fingering to woman/swollen finger

[turismopas]

Dear Doctor

A days ago I had a sexual experience I am so worried. I'm a man, and I had a sexual encounter with an unknown 39 years old woman from the country El Salvador. I read about vih prevalence in this area and it's really high, like 1% of population could be infected.

When I asked her after sex she told me she tested from hiv few years ago when she was married and she was negative. The problem is her husband cheated her after that and had sex with other women in secret. So even if at that time she was negative, she probably had unsecure sex with her unfaithful husband.. After she broke up with him, she started to have casual sex with young guys like on tinder or so. All of this things seems to me to increase the risk.

Anyway the sexual actions was:

1.Penetration with protection. But I start to put my condom wrong so I have to turn it around. In the procces obviously I touched parts of the condom which are after that in direct contact to my pennis.

2. The really one which is tormenting me: I fingered her in a strong deep maybe violence way. I didn't have any apparent cuts in my fingers. However, after fingering her for a minutes, my finger looks like red and swollen. This state lasted for 5-6 days. I know that fingering in itself is not a really risky activity, but my question is why my finger look like infected for some external agent if I don't have apparent cuts. It looks like if the fluids entered between the nail and the skin (every one has a Little hole in this área). My worries are about if the hiv could stay in this inflamed área and taking advantage of the good conditions (protected from the air and warm) spread from the inflammation to the rest of the body. Are there more layers of the skin under the nail and the cuticles which protect me from the vih? What other explanation has the red swollen finger???

Please respond the two points. I am really fearful and really appreciated in advanced

Thanks so much Doctor

[Ptrk3]

We are not doctors, here, but a peer support group of HIV infected individuals.

Neither of your actions was a risk for HIV infection.

The HIV is a fragile virus and would not survive the first incident (turning the condom around), since exposure to oxygen would immediately disable the virus.

Fingering is not a risk for HIV infection, period. Little "holes" and cuticles are irrelevant.

I have no idea why your finger is swollen, but the reason has nothing to do with HIV exposure.

If your finger is infected (by something other than HIV) and continues to bother you, see a doctor for appropriate treatment.

[Andy Velez]

Turis, I have removed the thead you began in Estoy Infectado after you began this one.  Our rule is for members here to keep all their entries in the same thread.  This is the only thread you should be using. If you begin another thread elsewhere you are risking being banned from the site.

Jim has already responded to your concern.  You have no basis in HIV science to think you have had a risk for HIV.

If you symptoms of any sort you should discuss them with your doctor.  HIV is not the problem.