pain!!
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For you Moffie: Two years ago today we lost a great friend, so today I will light a candle and raise a glass to a wonderful man, who is missed more and more as time goes by.
You are never far from my thoughts Tim, and you will be forever in my heart...I love you, you taught me so much and without you I don't think I would have got this far.
Tears will flow today but I will be smiling as I think of you and all the things we did together.
Sleep well.
Love always
Jan :'(
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I miss you so much, Tim. I miss your wisdom and your humour and lately, it's your wisdom I miss the most. I sure wish I could ring you up again and talk for hours like we used to. My partner needs some hiv-sense knocked into him and I know you'd have just the right words to help me accomplish that. You were a wonderful and wise friend and I miss you more than mere words could ever express.
I take some comfort knowing your spirit is soaring and flying through the universe, but how I wish you were still here on earth amongst us.
:rose: :rose: :rose: :rose: :rose: :rose:
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Love you,
Ann
xxx
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Thanks Jan and Ann for reminding us about old friend Tim. I miss him very much myself, we have lost so many good folks here. With work, my 90 year old mom and other issues I don't have as much free time these days. But it is kind of you to remember Tim. I remember walking fast to get to the CN tower in Toronto and Tim had difficulty keeping up. I remember partying in his hotel room in Montreal and the trip to Quebec city. He had physical issues but was the dean of our website here and so many of us owe a debt of gratitude to Tim. RIP Moffie dearest.
Jody :'(
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I can't believe it's been two year already. Not a day goes by, when I don't think of Tim. Somehow we connected on so many levels and he was one of the greatest people I have ever met. We could talk for hours and no matter how crappy he might be feeling, his warmth and energy always shone through. It's been a very long time, since I have lost someone as special as Tim.
As always, pray for whirled peas.
With love, respect and sorrow,
Joe
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Dear Tim, you are gone but NEVER forgotten. I can only hope, for all our sakes, that you are in a better place now.
He was a true warrior in the battle; yes, a General. 5 star....
Rest in peace, friend.
I send you a Kentucky Derby winner "blanket" of roses....
Alan
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I too had the pleasure of meeting him and Bob in Arizona.
I could finally teach HIM something instead vice versa.
He started to play Sudoko and never stopped to my knowledge...
Moffie, I miss you and I hope you are looking down on all of us. Kisses on all your openings sweetie...
xxxx Hermie