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Author Topic: Drunk, TS escorts, HIV and PEP  (Read 660 times)

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Drunk, TS escorts, HIV and PEP
« on: August 25, 2021, 06:24:25 am »
Male, 30, USA. I got incredibly drunk recently, and hired, not just one, but two ts escorts, same night, two different locations.

The first one, essentially we did not do much of anything, and I lost a bunch of money, however, my memory is a bit fuzzy. I only remember me giving her oral, no cum. She didn't respond to my texts the following day about her HIV status, PrEP etc.

The second, I gave her oral, and I bottomed with a condom, she did not finish there. I finished her off with oral, but there was no or very little semen. She did respond to my texts, and said she was clean, frequently tested, uses protection.

The next day, I went and got on PEP and started it within 18 hours of the first encounter.

I have some problems, and this was a big wake up call for me. I drove drunk, hired escorts, and just acted completely out of character. I am going to quit drinking, and try to pick up some other outlets.

I am writing this to get this off my chest because I feel like I can't talk to anyone. I also am hoping to get maybe some insight on how likely you think it might be that I contract HIV from this debacle. I am nervous, but being a numbers guy, I have been reading a lot and it seems that receptive anal is the most risky sexual situation to get HIV at 1.43% unprotected per incident, assuming the HIV+ person is not in acute infection stage or 37% if they are. I read condoms on average reduce risk by 80% and that PEP when started within 72 hours and adhered to exactly as prescribed reduces chances of infection by 92%.

I guess, I am just scared, and I know none of this worry is helping me right now. I can't change the past. Please, any constructive advice, thoughts on how likely it is that I catch HIV, or kind words would be much appreciated. Have any of you gone on PEP before, how were the side effects? Also, if I do end up contracting HIV, any advice, or outlook on what life will look like from then on?

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Re: Drunk, TS escorts, HIV and PEP
« Reply #1 on: August 25, 2021, 06:45:07 am »
Hiya,

HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it is obvious and there is no reason to be stressing about intercourse as long as this obvious issue did not happen

Regarding giving a blowjob, the mouth simply lacks route (Cells to infect) for HIV, and even if there was damage to your mouth as in meth mouth or gaping open wounds creating a possible route then saliva & air also act to neutralize HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells.

All in all, giving a blowjob is such a minute concern with regards to HIV that we don't even recommend specifically testing over it. Just get tested whenever you are next normally due for a routine HIV screening.

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She did respond to my texts, and said she was clean, frequently tested, uses protection.

Glad to hear she had a shower, does not mean anything in regards to HIV risk.

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She didn't respond to my texts the following day about her HIV status, PrEP etc.

It's also not really relevant even if she had replied to you.

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my memory is a bit fuzzy
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I got incredibly drunk

This would be my only real concern. If you were that drunk that you can't clearly recall what happened then how am I supposed to know what activities you truly engaged in?

Anyhow, PEP is highly effective, finish the course and test. Test at 6 weeks post finishing PEP with a blood drawn (Lab) HIV antibodies test, this result would rarely ever change. If you want you can retest at 3 months for peace of mind.

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Have any of you gone on PEP before, how were the side effects?

People living with HIV with access to treatment take HIV meds daily for life. You are only going to take them for a short time as PEP and should not be expecting any issues asides from settling in.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and, the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Drunk, TS escorts, HIV and PEP
« Reply #2 on: August 25, 2021, 06:48:16 am »
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Please, any constructive advice

Stop googling and reading crap online, take your meds, test when due and in the meantime live your life as nomal.

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I am going to quit drinking

I wish you all the best.
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Re: Drunk, TS escorts, HIV and PEP
« Reply #3 on: August 28, 2021, 02:22:07 pm »
Thank you Jim for your replies, I really appreciate it. I will do my best to live my life normally and test when appropriate. I will continue the PEP protocol exactly, and I am working to end drinking altogether as well as remove other habits, and substitute healthier ones.

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Re: Drunk, TS escorts, HIV and PEP
« Reply #4 on: August 28, 2021, 06:20:04 pm »
You're welcome.
HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
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HIV Testing
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Read about PEP and PrEP here
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