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Offline Sokratis

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having symptoms and afraid
« on: September 05, 2021, 11:14:00 am »
First of all i would like to thank everyone here  about your efforts and patience helping with your information so much people  , in the past i found the information i needed in this forum and I am sure you have helped and you will help a lot more people like me .

  Before 23 days I had protected sex with with a woman with unknown hiv status but this is not what makes me afraid, I perfomed cunningulus to her for 5-10 minutes and there were insertion of my tongue into the vagina,  I noticed later (although I didn t noticed blood while I perfomed to her ) there were everywhere pink stains on the sheet and she told me that she had still period  , also it was very early in the morning and i had dry mouth (so no saliva to interfere to hiv ) and I had washed my teeth 15-20 minutes before the cunningulus . I know that cunningulus as is mentioned here a lot is not a way to contract hiv but from this day some things made me start to be afraid because i am married and i don t want to infect  my wife with hiv (i know , for my choices  i must talk to the therapist and not here ).

the first thing that made me suspicious about the safety of what happened  is that she is very sexual active and  when we had sex she asked me persistenly to not use protection and i guess by this that she is used to unprotected sex and she must have done a lot unprotected sex so more risk for her to be hiv positive . At first I  calmed my self thinking that cunningulus is not a way to contract hiv even with mestrual blood present and I relaxed until 14 later later when  I started to feel very fatigued with aching tired legs for 5 days  and 16 days later I started to have also a discomfort and pain at the right side of my throat that last 4 days.
Again I calmed my self and I relaxed thinking that cunningulus is not a way of infection although i see everywhere in the medical sites in internet that there is a  low risk with cunningulus and the risk gets higher if there is menstrual blood, until today .
today is 24 after I had cunningulus and although i woke up feeling well suddenly during the day  I started to feel extreme fatigue , chills and aching muscles mostly at lower back and legs with fever and headache and lack of strength , I can t stand today.
immidiately all my fears came into my mind  and i need to ask.

1. is any chance at all even the slightest to have been infected by this act.

2. why in every medical site  cunningulus is low risk and this risk is raised by the presence of menstrual blood?

3. If i do the 4th generation test after 39-40 days (these days i can only do the test because I live far from the city and these days i will have the opportunity to do it ) of the exposure is 100% valid?



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Re: having symptoms and afraid
« Reply #1 on: September 05, 2021, 11:39:55 am »
Hiya,

1 & 2:

I read your post three times. Nothing you mentioned stood out as an HIV risk, move on with your life and continue to use condoms for intercourse.

BTW - She could have banged the entire village without a condom in sight and be HIV negative or only had sex once and be living with HIV. It doesn't matter, all that matters is your own activities & actions.

3: Yes, as you had no exposure from this event.

If you ever do have a real risk in the future test at 6 weeks post-exposure with a blood-drawn (lab) antibodies test, at that stage the result will rarely ever change.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your health care provider about taking PrEP going forward as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: having symptoms and afraid
« Reply #2 on: September 05, 2021, 11:41:55 am »
Oh and before you post again asking me questions that have already been asked, don't.

You did not acquire HIV from these activities (encounter) so by all means test if that gives you peace of mind but I warn you now a reactive result will not be a result of what you posted here.
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Re: having symptoms and afraid
« Reply #3 on: September 05, 2021, 11:50:27 am »
P.s

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i am married

I'll mention the same thing I do whenever anyone mentions being in a relationship. If you engage in condomless intercourse with your partner you are obviously at risk of acquiring HIV. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV, and any condomless intercourse is accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

Test more frequently for HIV & STI's if you do engage in any condomless intercourse.
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Re: having symptoms and afraid
« Reply #4 on: September 05, 2021, 11:57:12 am »
I only practice safe sex so the result if I do the test on 6 weeks will be negative , so my symptoms are due to some another virus.
I guess the medical sites mentioning oral sex as low risk are not based on documented cases but on a theoretical base.
thank you very much for your answers!  :)

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Re: having symptoms and afraid
« Reply #5 on: September 05, 2021, 11:59:06 am »
You're welcome and I hope you feel better soon.
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