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Off Topic Forums => Off Topic Forum => Topic started by: Alain on July 31, 2006, 11:43:44 am
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Oh Alain!
Forgive me but I can't help but laugh :D And forgive me for being un-PC, but your friend sounds like an overly sensitive fat cow. (did I just say that out loud?) If she couldn't be bothered to acknowledge your sincere apology, I wouldn't worry too much about losing her friendship. Some people just aren't worth the hassle, you know what I mean?
Aw, but it sounds like you could do with a hug. (((Alain)))
Ann
(who puts her foot in her mouth more times than she cares to think about!)
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Sometimes the less said...the better. An apology would be in order (Ann...I'm not suppose be laughing about this) and perhaps a bouquet of yellow roses. That's my suggestion.........Otherwise what else can you do.
Ann you are so bad............ ;D
Bad girl...bad :P
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At least you didn't say after hearing she wasn't expecting, "Damn You're Fat." You would have been in more hot water. :D
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I was so excited to see her and her new beau, that I just loudly expressed my happiness to the fact that she was pregnant.Well, SHE IS NOT and told me so in a very upsetting way. I was in shock and if I could fit , you know in those cracks in the cement slabs of a sidewalk, I would have been there in a New York minute.
The same thing happened to me about 8 years ago. For a minute I wished to drop dead but turned out ok as she actually laughed about it. It still making me feel bad when I think about it, and you just reminded it to me. We stayed in contact and now I keep my MOUTH shut when I'm in a situation like that...I won't say nothin' until they break the news to me. ::)
If she doesn't reply to you after the flowers & note then you can't do much. Everyone makes mistakes and if she can't forgive you for that..well...too bad for her. It's normal you feel bad about it but that's not the end of the world and hope she will go beyond that.
Regards,
The Canuck
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Alain,
I have the done the same thing...only I did it to a customer when I was working at a retail school supply store.
She had on sweats and walked around holding and rubbing her tummy like alot of pregnant women do. she was very slim except for her tummy pooch. When she was paying for her stuff she started rubbing her tummy and I asked her when she was due.
She looked at me and said I'm not pregnant I just had my appendix out. I about died. I apologized all over myself and she laughed and said that she had told her hubby that morning that she looked like she did when she was 4 months pregnant. Thank heavens she wasn't mad or upset.
I have never ever asked a woman when she was due again. They would have to be in hard labor before I asked them anything about being pregnant!
Teresa
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I feeel Your Pain,
Ive had some notable foot in mouth moments myself.
Youve done about all that can be expected, although if you really wanted to Twist The Knife, a followup card or Email with something like " I should have Known Better, at your age..." or possibly " It was just that cheap outfit you had on" but You seem way too nice :-X
Lwood
who was never known for his smooth talk with the ladies anyway...
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Everyone puts their foot in their mouth at some point, including her. You did all that you should do, if she can't accept it, then I think you grew apart for a reason.
Don't feel to bad about it, mouth accidents happen!
Christine
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Gosh, that is so embarrassing! I think it happens to all of us. It definitely has happened to me.
You sent a card and flowers. That is all that's required. Forget about it and go on. It's just another lesson to put in the file cabinet. ;)
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FLOWERS? Are you out of your mind man.....
From the sounds of it, this woman needs a case of Twinkies! Or maybe a free membership to a gym!
Im sorry but I am in a funky mood today. She needs to get OVER it. It was an HONEST mistake.
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although if you really wanted to Twist The Knife, a followup card or Email with something like " I should have Known Better, at your age..."
oh L - you twisted and lovable banana-split! :D ;D :D
Alain - you certainly are sweet sending flowers
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That was funny, LOL!
There used to be this shop in town called The Chocolate Strawberry. They served all kinds of handmade truffles right there in the shop among other things. Almost everytime I went there I would get a glass of milk and a few of these chocolate truffles with this excellent orange filling. One day one of the ladies that owned and worked at the place asked me if I was pregnant. I guess it made me a little self conscious of the belly even though I really didn't have one. After she learned that I wasn't, I believe she apologized. I still went there after that. Those chocolates were soooooooooooooo good. Unfortunately, they closed their doors and I have never been able to find those kind of chocolate truffles again. :'(
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Just consider it a lesson learned - the HARD WAY.
I NEVER comment on someone that I think 'might be' pregnant.
Sounds like her wounded pride is affecting her better judgement about your friendship. Hopefully, she'll get over it.
Good luck!
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Alain,
Don't sweat the small stuff.... I did the exact same thing about two years ago, and got the same reaction. After listen to three minutes of hysterical shrieking from the woman in question. I pointed out that it was an honest mistake, and that I had meant no offense. It made no difference. So I finally told her that if she didn't want people thinking she was pregnant, perhaps she should get an abortion, ie; have liposuction and get rid of that enormous belly. It wasn't PC, but then again, the truth frequently isn't. Don't let it get you down Bro....
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I haven't done that one, but I once bumped into a friend that had been pregnant, and she was so large...well, I couldn't tell if she had given birth yet.
It was very uncomfortable. I didn't know whether to ask when she was due or ask about the new baby. So we just chatted about nothing for five minutes...and she offered no clues...so I said nothing.